At Modgepodgemystic.com and within the Mystic Mysteries, we weave magic into the everyday, embracing the sacred in all its shadows and light. Today, as Mental Health Awareness Month unfolds, I’m opening my heart to share a raw, personal reflection on living with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). This is more than a diagnosis—it’s a dance with anxiety, a testament to resilience, and a journey of reclaiming control. My hope is to illuminate what OCD feels like, dispel misconceptions, and honor the strength it’s taught me, especially as we approach Mother’s Day, a time that stirs deep emotions for many of us. Let’s step into this cauldron of awareness together.
The Architect’s Gift: A Strength Woven in Order
Living with OCD is like being an architect of my own soul, crafting order from the chaos that threatens to unravel me. The disorder manifests in compulsions—counting steps with precision, checking locks until my fingers ache, ensuring everything has its proper place, and the relentless need to clean my space until it’s tidy, organized, and pristine. These rituals offer a fleeting sense of control, a high where the world feels safe and predictable, like a spell cast to ward off disaster. This structure has become a strength, a tool I’ve learned to wield with intention, grounding me when life’s storms rage.
This gift of order allows me to see patterns others might miss, a mystical lens that turns chaos into a canvas of meaning. One alter might revel in the rhythm of sweeping the floor, transforming it into a meditative chant, while another finds solace in aligning objects with the precision of a sacred grid. It’s a resilience born from necessity, honed by years of navigating an inner world that demands perfection, and it deepens my connection to the earth’s own rhythms—like the lessons I’ve felt sitting on a river tree’s roots.
The Shadows: Struggles of Exhaustion and Panic
Yet this gift casts long shadows. The downs are a spiral of panic when chaos creeps in—a sock misplaced, a door unchecked—and my body and mind scream that catastrophe looms. The exhaustion is bone-deep, a weight that never lets me truly sit and be present. I’m trapped in a cycle of cleaning and ordering, leaving me drained, my spirit yearning for rest it can’t find. After my son was born, this intensified, the need for control surging as I feared for his safety, turning every spill into a threat, every untidy corner into a battleground. The compulsions grew fiercer, a shield against the vulnerability of motherhood.
OCD was one of the last disorders I was diagnosed with, a shock that hit hard. Media paints it as a germ-obsessed stereotype, so I didn’t recognize myself in it. But OCD is an anxiety that births compulsions to relieve it—mine manifest as cleaning and order, rooted in years of my mother using these acts as control, abuse, and punishment. I still carry the memory of my nose breaking after she chased me down stairs into a closet for not folding socks fast enough—a wound that shaped my need for perfection. This trauma etched a belief that disorder invites disaster, a belief I’m still unraveling.
The Quiet Rituals: A Subtle Unraveling
Discovering my OCD was a slow awakening, not a sudden revelation. It hid beneath the surface, masked by my other struggles, until a therapist named it. The rituals weren’t always dramatic—sometimes just a twitch of counting under my breath or a compulsive glance at the lock. If you didn’t live with me, you might miss the shift, the way my hands move to straighten a pillow or my eyes scan for dust. It took time, introspection, and the gentle nudge of loved ones to see it for what it was—a silent spell cast by anxiety.
This subtlety makes it hard to explain, especially when the world expects OCD to look like hand-washing marathons. But it’s real, a quiet storm that demands respect, and understanding it has been a journey of peeling back layers to meet the anxiety beneath.
Embracing the Magic of Order
Living with OCD is a sacred pilgrimage. The compulsions, once tyrants, are now threads in the tapestry of who I am, and learning to honor them with compassion is an act of self-love. I’m not broken; I’m a weaver of structure, turning anxiety into a tool for growth. Through DBT, I’ve learned to pause, to breathe into the panic, to use mindfulness to observe without obeying every urge. A ritual of sitting by a forest stream [from your nature post] helps me release the need for control, letting nature’s chaos soothe my soul.
To those reading, I invite you to see OCD not as a flaw, but as a unique magic—a strength in disguise. Ask questions, listen with an open heart, and meet this part of me with curiosity. If you walk this path too, know your order is a power, a gift to wield with grace.
Six DBT Skills to Support Yourself if You Suspect You Have OCD
If you’re beginning to suspect OCD, the journey of understanding can feel both sacred and overwhelming. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers tools to ground, regulate, and approach your compulsions with kindness. These six DBT skills, infused with gentle magic, can guide you (Note: Seek a professional diagnosis and therapy for clarity and care)
1. Mindfulness: Observe Without Judgment
Notice your urges to count or clean without acting on them. Sit quietly, like by a river’s edge, and breathe, asking, “What am I feeling?” Journal the thoughts to track patterns, building awareness without fear.
2. Distress Tolerance: TIPP Skill
When panic spikes, use TIPP (Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, Progressive relaxation). Splash cold water on your face or stretch to ground yourself, connecting to earth’s stability.
3. Emotion Regulation: Opposite Action
If anxiety pushes you to check locks again, choose to walk away instead. This shifts the energy, countering the compulsion’s grip.
4. Interpersonal Effectiveness: DEAR MAN
Share your struggles with loved ones using DEAR MAN (Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate). Say, “I need help with my checking—can you support me by not asking me to redo it?”
5. Wise Mind: Balance Emotion and Logic
Blend your fear (e.g., “Chaos will hurt me”) with reason (e.g., “I’m safe now”). Journal, “What does my wise self need?” to find peace amidst the urge.
6. Self-Soothing: Create a Comfort Kit
Build a kit with a smooth stone, lavender scent, or soft fabric. When compulsions rise, use these to calm your senses, inviting clarity like a forest meditation.
