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Blossom with Balance: The Pink Full Moon in Libra

The night skies are shifting as we approach April 1st, 2026. This month, the ethereal Pink Full Moon reaches its peak in the diplomatic, beauty-seeking, and harmonizing sign of Libra.

This is a potent moment of Action and Realignment. As the pink flowers of spring begin to push through the last of the winter frost, we are being asked to weigh our lives on the cosmic scales. The energy of this lunation is about shedding the dead petals of old cycles and allowing a more compassionate, balanced version of ourselves to bloom. Whether it’s recalibrating your relationships or finding the midpoint in your own internal duality, the Libra Pink Moon is your portal to harmony.

What is the Full Moon?

The Full Moon is the peak of the lunar cycle—the moment when the Moon is fully illuminated by the Sun’s light. This creates a powerful tug-of-war between the luminaries, pulling our hidden emotions and subconscious truths into the bright light of awareness.

Because we are composed of roughly 60% water, the same tides that move the oceans move the waters within us. The Full Moon is the time for Full Expression and Harvesting. If the New Moon was for planting seeds, the Full Moon is for doing the work to bring those dreams into reality. It is a time to bridge the gap between our inner desires and our physical actions.

The Pink Moon: Spring has Sprung

Named for the wild creeping phlox (Phlox subulata) that carpets the ground in pink during early spring, the Pink Moon represents the awakening of the Earth. While the moon itself remains its usual golden-white hue, its energetic frequency is one of Renewal and Sprouting.

This is the moon that truly announces that winter is a memory. It encourages us to find beauty in a constantly changing world. It is a time for Truth-seeking, Boundary-setting, and Energetic Maintenance.

Other Names for the April Moon:

  • Breaking Ice Moon
  • Boiling Sap Moon (Anishinaabe)
  • Egg Moon (Anglo-Saxon)
  • Peony Moon (Chinese)
  • Frog Moon (Cree)
  • Diamond Moon (South African)

Who is Libra? The Scales of Cosmic Justice

Libra is the seventh sign of the zodiac and the only one represented by an inanimate object: The Scales. Ruled by Venus, the planet of love and aesthetics, Libra is a cardinal air sign. This means it is an initiator—a sign of action—but its actions are driven by intellect, communication, and a deep-seated need for fairness.

Libra doesn’t just appreciate balance; it seeks out imbalance so it can fix it. When the Moon is in Libra, we feel a collective push toward cooperation, social grace, and the “dance” of give-and-take in our relationships.

The Libra Constellation

Historically, the Romans held Libra in high esteem, believing the Moon was in this sign when Rome was founded. They associated the scales with the goddesses Astraea or Lustitia, the deities of truth and justice. Unlike other signs that depict beasts, Libra represents the logic and law required to keep the multiverse in equilibrium.

Libra the sign of Fairness and Justice

Libra is an intellectual sign concerned with fairness, equality, and justice. Libra wants everyone in the world to be treated fairly, with dignity and respect, and to have equal rights and protections. No one is above anyone else on this planet for we all are one and from the same source, and Libras scales force you to remember that. Libra feels deep pain when looking down from the stars, to see all of the fighting and destruction in the world. They seek harmony and honesty, using their innate empathy as a driving force to seek justice for others. Libra craves for everyone to just get along living alongside each other in peach and harmony. They are willing to do anything and to make any compromise to get it, even at the cost of themselves at times.

Libra the sign of connection and relationships

Libra is ruled by Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and pleasure. During this full Moon, the energies of Libra will be magnified, inviting us to focus on creating balance in our relationships, and remembering the importance of the dance of give and take to maintain it. Libra’s essence is about fostering meaningful connections and harmony with all those around us. Libra does this by finding ways to unite opposites and achieve compromise through active and loving relationships. It’s also a time to envision healthy, supportive relationships that can honor our soul’s path while we honor others’ paths. It can be challenging to form partnerships where both people’s individual life paths are honored. We need partners who can walk with us while walking their own paths.