These are seeds of self-compassion—nurture them daily with a therapist’s guidance
Supporting Someone You Think May Have OCD: Tips for Loved Ones
If you suspect a loved one has OCD, your support can be a lantern in their dark. Here are five tips, rooted in Cauldron Clarity’s ( weekly event inside The Mystic Mysteries ) open spirit:
1. Approach with Curiosity, Not Judgment
Ask gently, “I’ve noticed you check things a lot—can you tell me about it?” Avoid dismissing it as “quirky,” honoring its depth.
2. Be Patient with Rituals
If they need to reorder or clean, wait without rushing them. Offer, “Take your time—I’m here,” building trust.
3. Learn Their Triggers
If they share what sparks compulsions (e.g., a messy space), note it. Say, “I’ll help keep things tidy—let me know what works,” showing respect.
4. Create a Calm Environment
Reduce clutter or noise to ease their anxiety. Suggest, “Let’s sit by the window for peace,” echoing nature’s grounding.
5. Encourage Professional Help Without Pressure
Frame it as care: “A therapist might offer tools for this—want me to look into one?” Support their pace, like guiding a spell’s flow.
Your love can be a shield—educate yourself via resources like the International OCD Foundation (iocdf.org) and stay present.
My OCD Journey: From Tyranny to Transformation
My life has been a tapestry of trauma, with OCD as one of its latest threads, diagnosed after years of battling other storms. It shocked me—media’s germ-obsessed image didn’t fit, but the truth hit hard: OCD is anxiety driving compulsions, mine born from my mother’s abuse. Her cleaning as punishment, like the broken nose from a sock-folding chase, wired me to fear chaos. After my son’s birth, it worsened, my need for control a fortress against vulnerability. The exhaustion was relentless, stealing presence, until DBT became my guide.
Through mindfulness and opposite action, I’ve turned OCD into an ally. The ups—control, structure—now fuel my magic, like crafting orderly spells, while the downs—panic, fatigue—teach me surrender. This shift deepens my empathy, connecting me to others’ struggles, a truth that our shadows are part of our power.
Acknowledging the Ongoing Journey
Healing is a spiral, not a straight line. OCD ebbs and flows, some days demanding rituals, others offering peace. I falter, but I ride the waves with DBT, using nature’s chaos to soothe my need for order. This acceptance transforms the struggle into a dance with my shadow—a lifelong spell cast with love.
Expanding on Mental Illness This Month
This month, we’ll explore OCD, alongside Bipolar II, BPD, BED, and DID, sharing stories, DBT skills, and magical practices. Each week, I’ll dive into one illness, offering insights and community space. Join me on this path—your voice matters.
Final Thoughts
As Mental Health Awareness Month blooms, let’s honor our minds—order and chaos alike. This is a cauldron of possibility, where awareness fuels empowerment. Dive deeper with Cauldron Clarity on Patreon, and explore the Embrace Your Shadow Self program starting June 7—details at Modgepodgemystic.com. Let’s weave this magic together.
I am Kayreign, the Divine Oracle of the Gods and Keeper of Mysteries, a solitary grey magic practitioner with over 15 years of experience walking the sacred paths of the unseen. As a mystic and relentless seeker of all knowledge, I weave together the threads of every magical tradition—light and dark, ancient and modern—to uncover the universal truths that bind us to the cosmos. My mission is to restore and re-enchant magic in this realm, igniting its spark in every soul I encounter, and guiding you to embrace the full spectrum of your being.
My work is rooted in the power of duality, honoring the dance between shadow and light as equal partners in your spiritual journey. I hold space for you to explore all magic paths and practices, drawing from the vast tapestry of mystical wisdom to help you uncover your unique magic and sacred contracts. As the Divine Oracle of the Gods, I channel divine insights to illuminate your path; as the Keeper of Mysteries, I guide you into the depths of the unknown, where true transformation awaits.
When you work with me, you’ll learn to live in energetic balance, embracing your darkness as a source of power, not just a stepping stone to the light. I’ll hold up a mirror to reflect your authentic self—unmasked, raw, and whole—inviting you to face your past wounds, traumas, and hurts with courage. Together, we’ll alchemize every chapter of your story, dark and light, into a blazing internal flame that lights your way on even the coldest nights. Through this process, you’ll find alignment with your purpose, release what holds you back, and step fully into your power.
Come join me for community, knowledge, and to restore the enchantment of magic in yourself and life today!
Explore my offerings—personalized shadow work sessions, womb healing, eBooks for self-guided growth, Tarot readings for divine guidance, and more—in my shop. Let’s journey together into the mysteries, where duality becomes your greatest ally, and magic becomes your birthright.
This month’s full moon illuminates the skies on May 12th, 2025, immersing us in the deep, transformative energy of Scorpio as the Flower Moon blooms. The energy of this Flower Full Moon is one of intensity, rebirth, and emotional unveiling, encouraging us to plunge into our inner depths while honoring the blossoming abundance of May. As the Flower Moon glows, we’ll feel a surge of passion, a call to confront hidden truths, and an invitation to shed old skins like the scorpion, ready to embrace a journey of profound renewal. In the days and weeks following this Full Moon, we may find ourselves releasing buried emotions and rising empowered. Join me in this blog post as we dive into transformation under the Flower Full Moon in Scorpio!
First, What is the Full Moon?
Over the centuries, the Moon has played a significant role in different cultures and traditions. The full moon is when the moon is completely illuminated in the sky, reaching its peak in the lunar cycle. When the moon is fully illuminated, it’s a time for all to reach full expression—a potent moment of power in the lunar cycle.
A full moon occurs when the transit (moving) Sun and Moon are in exact opposite positions in the Zodiac (called an opposition). This alignment affects us deeply, as we’re made up of 60% or more water, and the full moon’s pull stirs our inner tides. Full Moons are the peak point of the lunar cycle: the Sun fully illuminates the Moon, and the luminaries oppose one another from our perspective on Earth. This potent alignment offers opportunities to gain awareness of our inner and emotional world, revealing what was previously hidden.
With the moon fully illuminated, it creates a portal to some of the most potent energy for manifesting our desires and dream life. This portal connects us to our peak creative energy and deep-seated passions—the energy we need to create the life we desire. While the new moon phase is about planting seeds for manifestation, the full moon is about doing the work and moving energy to make those dreams reality. The full moon bridges these energies, reminding us of their importance beyond the night it shines brightest.
There are many ways to work with the full moon. To learn more about the basics of full moon energy, check out my blog post here and watch my class on lunar magic. Each full moon is unique, with different practices based on the zodiac sign it’s in—tonight, that’s the intense, transformative Scorpio.
The Flower Moon
As the sun warms the earth, coaxing flowers to bloom in vibrant abundance, the night sky shimmers with the radiant energy of the full moon known as the Flower Moon. The Flower Moon, a name given to the May full moon, originates from the Algonquin tribes of North America, who observed the explosion of blossoms during this time. Despite its name, the Moon doesn’t appear floral but glows in its usual golden or white hue. The energy of the Flower Moon is alive with growth, fertility, and the joy of spring’s peak, encouraging us to embrace abundance, creativity, and the beauty of nature’s cycles.
Following April’s Pink Moon, the Flower Moon truly embodies the heart of spring, aligning with Beltane’s fiery energy and the earth’s renewal. It’s a reminder to celebrate life’s blossoming, to plant intentions in fertile soil, and to dance with the fae under moonlight. Use the Flower Moon to reflect, recalibrate, and align with your soul’s path, letting its energy inspire bold new beginnings.
As with most pagan names, different cultures have their own names for the May full moon, reflecting themes of growth, fertility, and renewal:
Corn Planting Moon (Algonquin)
Milk Moon (Anglo-Saxon)
Hare Moon (Celtic)
Vesak Moon (Buddhist, celebrating Buddha’s birth)
Bright Moon (Cherokee)
Mulberry Moon (Chinese)
Moon When Leaves Are Green (Dakota)
Flower Moon (Modern Neo-Pagan)
Moon of the Horse (Sioux)
Planting Moon (Ojibwe)
So, Who is Scorpio?
As the eighth sign in the zodiac, Scorpio is ruled by Pluto (modern) and Mars (traditional), planets of transformation and passion. The water element, associated with emotion and intuition, governs Scorpio, adding a layer of depth and intensity to this sign. Known for its love of truth, power, and rebirth, Scorpio is the zodiac’s scorpion, diving into the mysteries of life and emerging renewed.
Scorpio, the Scorpion of Transformation
Scorpio is symbolized by the scorpion—a creature that sheds its skin to grow, representing death, rebirth, and resilience. This sign is driven by a quest for emotional truth, power, and hidden knowledge, seeking to transform beyond limitations. When the Moon is in the intense sign of Scorpio, you’ll feel a magnetic pull to confront your depths, uncover secrets, and embrace your inner strength. Scorpio doesn’t shy from the shadows; it dives in, emerging with newfound power, encouraging us to heal and rise with courage.
The Scorpio Constellation
The Scorpio constellation lies in the southern sky, its bright stars forming the shape of a scorpion with a curved tail. In ancient Mesopotamia, it was linked to the goddess Ishara, associated with love and war, while Greek mythology ties it to Orion, whose death by scorpion sting led to their eternal chase across the sky. The constellation’s heart, marked by the red star Antares, pulses with passion and transformation, aligning with Scorpio’s deep energy. For many cultures, Scorpio in the sky marked a time of harvest and preparation, reflecting its themes of renewal.
Magical Themes for the Flower Full Moon in Scorpio
Each full Moon carries themes tied to its zodiac sign. This Flower Moon in Scorpio brings watery, transformative energy, focusing on depth, rebirth, and emotional power. It’s a time to release old wounds, embrace your inner strength, and align with your deepest truths. The Scorpio Full Moon encourages us to dive deep, trust our intuition, and rise from the ashes of transformation. Let’s explore these themes more deeply:
Magical Themes for the Scorpio Full Moon:
Transformation
Rebirth
Emotional depth
Power
Mystery
Healing
Truth
Intuition
Protection
Passion
Resilience
Renewal
Spirituality
Magical Themes for the Flower Full Moon:
Blossoming
Abundance
Fertility
Renewal
Growth
Creativity
Transformation
Emotional healing
Reflection
Manifestation
Divine Feminine
Celebration
Joy
Connection with nature
Productivity
Scorpio the Sign of Transformation and Depth
Scorpio is a water sign driven by a thirst for emotional truth and transformation. It wants to explore the depths—psychologically, spiritually, and emotionally—seeking experiences that heal and empower the soul. Under this Full Moon, Scorpio’s energy will push us to face our shadows, release pain, and emerge renewed. It’s a time to honor your inner strength, to seek truth in your emotions, and to let go of what no longer serves you. Scorpio reminds us that life is a cycle of death and rebirth, and every layer we shed reveals our true power.
Scorpio the Sign of Power and Healing
Ruled by Pluto and Mars, Scorpio is the zodiac’s healer and alchemist, always seeking hidden power and wisdom through healing. During this Full Moon, the energies of Scorpio will amplify our desire for emotional clarity and empowerment. We’ll feel called to confront our deepest fears, to heal old wounds, and to harness our resilience. This is a time to trust your intuition, to learn from your past pain, and to share your strength with others. Scorpio’s intense depth can illuminate buried truths, helping us transform our lives with newfound power.