Magical Themes for the Libra Pink Moon

Every full Moon contains its own themes, which are related to the sign that it falls under. This time we experience the full moon under the harmonious, balanced, fair, loving, beautiful, peaceful, and justice seeking sign of the scales Libra. You are most likely to see themes focused on these topics to tip the scales of your life into a harmonious and empowered balance. The Libra full Moon is all about finding ways to reestablish balance that has been lost. Finding a sense of balance allows us to deal with life’s issues easier, and reminds you that we have the tools and ability to cope with any situation. It helps us to discover the peaceful neutral point from which clarity, common sense, and cooperation come from to create lasting and meaningful bonds with others around us. This is an energy we really need right now with the current political climate. Keep in mind that the full Moon relates to the continuation of your journey to manifest your desires and dreams. So, make sure your release work helps you make those happen. Let’s shine a light on some of the themes and energies of Libra more brightly below.

  • Harmony & Peace: Reestablishing the neutral point in your life where common sense and cooperation reside.
  • Justice & Equality: Standing up for what is fair, both in your personal life and the wider world.
  • Beauty & Aesthetics: Cultivating your inner and outer environment to reflect the harmony you seek.
  • Relational Healing: Weeding out wounds in your partnerships to allow a healthier love to bloom.
  • Duality: Embracing both the light and the dark as necessary parts of the whole.

What to be Cautious Of

The shadow of Libra is Conflict Avoidance. You might feel tempted to keep the peace at the cost of your own integrity. Be careful not to let others run over your boundaries just to avoid an uncomfortable conversation. Peace in your community is never worth the cost of your inner peace. Also, watch out for Indecision—the scales can tip back and forth so much that you end up stuck in place.

Libra full moon and duality

Since, I am a free witch every single energy I work with I look for the duality in that energy and how I can connect to it. First let’s talk about the duality of the full moon. The full moon itself is all about duality as it is another time of transformation, transition, and rebirth. During this time we are pushed into a liminal space that forces us to look at the things, people, and places that have been obstacles or holding us back. This can be a thing of beauty and hope as well as a thing of pain and darkness which forces us into duality. Second,  let’s talk about the duality of Libra. With Libra I feel the duality is pretty obvious since this energy is all about balance and equilibrium. Which means equal parts of two different things. When Libra sets things on the scales they are acknowledging the importance of both existing but, that finding balance between both is key. Libra reminds us that embracing duality and balance is the key; for everything is all connected.

Correspondences for the Libra Full Moon

First, what is a correspondence? A correspondence is an item or symbol that is meant to connect you to a specific energy thru it’s representation. It is seen also as an item to respect, honor, and venerate that energy as well whether it be a deity, an archetype energy , or the zodiac energy the moon is currently in like for Libra, I will list below for you to use. Remember to follow your intuition with the correspondences you choose to work with and that you can always use any that correspond to the moon itself as well.

  • planet-Venus
  • Element-Air
  • Sex- Masculine
  • animal- snakes, lizards, owl, butterfly
  • Modality-cardinal
  • Symbol- The scales
  • colors- green, pink, blue, lavender
  • Phrase/motto- I balance
  • Chakra-Heart chakra
  • Herbs-Catnip, Lady’s mantle, Elderberry, Thyme, Bergamot (bee balm), Astragalus, Ginger, Curcumin, yarrow, burdock, roses, lavender, geranium, mint
  • Stones/ crystals-moonstone, opal, rose quartz, amethyst, lapis lazuli, opal, aventurine, citrine, jade, black tourmaline, smokey quartz, ametrine, tigers eye, rhondanite
  • deities-Eris, Harmonia/Concordia,Dike, Themis, Hera, Juno, Ishtar, Freyja, Persephone, Frigg, Forsetti the god Xolotl, Astraea, Lustitia, venus, aphrodite, Saraswati, Hephaestus (Vulcan), eros, psyche, Nyx,Shamash, Athena, Minerva
  • Themes- communication, loving, caring, charming, social, balanced, harmonious, fair, justice seeking, peaceful, beauty, diplomatic, collaboration, kindness
  • tarot-the justice card and the empress

How to connect to the Pink moon in Libra

Now, that we have talked about the themes of this Pink Libra full moon and how it is going to affect you let’s talk about how you can specifically connect to and work with this moon. In magical practices, under a Libra full moon we can focus our spells on things like balancing the scales of your life, seek to rectify an injustice, release toxic patterns in your relationships, and serving your community.