Pluto’s Transformative Influence is Active
Pluto, the planet of transformation and the underworld, is especially active under this Full Moon, magnifying Scorpio’s energy. Pluto encourages us to face our shadows, to release what binds us, and to trust in our capacity for rebirth. After a period of introspection, Pluto’s influence now urges us to dive into our emotional depths, to plant seeds of healing in the fertile soil of May, and to believe in the power that awaits. This transformative energy can help us manifest our deepest desires, but it also asks us to remain grounded in self-love for the journey.
Mars Adds a Fiery Intensity
Mars, the planet of action and passion, aligns with this Full Moon, adding a dynamic spark to Scorpio’s water. Mars will fuel our drive to pursue our emotional goals with courage and determination, but it can also make us obsessive. This intense energy encourages us to confront challenges head-on, but we must balance it with Scorpio’s intuition to avoid burnout. Mars’ influence makes this an ideal time for rituals focused on healing, empowerment, and breaking emotional barriers.
What to Be Cautious of During a Scorpio Full Moon
Scorpio is a revered sign for its depth and resilience, but its intense energy can have a shadow side. This Full Moon may make us overly secretive, leading to isolation or suppressed emotions. Scorpio’s piercing honesty can also stir jealousy or power struggles if we’re not mindful of our boundaries. Additionally, the desire for control might tempt us to resist vulnerability. Balance this energy by grounding yourself—connect with water, reflect before reacting, and embrace your emotions with compassion.
Scorpio Full Moon and Duality
As a grey witch, I always seek the duality in every energy. First, the full moon itself embodies duality as a time of transformation and transition, pushing us into a liminal space where we confront obstacles and release what holds us back. This can be both hopeful and challenging, embodying light and shadow. Second, Scorpio’s duality lies in its balance of depth and rebirth. While it craves emotional intensity and truth, it also teaches us that true power comes from surrendering to transformation. Scorpio reminds us that duality—vulnerability and strength, death and renewal—is the key to profound growth.
Shadow Work Under the Scorpio Full Moon
Shadow work is the practice of confronting and integrating the hidden, suppressed parts of ourselves—our fears, insecurities, and unresolved wounds. The Flower Full Moon in Scorpio, with its watery, transformative energy, is a powerful time for shadow work. Scorpio’s piercing intensity illuminates the shadows we’ve buried, urging us to face them with raw honesty. This moon’s depth, amplified by Pluto, encourages us to dive into the abyss of our psyche, while Mars adds the courage to confront what we uncover. Chiron’s presence further deepens this work, as the Wounded Healer guides us to transform pain into empowerment.
To engage in shadow work, ask yourself what emotions you’ve been suppressing. Are you holding onto resentment that blocks your healing? Do you fear vulnerability, keeping your true self hidden? Journal these shadows, then use the moon’s energy to release them through rituals like burning a letter of grudges or meditating on your inner waters. Shadow work under this moon can lead to profound healing, helping you step into your most authentic, empowered self.
If you would like to learn more about shadow work you can purchase my eBook here; you can book me for a 1:1 session as your guide here; and you can watch my free class previously taught on it through Divination here.
Correspondences for the Scorpio Full Moon
A correspondence is an item or symbol that connects you to a specific energy through its representation, used to honor and venerate that energy. Here are correspondences for the Scorpio Full Moon, but always follow your intuition when choosing what to work with. You can also use general moon correspondences.
Now that we’ve explored the themes of this Flower Full Moon in Scorpio, let’s discuss how to work with this energy. In magical practices, a Scorpio Full Moon is ideal for spells focused on transformation, emotional healing, protection, and uncovering hidden truths.
Start with your full moon staples from my previous blog post on lunar energy: charge your crystals, make moon water, and reset your altar. Moon water under this intense moon can amplify your intentions for healing and rebirth. Don’t forget to prep for your full moon hangover with my guide here.
With Scorpio’s energy, focus on rituals that encourage deep introspection, release, and empowerment. This is a great time for spells to heal emotional wounds, protect your energy, reveal secrets, or embrace your inner power. Here are 23 ways to connect with this moon:
Create a vision board for your deepest transformations and rebirths.
Burn mugwort to cleanse your space and invite intuitive clarity.
Write a letter to your past self, releasing old wounds.
Meditate under the moonlight, visualizing a phoenix rising from your emotional depths.
Take a reflective walk near water to embrace Scorpio’s emotional flow.
Journal about a secret you’ve been hiding and how to release its hold.
Create a flower crown with dark red blooms to honor the Flower Moon.
Light a black candle to invoke Pluto’s transformative power.
Practice scrying with a bowl of water to connect with Scorpio’s mystery.
Dance slowly under the moon to release emotional stagnation.
Write affirmations for empowerment and tape them to your mirror.
Brew a tea with basil and rosemary to ignite your inner strength.
Paint or draw your vision of a rebirth you’d like to experience.
Share a story of personal healing with a loved one to honor Scorpio’s depth.
Plant seeds in your garden, infusing them with intentions for renewal.
Face a fear—write it down and burn it to release its power.
Create a sigil for protection and carry it with you.
Meditate with obsidian to enhance your emotional grounding.
Offer dark flowers to a river as a gift to water spirits.
Perform a water ritual, safely submerging a list of grudges to release them.
Read a book on shadow work or psychology to align with Scorpio’s quest for truth.
Host a moonlit gathering with friends to share transformative insights.
Practice gratitude by listing 10 things you’ve healed from in your journey.
Flower Moon in Scorpio Ritual: Phoenix of Rebirth
This ritual harnesses the Flower Moon’s abundance and Scorpio’s transformative energy to release and renew your spirit.
What You’ll Need:
A small feather (to symbolize a phoenix)
A black or red candle
Fresh dark flowers (e.g., red roses or dahlias)
A piece of paper and pen
A bowl of water
Steps:
1. Prepare Your sacred container: On May 12th, under the Flower Moon, set up a sacred container. Place the candle in the center, surrounded by flowers. Light the candle, invoking Scorpio’s energy.
2. Set Your Intention: Write an intention on the paper—something you wish to release and transform (e.g., “I release my fear of vulnerability and rise anew”).
3. Charge Your Feather: Hold the feather, visualizing it as a phoenix. Say:
“Under the Flower Moon in Scorpio, I charge this feather with my intention. May I rise from the ashes with power and renewal.”
4. Release Your Intention: Submerge the paper in the bowl of water, imagining your old energy dissolving. Hold your feather and visualize a phoenix rising from the water.
5. Close the Ritual: Scatter the flowers in a body of water as an offering, saying:
“Thank you, Flower Moon and Scorpio, for guiding my rebirth. May my transformation deepen and empower.”
Keep the feather on your altar as a reminder of your rebirth throughout May.
Reflection Prompts
After the ritual, journal your experience with these prompts to deepen your connection:
How did the intense energy of Scorpio feel during the ritual?
What truths or insights emerged as you set your intention?
Over the next lunar cycle, notice signs of transformation—how do they align with your intention?
How can you embody Scorpio’s depth and power in your daily life?
What fears did you release, and how do you feel lighter without them?
How did the Flower Moon’s energy of abundance resonate with you?
What emotional wounds or secrets are calling for healing after this ritual?
How did connecting with Chiron’s energy help you heal or accept a wound?
What does empowerment mean to you, and how can you cultivate more of it?
How did the act of visualizing your phoenix of rebirth make you feel empowered?
What lessons from your past transformations are guiding you forward now?
How can you integrate the healing you’ve gained into your future growth?
What role did the flowers play in grounding or uplifting your energy?
How do you feel your truth has evolved through this moon’s energy?
Final Thoughts
The Flower Full Moon in Scorpio is a profound call to dive into the depths of your soul, to release what binds you, and to rise like a phoenix into your true power. May’s blooming energy, paired with Scorpio’s transformative intensity, reminds us that healing and rebirth are sacred acts of self-love and co-creation with the universe. As you move through this lunar cycle, carry the lessons of depth, truth, and empowerment with you, trusting that ever.
I am Kayreign, the Divine Oracle of the Gods and Keeper of Mysteries, a solitary grey magic practitioner with over 15 years of experience walking the sacred paths of the unseen. As a mystic and relentless seeker of all knowledge, I weave together the threads of every magical tradition—light and dark, ancient and modern—to uncover the universal truths that bind us to the cosmos. My mission is to restore and re-enchant magic in this realm, igniting its spark in every soul I encounter, and guiding you to embrace the full spectrum of your being.
My work is rooted in the power of duality, honoring the dance between shadow and light as equal partners in your spiritual journey. I hold space for you to explore all magic paths and practices, drawing from the vast tapestry of mystical wisdom to help you uncover your unique magic and sacred contracts. As the Divine Oracle of the Gods, I channel divine insights to illuminate your path; as the Keeper of Mysteries, I guide you into the depths of the unknown, where true transformation awaits.
When you work with me, you’ll learn to live in energetic balance, embracing your darkness as a source of power, not just a stepping stone to the light. I’ll hold up a mirror to reflect your authentic self—unmasked, raw, and whole—inviting you to face your past wounds, traumas, and hurts with courage. Together, we’ll alchemize every chapter of your story, dark and light, into a blazing internal flame that lights your way on even the coldest nights. Through this process, you’ll find alignment with your purpose, release what holds you back, and step fully into your power.
Come join me for community, knowledge, and to restore the enchantment of magic in yourself and life today!
Explore my offerings—personalized shadow work sessions, womb healing, eBooks for self-guided growth, Tarot readings for divine guidance, and more—in my shop. Let’s journey together into the mysteries, where duality becomes your greatest ally, and magic becomes your birthright.
Beloved Seekers of the Mystic Mysteries. As Kayreign, Oracle of the Gods, Keeper of Mysteries, I stand before you under Taurus’s grounding stars, my heart a cauldron of light and shadow, ready to share a raw, honest truth. Mother’s Day, cloaked in May’s tender blooms, is a sacred celebration of nurturing love for many—but for some of us, it’s a jagged mirror reflecting wounds that never fully heal. Not all mothers cradle, cherish, or guide. Some, like my own, wield selfishness, hurt, and chaos, leaving daughters to navigate a labyrinth of pain. As Beltane’s fires (May 1) still flicker and Mental Health Awareness Month calls us to radical self-care, I invite you to join me in this mystical, magical, and unfiltered reflection on living with a narcissistic mother—my story, my scars, and the alchemical path to healing through Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and radical acceptance. For those who ache as Mother’s Day looms, this is for you. Let’s weave a spell of resilience together, and I’ll share six DBT practices and a cord-cutting ritual to guide you through the shadows.
A Daughter’s Solitary Dance
I was my mother’s first child, born to her as a teenage mother, a spark of life she wasn’t ready to cradle. From my earliest memories (at the age of 10), our bond was a frayed thread, never woven into warmth or acceptance. There were no moments of closeness, no shared laughter, no gentle guidance. Every “I love you” came with a cost—a demand, a manipulation, a weight I learned to carry like a stone in my heart. Her help, when offered, was a tangled web of strings, each favor a debt I’d pay in loyalty or silence. Her love was a currency I could never earn, no matter how desperately I tried.