First, make sure to do all of your staples that your learned in the previous blog post on the full moon and the moon in general like, charging your crystals, making moon water, and resetting your altar. Make sure to make moon water this lunar cycle. Moon water is great for release work and can be used to release the emotions we have holding us back from going with the flow of life. We can release the damn of control and unlock new ways to nourish ourselves and those around us. Plus don’t forget to prep for your full moon hangover with my guide here.

With this Libra energy there are certain spells and rituals that will help connect you this moon in the most effective way. It’s a wonderful time for spells focused on balancing your life, releasing broken patterns, standing up for yourself, fighting injustice, creating new growth, cultivating your inner sense of beauty, and communication.  During a Libra full moon, which embodies balance, harmony, and relationships, consider spells focused on reconciliation, self-love, and setting healthy boundaries, or those that promote beauty and artistic expression. Remember these are just some of the many ideas. Follow your intuition and the energy of this moon. Below is a more extensive list of ideas on how to connect to and work with pink full moon Libra.

  • Create a flower crown
  • Make dandelion oil
  • Decorate your home with flowers especially dandelions or pink flowers like phlox
  • Burn Bay leaves with things you would like to release on them
  • Use flowers to dye eggs or fabric like dandelions
  • Create a love spell jar with herbs like rose petals and lavender
  • Use seed magic in your garden
  • As a self care ritual write yourself a love letter to open later at a time when you need it
  • Do some planting magic for manifestation
  • Practice breathwork
  • reflection work with mirror magic
  • End a relationship that no longer is serving you or break unhealthy patterns in a relationship
  • Take legal action to stand up for yourself in a situation where it is needed
  • Make a simmer pot– for balance, justice, loving relationships
  • Plan a protest or community event for a cause you hold dear to you heart
  • Perform spells or rituals to get justice for yourself or others
  • clean and cleanse your physical space use incense or other forms of smoke cleansing to connect to the element of air
  • Meditation and Visualization with the  scales
  • Channel your creativity
  • Do things that remind yourself that you are a sensual and sexual being oozing with divine beauty
  • Find a way to either meet with someone or communicate to settle any disputes you may have
  • Make a pros and cons list about a decision your have been wrestling with and finally make your decision
  • Speak up for something you believe is right
  • Energy work to balance your heart chakra
  • Spend time with your family and those close to you
  • Nurture others around you
  • Ask for things you need to feel supported in your life
  • read books, listen to podcasts, and watch videos from teachers to understand duality and its role in the multiverse and your life
  • take a ritual cleansing salt bath
  • set boundaries with others in your life
  • Use a “no affirmation” by practicing saying no to others
  • Journal to release people pleasing
  • Write love letters to others and either send them to them in the mail or deliver them in person
  • slow down and look for others perspectives in every situation and see where you might need to compromise
  • call on deities of Justice like Eris
  • take a look at your daily habits and schedule really ask where you are putting your energy and time the most. and rebalance it where you see it needs to be.
  • Cast a spell for personal growth
  • elemental magic with the element Air
  • Prep for Beltane
  • Connect to the energy and magic of April
  • Cast communication spells
  • Write a list of things you have been holding back on saying to someone with in your life and than have the courage to go and give it to them
  • Create increased intimacy and understanding in your romantic relationships by adding sex magic to your life
  • Practice gratitude to those whom support you
  • Cast a love spell or attraction spell to attract a new partner for a relationship
  • Use eggs in abundance spells and magic
  •  Start any business dealings and sign any legal contracts
  • Communicate how to bring into your relationship and create a balance of give and take
  • Do self care that makes you feel beautiful and comfortable in your own skin
  • Practice lunar magic
  • Beauty and Attractiveness Spell or cast a glamor
  • Shadow work– Do shadow work to balance your life, right an injustice, and realign relationships. If you would like to learn more about shadow work you can purchase my eBook here; . If you would like to learn more about shadow work you can purchase my eBook here;  you can book me for a 1:1 session as your guide here; and you can watch my free class previously taught on it through DiviNation here.

Reflection topics and questions for the Pink moon in Libra

This Libra full moon you will feel the need to adjust and tip the scales of your life. While you do this, consider what provides a sense of stability and what brings stress or chaos. This can help you make better decisions about where to put your energy. If you want to take the time to weigh each area of your life with Libras scales to gain peace and harmony, shadow work is a great way to do this. Whether you do it thru meditation, actual shadow work, or just journaling while in reflection; below is a list of prompts and topics to connect with the energy of the Libra full moon.  If you would like to learn more about shadow work you can purchase my eBook here;  you can book me for a 1:1 session as your guide here; and you can watch my free class previously taught on it through DiviNation here.