As a daughter, I longed for her to see me, to want me, to choose me. But her narcissism—a storm of self-absorption—left no room for my light. Every slap, every punch, every venomous word carved itself into my soul. “You ruined my life,” she’d hiss, her insults a blade slicing through my budding self-worth. The mental abuse was relentless: gaslighting that made me doubt my reality, silent treatments that left me starving for her approval, and lies that twisted my truth. The verbal abuse was a daily ritual, her words like thorns embedding in my spirit. And the physical abuse—her hands striking my body—taught me early that love could hurt.
But the trauma ran deeper than bruises. When I was a teenager, my mother set my home ablaze, an act of rage that sent her to prison and left me sifting through ashes, both literal and emotional. When my stepfather beat me, she didn’t protect me—she sent me to juvenile detention, blaming me for his violence. On my wedding day, a moment meant for joy, she declared she wouldn’t attend because it wasn’t “Christian enough,” only to appear uninvited, draped in a white dress, stealing the spotlight with her defiance. These are but the tip of the iceberg, fragments of a lifetime of betrayal, abandonment, and chaos. Each wound shaped me, whispering that I was unlovable, unworthy, unseen.
The Daughter’s Burden
Growing up as the daughter of a narcissistic mother is like wandering a forest where every tree casts a shadow of doubt. Daughters, especially, bear a unique burden. We’re taught to seek our mother’s mirror—to find our beauty, strength, and identity in her gaze. But when that mirror is cracked, reflecting only her needs, we internalize her rejection. I learned to shrink, to silence my voice, to tiptoe around her moods. My confidence eroded, replaced by a gnawing fear that I’d never be enough. My relationships suffered, as I sought love that mirrored her conditional affection, falling into patterns of people-pleasing and self-sacrifice.
The impact lingers like a spell cast long ago. Anxiety became my shadow, whispering her insults in quiet moments. Trust felt like a gamble, as I braced for betrayal. My sense of self was a puzzle with missing pieces, scattered by her chaos. Yet, beneath the pain, a spark of resilience flickered—a knowing that I was more than her narrative, a daughter of the multiverse, destined to heal.
The Alchemy of Radical Acceptance
In my darkest moments, I found Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), a beacon of mindfulness and balance that mirrored my grey magic practice—honoring both light and shadow. DBT taught me radical acceptance, the art of embracing what is, without judgment, even when it’s unjust. I can’t change my mother’s actions—her fists, her fire, her words. I don’t know what wounds shaped her, what shadows drove her to hurt me. But I accept that these things happened, and though they were never okay, they no longer define me.
Radical acceptance was my first spell of liberation. It didn’t erase the pain but gave me permission to stop fighting it. I learned to hold my trauma with compassion, to see myself as a survivor, not a victim. Through DBT’s tools—mindfulness, emotional regulation, distress tolerance—I began to rebuild. I meditated under starlit skies, grounding in Taurus’s earth, and found my Wise Mind, a sacred space where I could grieve and grow. I journaled, letting my pain flow onto pages, and discovered my voice. I practiced self-soothing, cradling my inner child with the love my mother couldn’t give. This alchemy transformed my wounds into wisdom, my scars into sigils of strength.
6 DBT Practices for Mother’s Day Healing
Mother’s Day can feel like a storm for those of us with narcissistic mothers, but DBT offers tools to navigate its waves. Here are six practices to help you honor yourself this May 11, rooted in mindfulness and self-compassion, perfect for Mental Health Awareness Month:
1. Mindfulness Meditation (5 Minutes): Sit in a quiet space, holding a rose quartz . Breathe deeply, focusing on your breath’s rhythm. When painful memories arise, acknowledge them without judgment—“I see you, pain”—and return to your breath. This grounds you in the present, easing anxiety.
2. Wise Mind Journaling: Write a letter to your inner child, affirming her worth: “You are enough, always.” Ask your Wise Mind, “What do I need today?” Let the answers guide your self-care, whether it’s rest, creativity, or solitude. This fosters self-love, countering your mother’s rejection.
3. Distress Tolerance – Self-Soothing: Create a sensory kit: a lavender sachet, a soft blanket, calming music. When Mother’s Day triggers pain, engage your senses—smell the lavender, wrap yourself in the blanket. This soothes your nervous system, offering the comfort your mother didn’t.
4. Emotional Regulation – Opposite Action: If sadness urges you to isolate, choose connection instead. Call a trusted friend or join my Patreon community (patreon.com/TheMysticMysteries). Sharing your story, even briefly, shifts the energy, reminding you you’re not alone.
5. Radical Acceptance Affirmation: Stand before a mirror, holding a carnelian for courage. Say: “I accept what happened, and it wasn’t my fault. I release its hold on me.” Repeat three times, feeling the words anchor in your heart. This frees you from guilt and shame. If you wan to dive into the skill radical acceptance more get access to this in my free sneak peak of the Clarity Cauldron here.
6. Interpersonal Effectiveness – Boundary Setting: If your mother is still in your life, practice saying no to her demands. Script a boundary: “I can’t attend this event, but I wish you well.” Rehearse it, feeling your power. This protects your energy, honoring your needs.
These practices are spells of self-reclamation, weaving resilience into your spirit. Try one or all this Mother’s Day, and share your journey in my Patreon comments to connect with our circle.