  • Where in my life am I giving too much and receiving too little?
  • Am I avoiding a necessary confrontation just to keep a fake sense of peace?
  • What negative self-talk is blocking me from forming healthy, supportive connections?
  • If I looked at my current biggest challenge from a completely neutral perspective, what would I see?
  • How can I better honor my Inner Maiden and my Inner Healer simultaneously?

The Spell of the Pink Hearth: A Mirror Ritual for Self-Sovereignty

While our previous rituals have focused on the outward release of bay leaves and fire, this year we are turning our gaze inward to the sacred architecture of the self. Because Libra is governed by Venus—the cosmic mistress of reflection, beauty, and truth—we are moving away from external burning and stepping into the potent realm of Mirror Magic. In the ancient traditions, the mirror is not a tool for vanity, but a portal to the soul and a Reflection of Truth that cannot be deceived. By working with your own image under the April Pink Moon, you are learning to balance your internal scales, reconciling the person you show the world with the divine being who lives within. This ritual is designed to help you stop looking for validation in the eyes of others and instead find the steady, harmonious equilibrium that only comes when you truly see yourself for the first time.

What you will need:

  • A handheld or standing mirror.
  • One Pink candle (for love/self-compassion) and one Blue candle (for peace/clear communication).
  • A piece of Rose Quartz or an Opal.
  • A small dish of salt.

How to cast this spell:

  1. Set the Scales: Place your mirror in the center of your workspace. Put the Pink candle on the right side and the Blue candle on the left, creating a visual representation of your own internal scales.
  2. Ground the Energy: Slowly sprinkle a small circle of salt around the base of the candles and the mirror. This acts as a boundary of protection, ensuring that the Sacred Reflection remains clear of any outside projections or negativity.
  3. The Invocation: Light your candles—pink first, then blue. Speak these words with steady intent: “Venus above, Scales in hand, bring the balance I demand. Pink for love, blue for peace, let all inner discord cease.”
  4. The Mirror Work: Look directly into your own eyes in the mirror. Breathe through the initial discomfort. Hold the Rose Quartz to your heart. Instead of looking for flaws or signs of aging, look past the physical to find the Divine Architect within. See the spark in your eyes as the same light that illuminates the moon.
  5. The Balancing: Speak these words directly to your reflection: “I am the light, I am the dark. I am the silence, I am the spark. I weigh my heart and find it light; I claim my power, I claim my right.”
  6. The Anchor: Leave the candles to burn down safely in their holders. Carry the Rose Quartz or Opal with you for the next 14 days (until the New Moon) to act as a physical reminder to keep your internal scales steady and your self-talk compassionate.

Final Thoughts

As the soft, ethereal light of the Pink Full Moon in Libra illuminates the world on April 1st, take a moment to realize that balance isn’t a final destination you reach—it is a daily, living practice. You are a vast and beautiful ecosystem, constantly shifting, blooming, and shedding as the seasons of your soul change. Just as the phlox flowers don’t apologize for their color, you must stop apologizing for your unique path. Trust the weight of the scales and trust the rhythmic beating of your own heart. The arrival of spring is the universe’s way of reminding you that you have the inherent right to grow, the right to be seen in your full radiance, and the divine right to be at peace with every part of your story.

The frost is melting and the world is turning to color. Will you keep hiding in the winter’s grey, or is it finally time to bloom in pink?

I am Kayreign, the Keeper of Mysteries, a solitary free witch with over 15 years of experience walking the sacred paths of the unseen. As a mystic and relentless seeker of all knowledge, I weave together the threads of every magical tradition—light and dark, ancient and modern—to uncover the universal truths that bind us to the cosmos. My mission is to restore and re-enchant magic in this realm, igniting its spark in every soul I encounter, and guiding you to embrace the full spectrum of your being.

My work is rooted in the power of duality, honoring the dance between shadow and light as equal partners in your spiritual journey. I hold space for you to explore all magic paths and practices, drawing from the vast tapestry of mystical wisdom to help you uncover your unique magic and sacred contracts. As the Divine Oracle of the Gods, I channel divine insights to illuminate your path; as the Keeper of Mysteries, I guide you into the depths of the unknown, where true transformation awaits.