Cord-Cutting Ceremonial Ritual: Releasing the Narcissistic Mother
To fully release the energetic ties binding you to a narcissistic mother, this cord-cutting ritual, infused with Beltane’s transformative fire and Taurus’s grounding strength, is a sacred act of liberation. Perform it under the crescent moon or on Mother’s Day for potency.
What You’ll Need:
Black candle (for banishing, from MysticMysteries.com/shop)
Rose quartz (for self-love)
Obsidian(for protection)
White ribbon or string (symbolizing the cord)
Fire-safe bowl
Matches or lighter
Journal and pen
Steps:
1. Prepare Your sacred container: Find a quiet spot. Ground yourself with three deep breaths, visualizing roots sinking into Gaia’s earth. Place the black candle in the center, rose quartz to the left, obsidian to the right, and the ribbon before you.
2. Set Your Intention: Light the black candle, saying: “By Beltane’s fire and lunar light, I release all ties that bind me to my mother’s pain. I am free, whole, and loved.”
3. Visualize the Cord: Hold the ribbon, imagining it as an energetic cord connecting you to your mother. See it pulsing with her words, actions, and wounds. Feel its weight, but know you’re ready to let go.
4. Cut the Cord: Tie the ribbon loosely around your wrist, then cut it with scissors, saying: “I sever this cord with love for myself. Her pain is not mine. I am free.” Place the cut pieces in the fire-safe bowl.
5. Burn and Release: Safely light the ribbon pieces in the bowl, watching them burn. As they turn to ash, visualize the cord dissolving into starlight, returning to the multiverse. Say: “I release you with compassion. I claim my power.”
6.Nurture Your Heart: Hold the rose quartz to your heart, breathing in self-love. Visualize a pink light enveloping you, healing old wounds. Place the obsidian in your pocket for protection.
7. Journal and Ground: Write: “What do I reclaim by releasing this cord?” Let your soul’s truth flow. Extinguish the candle, thanking the elements. Bury the ashes in the earth or scatter them in running water to complete the release.
Aftercare: Rest, hydrate, and treat yourself to a soothing bath with lavender. Reflect on your strength, knowing you’ve reclaimed your light.
A Path Forward
Living with a narcissistic mother is a journey through shadow, but it’s also a path to profound resilience. As Mother’s Day approaches, I honor the daughter I was—unseen, yet unbroken—and the woman I’ve become, a mystic weaving light from pain. Through DBT, radical acceptance, and rituals like cord-cutting, I’ve learned to mother myself, to cradle my own heart with the love I deserved. You, too, are a daughter of the multiverse, worthy of healing, worthy of peace.
Join me in this sacred work. My Healing the Mother Wound Workshop has limited spots available for May 10th; Register here!
I am Kayreign, the Divine Oracle of the Gods and Keeper of Mysteries, a solitary grey magic practitioner with over 15 years of experience walking the sacred paths of the unseen. As a mystic and relentless seeker of all knowledge, I weave together the threads of every magical tradition—light and dark, ancient and modern—to uncover the universal truths that bind us to the cosmos. My mission is to restore and re-enchant magic in this realm, igniting its spark in every soul I encounter, and guiding you to embrace the full spectrum of your being.
My work is rooted in the power of duality, honoring the dance between shadow and light as equal partners in your spiritual journey. I hold space for you to explore all magic paths and practices, drawing from the vast tapestry of mystical wisdom to help you uncover your unique magic and sacred contracts. As the Divine Oracle of the Gods, I channel divine insights to illuminate your path; as the Keeper of Mysteries, I guide you into the depths of the unknown, where true transformation awaits.
When you work with me, you’ll learn to live in energetic balance, embracing your darkness as a source of power, not just a stepping stone to the light. I’ll hold up a mirror to reflect your authentic self—unmasked, raw, and whole—inviting you to face your past wounds, traumas, and hurts with courage. Together, we’ll alchemize every chapter of your story, dark and light, into a blazing internal flame that lights your way on even the coldest nights. Through this process, you’ll find alignment with your purpose, release what holds you back, and step fully into your power.
Come join me for community, knowledge, and to restore the enchantment of magic in yourself and life today!
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Welcome, dear seekers, to a month of profound reflection and transformation. May is Mental Health Awareness Month, a time dedicated to breaking the silence around mental illness, honoring those who live with it, and supporting the loved ones who stand by their side. As a grey witch who has navigated the shadowed depths of my own mind, I’ve come to see this month as a sacred invitation—a chance to weave magic into healing, to shed light on the unseen struggles, and to empower ourselves and each other. In this word journey, we’ll explore the history of this observance, its vital importance, what it means to those with mental illness and their loved ones, different therapy options, resources for seeking help, six simple DBT tips to start improving your mental health today, my personal story of living with multiple mental illnesses, and a preview of how we’ll dive deeper this month. Let’s step into this cauldron of awareness together.
The History of Mental Health Awareness Month
Mental Health Awareness Month traces its roots back to 1949, when Mental Health America (MHA), founded by Clifford Beers in 1909, first launched a week-long campaign to educate the public about mental health. Beers, a former mental health patient himself, wrote *A Mind That Found Itself* after his own traumatic experiences in psychiatric institutions, sparking a movement to reform treatment and reduce stigma. This initial effort evolved over decades, with the American Psychiatric Association joining in 1950 to expand its reach. By 1990, MHA extended the campaign to a full month, designating May as Mental Health Awareness Month to align with the blooming of spring—a symbol of renewal and hope.
The movement gained momentum with the green ribbon, adopted in 1990 as a universal symbol of mental health awareness, reflecting growth and vitality. Over the years, key milestones like the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) joining the effort in the 2000s and the 2013 launch of the “B4Stage4” campaign—focusing on early intervention—have shaped its mission. Today, Mental Health Awareness Month is a global phenomenon, supported by organizations like the World Health Organization (WHO), which reports that 1 in 4 people worldwide will experience a mental health issue in their lifetime. This history reminds us that awareness is not just a trend—it’s a legacy of resilience built by those who dared to speak out, a legacy we continue to honor and expand.