When you work with me, you’ll learn to live in energetic balance, embracing your darkness as a source of power, not just a stepping stone to the light. I’ll hold up a mirror to reflect your authentic self—unmasked, raw, and whole—inviting you to face your past wounds, traumas, and hurts with courage. Together, we’ll alchemize every chapter of your story, dark and light, into a blazing internal flame that lights your way on even the coldest nights. Through this process, you’ll find alignment with your purpose, release what holds you back, and step fully into your power.

Come join me for community, knowledge, and to restore the enchantment of magic in yourself and life today!

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Take control of your self worth; 7 day challenge to redefine and boost your self worth

We spend so much of our time and lives seeking validation from outside sources. When validation is the most powerful coming from within. It allows us to step into our own power and build our feelings of self worth, self love, and confidence. Self worth and how we feel about ourselves will affect every area of our lives from how we show up for others, how we manifest, and the power of our magic. The importance of looking inward for approval and validation can’t be overstated when it comes to building an intentional life that is meaningful and fulfilling to you. So stop outsourcing your happiness and give this responsibility to the only person who is truly equipped for the job. YOU! Take control of your feelings of worthiness, love and confidence back into your own hands by using this 7 day challenge.

Before we get into the different ways to work on your self-worth, I want to share that I am not a therapist, but I am sharing the work I have personally done when going through cognitive behavioral therapy and Dialectical behavior therapy. These are the tools I’ve used that have helped me work on my own self-worth. Something I have struggled with quite a lot over the years and still sometimes do. Because, I am intimately aware, that many of us are broken people with broken parents from broken homes in a broken world. Trying to make something beautiful and move from a place of just surviving to thriving and being whole. We’re thrust into life without many of the tools for living, and it’s not that those tools don’t exist, but we just don’t have the time, energy, or means always to get access to them. Allow this 7 day challenge to help you bridge the gap and do just that.

What is self worth?

Self-worth is the belief that you are loveable and valuable regardless of how you evaluate your traits. Self-worth is often confused with self-esteem, which relies on external factors such as successes and achievements to define worth and can often be inconsistent leading to someone struggling with feeling worthy. When you think about it, your self-esteem could hit rock bottom, yet you still hold onto the notion that you have innate worth. Self-worth is at the core of our very selves—our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are intimately tied into how we view our worthiness and value as human beings. Self- worth really is a gauge of how much you value, love, and respect yourself.

People with healthy self-worth tend to have greater self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-love. People with high self-worth carry with them a sense of confidence that they will be all right and manage whatever comes their way. They have the ability to live with purpose, intention, and it is much easier to manage their logic and emotions to stay in wise mind. While they are aware of areas in which they can improve, they don’t let their shortcomings or weaknesses define their identity. They are not afraid to pursue opportunities and have reasonable faith in their ability to deliver while pursing their wildest dreams.

What is Self-Validation?

Self-validation involves acknowledging and accepting your strengths, achievements, positive attributes, and emotions. It also involves knowing that having imperfections and making mistakes does not take away from your worth or value. We cant rely on others to make us feel good. When we do, we allow others to dictate our worth. And we don’t trust our own thoughts, feelings, and judgments; we assume others know more than we do and their opinions matter more. Instead, we need to learn how to validate ourselves. Self-validation is a distinctive DBT skill that focuses on accepting the emotions you are experiencing. If you have trouble regulating your emotions, then you probably have a hard time accepting them in the first place as well. Learning to self-validate your emotions will help you cope with the overwhelming emotions we may have, while also allowing you to build up self worth.

Steps for validating yourself

  • Notice how you feel and what you need.
  • Accept your feelings and needs without judgment.
  • Don’t over-identify with your feelings. We want to accept our feelings and also remember that they don’t define us. Notice the subtle, but important, difference when you say I feel angry vs. I am angry or I feel jealous vs. I am jealous. Our feelings are temporary they come and go.
  • Remember, practice is an important part of learning self-validation!

Make sure your self validation looks like:

  • Encouraging yourself
  • Acknowledging your strengths, successes, progress, and effort
  • Noticing and accepting your feelings
  • Prioritizing your needs
  • Treating yourself with kindness
  • Saying nice things to yourself
  • Accepting your limitations, flaws, and mistakes

7 day challenge to redefine and boost your self worth

There are things you can do to boost your sense of self-worth and ensure that you value yourself like you ought to be valued; as a full, complete, and wonderful human being that is deserving of love and respect, no matter what. Take control of your feelings of worthiness, love and confidence back into your own hands by using this 7 day challenge to help assess, redefine, and boost your self worth.

1.Become aware
The very best thing you can do for yourself is to learn how to become more aware of your thoughts and how they affect your feelings. Our thoughts are incredibly powerful and how we decide to see an event or situation becomes our reality. This is the first step in learning how to validate yourself. You want to start the process of recognizing your thoughts, so you can stop the negativity and reframe how you see a situation, person, or event. Reframing or looking at something differently is what you are doing when you validate yourself. You are asking yourself to stop mentally beating yourself up and start appreciating the things you do well. You are recognizing the ways you are growing as a person and giving yourself the kindness you deserve.

How you can do this today, is by taking a sheet of paper and at the very top writing ” Times I invalidated myself today”. Now, throughout the day keep this paper always by your side and make a tally for each time you invalidate yourself whether out loud or in your mind. If you notice a certain thought pattern, emotion, or phrase coming up repeatedly take note of what it is on the page. Than at the end of the day sit with this page and look at how many times you tore yourself down when you could have built yourself up instead. Give yourself the warmest and most compassionate hug apologizing for forcing your mind to be fixated in place of judgement, pain, and despair. Let yourself know you understand why they may have lashed out or reacted in pain during the day. Than make yourself a promise that you will be more aware of what you think, believe and say to yourself each and every day. Starting by showing up for day two of this challenge tomorrow.

2. Accept that you need acceptance
The next step to building up our self worth through validation, is radically accepting that no matter how much we think we don’t care, we all need to feel accepted and loved. I don’t care who you are, where you are from, or how resilient you think you are. Being accepted and feeling like you belong is incredibly powerful and something we all long for. Essentially, it’s part of our DNA being something we are searching for from the moment of our births. We have to be accepted in order to survive. we need to be accepted and cared for by the people around us. At the same time, we must recognize we won’t always get that acceptance in the way we need it or the way we want it. Which means it’s on each of us to love and accept ourselves. To be the ones that can truly fulfill that need no matter where we end up or how alone we are. In order to start the process of validating yourself, you have to start the process of loving and accepting yourself wholly without judgement. That means all parts of yourself, including your thoughts, emotions, actions, opinions, and values.

How you can do this today, is by spending some time doing some brain dumping and journaling focusing on your strengths and weaknesses. This allows you to spend some time with really getting to look at each part of yourself. When you do this you are able to than validate each part of yourself by reframing your thinking and looking at it from another perspective. Seeing how those things you view as weaknesses have actually been hidden gems of resilience and pieces that make us who we are. So, those things that you have listed in the weaknesses column will be moved to the strength column with acceptance, validation, and love.

3. Do the inner work to assess how you currently view your worth

One of the most crucial steps to working on your self worth, is doing the hard and intentional work of assessing how you actually value yourself right now and what you view is your self worth. Depending on where you are at on your journey of healing, self discovery, and inner work this may be a really uncomfortable day for you. This is when you sit down alone, in a quiet, calm and sacred container where you can go deep within your heart. To really ask yourself how much do you value yourself, what is your worth, and why is it at the place it is at?

How you can do this today, is by doing some shadow work. Self discovery is the ultimate goal of shadow work and shadow work prompts are an ideal way to get to the root of your shadow. You can choose different parts of yourself and your shadow to work with each time you delve into the darkness of your soul with shadow work. So, take some time today to use the prompts below to really assess how you truly value yourself. Doing so will allow you to know how much reframing around your self worth may need to happen and provide you with a path to take to boost it to be as high as it can be.

If you would like guided 1:1 help with this you can book me for private shadow sessions in the shop!

4. Don’t Listen to all of your thoughts
The next step to building up our self worth through validation, is understanding that you don’t need to listen to every single one of your thoughts. A common expression I heard throughout DBT that stuck with me was, “Just because you have a thought, it doesn’t make it true.” We have 30,000 to 50,000 thoughts a day and research has shown that about 80% of our thoughts are either regrets from the past or fears about the future. Making a huge chunk of our thoughts based not in facts but simply assumptions and emotions. Which means our thoughts aren’t always completely reliable or truthful.

When you validate yourself, you’re asking yourself, “What else can be true?” The act of validation is about looking at a situation and thinking, “OK, this didn’t go as planned. I made a mistake and now I have to decide how I’m going to think about this situation to radically accept and move on.” In that moment, you can beat yourself up and break yourself down or you can challenge your thoughts and decide to ask yourself, “What else can be true?” “What else can I see or learn?” ” What am I responding to emotions, assumptions, or facts?”

How you can do this today is, by taking the time to mindfully sit with a situation you’ve recently reacted to in a way of anger, pain, or hurt. Look back on the situation and think about it from a perspective you may have missed in those moments by checking the facts. Doing this allows you to identify what was emotion and what was fact you were reacting you to. Giving you the ability to validate your reactions while also looking for the places where you can change how you reacted.

5. Speak words of validation to yourself out loud

When was the last time you validated yourself? I am referring to positively recognizing your thoughts, emotions or actions. When was the last time you took a moment to stop the negative chatter in your mind? Stop waiting to hear the positive words, praise or encouragement you’re craving. Tell it to yourself because you’re the only person you have complete control over.

How you can do this today, is by literally revamping your self talk and speaking words of validation out loud to yourself. You can do this anywhere you would like and whenever you would like. I find it the most helpful for myself to speak words of validation out loud to myself in the morning when I wake, when I go to bed, and than anytime throughout the day when I catch myself speaking to myself in an unkind way. I’ll even do it before a big conversation, event, or social outing.

6. Stop people pleasing and set boundaries

We are so conditioned to believe that our value is tied up in what we give instead of who we are. Many of us like myself are taught, self-worth is all about whether or not you are making someone else happy, by doing them a service or giving them things they want. This is what determines whether you’re good enough, you matter, and deserve to be loved. But, after living most of my life as a chronic people pleaser, turning that need into anxiety so extreme it became OCD. I have learned that finding your value in other people will always leave you feeling less than what your true worth is really meant to be.

How you can do this today, is by setting boundaries for yourself or saying no to something today. It’s okay to say no, to set boundaries, it doesn’t make you a selfish or bad person. You’re allowed to give what you receive. You’re allowed to form relationships where it’s give-give instead of give-take. You are allowed to say no. You are allowed to say “I can’t right now.” and most shocking of all; you are allowed to form the opinion that some people do not deserve your help

You do not have to give and give until there’s nothing left. Seek the people who fill you up, who reciprocate what you give, and who respect the boundaries that you make. Take all of that endless love and compassion and time and money that you are always giving other people, and turn a little bit toward yourself. See how good that feels. Don’t chase that feeling of worthiness from other people when you are so capable of filling yourself up and finding others who will appreciate you and respect your boundaries.

7.Determine your definition of self worth

Self-worth is a subjective concept that can fluctuate based on many variables, says Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and professor at Yeshiva University. Which means it’s important for us to determine how we ourselves define our own self worth. According to Dr. Romanoff, these are some of the factors that may influence self-worth:

Core beliefs and values
Thoughts and feelings
Emotions and mental well-being
Experiences and interactions with others
Relationships, both past and present
Health and physical fitness
Career and profession
Activities and hobbies
Community and social status
Financial position
Physical appearance
Childhood experiences

How you can do this today, is by taking the time to sit and mindfully reflect and honestly answer what factors are you using to determine your self worth? Then take the next step to release and let go of things that you are misplacing your value in like what others think of you, the amount of money you have, or your physical appearance.

Wrap Up

It’s important to have self-worth because it impacts everything you do from your relationships, to how you work, how you feel about yourself, and how others view you. Remember, self-worth, is based on your strengths, flaws, and who you truly are at your core when accomplishments, possessions, and acquisitions are stripped away. While it’s fantastic to be proud of your accomplishments and good to be aware of how others perceive you, a sense of self-worth is a vital part of a healthy and thriving existence. Your inherent value as a person does not stem from your accomplishments or what others think of you Ultimately remember You are the only one who determines your self-worth. If you believe you are worthy and valuable, you are worthy and valuable. Even if you don’t believe you are worthy and valuable, guess what—you still are worthy and valuable!