Why Mental Health Awareness Month Matters
Mental Health Awareness Month is crucial because it shines a light on a crisis that affects millions yet remains shrouded in shame. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), approximately 52.9 million adults in the U.S. experienced a mental illness in 2023, yet only about 47% received treatment. This gap highlights the stigma that still lingers—whispers of weakness, judgments of “just get over it”—that keeps people silent. This month challenges those narratives, urging us to see mental health as an integral part of overall well-being, not a separate burden.
It’s also a call to action. With rising stressors—political unrest, economic instability, and the ongoing aftermath of global crises—mental health challenges are escalating. The WHO notes a 25% increase in anxiety and depression globally since 2020, a statistic that resonates deeply in a country where policies like Trump’s $5,000 baby bonus threaten women’s lives and reproductive rights, adding layers of trauma for many. Mental Health Awareness Month pushes for policy changes, funding for mental health services, and community support, ensuring no one is left to navigate this alone. It’s a reminder that mental health is a human right, not a privilege, and that collective action can shift the tide.
What It Means to Those with Mental Illness
For those living with mental illness, May is a beacon of validation. It’s a month where your struggles—whether it’s the relentless cycles of bipolar disorder, the emotional storms of borderline personality disorder, or the quiet chaos of dissociative identity disorder—are seen, heard, and honored. It means you’re not defined by your diagnosis but by your courage to keep going. This month offers a space to share stories, connect with others who understand, and find resources to cope. For me, as someone who has lived with multiple mental illnesses, it’s a time to breathe easier, knowing the world is pausing to acknowledge what I’ve carried in silence for so long. It’s a celebration of survival, a recognition that our minds, though complex, are part of our unique magic.
What It Means to Loved Ones of Those with Mental Illness
For the families, friends, and partners of those with mental illness, May is a lifeline. It acknowledges the exhaustion of watching a loved one suffer, the helplessness of not knowing how to help, and the strength it takes to stay supportive. It offers education—understanding that anxiety isn’t “just stress” or depression isn’t “laziness”—and tools to provide compassionate care. Loved ones often carry their own grief, guilt, or frustration, and this month validates their role as allies. It’s a chance to learn boundaries, seek support groups, and join in advocacy, turning love into action. As someone who’s leaned on my community during my darkest days, I know how vital this support is—and how this month can strengthen those bonds.
Types of Therapy for Mental Health
Navigating mental illness can feel like wandering a labyrinth, but therapy offers a guide. Here are some options to explore:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Focuses on changing negative thought patterns. It’s evidence-based, helping with anxiety, depression, and OCD by challenging distorted thinking.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): My personal savior, DBT blends mindfulness with skills like emotional regulation and distress tolerance. It’s ideal for BPD, bipolar disorder, and complex trauma, teaching practical tools to live with intensity.
Psychodynamic Therapy: Dives into unconscious patterns from past experiences. It’s great for exploring deep-seated issues like those tied to DID or childhood trauma.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): Targets trauma by processing distressing memories with guided eye movements. It’s effective for PTSD and can support fragmented realities like DID.
Family Therapy: Involves loved ones to improve communication and support. It’s helpful for families navigating the impact of mental illness together.
Art or Music Therapy: Uses creative expression to process emotions. Perfect for those who find words hard, it’s a magical outlet for binge eating or emotional overwhelm.
Each therapy offers a unique path, and the right one depends on your needs. Consulting a licensed therapist can help you find your fit—don’t hesitate to ask for what works for you.
Resources for Seeking Help
If you or someone you love needs support, you’re not alone. Here are some resources to start with:
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): Visit nami.org for helplines (1-800-950-NAMI), support groups, and educational materials.
Mental Health America (MHA): Check mentalhealthamerica.net for screening tools, local resources, and a crisis text line (text MHA to 741741).
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA): Call 1-800-662-HELP or visit samhsagov for treatment locators and 24/7 assistance.
Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, confidential support anytime.
Therapist Directories: Websites like Psychology Today (psychologytoday.com) let you search for therapists by specialty and location.
Online Support: Platforms like BetterHelp or Talkspace offer virtual therapy, accessible for those with mobility or financial barriers.
Download an Ai therapy bot: There are a lot of apps now with AI chat bots that can be useful to use as well like Wysa anxiety chat bot
These resources are lifelines—reach out without shame. Healing begins with a single step, and help is there when you’re ready.
Six Simple DBT Tips to Improve Your Mental Health Now
As someone transformed by DBT, I’ve distilled six simple tips you can start today to nurture your mental health, rooted in its practical wisdom:
1. Practice One-Mindfulness: Focus fully on one task at a time (e.g., sipping tea). This calms racing thoughts, a gift for OCD’s anxiety.
2. Use Opposite Action: If sadness urges you to isolate, reach out to a friend instead. This builds positive emotions, countering depression. Learn more about this skill inside the patreon exclusive cauldron clarity here.
3. Try Self-Soothing: Engage your senses—hold a soft blanket or listen to nature sounds. It grounds you, easing BPD’s intensity. Learn ways to self soother yourself in my Patreon exclusive post here.
4. Accumulate Positive Emotions: Do one small, enjoyable act (e.g., watch a funny video). This creates a buffer against bipolar lows.
5. Practice Radical Acceptance: Acknowledge a hard reality (e.g., “This policy hurts me”) without fighting it. It frees energy for action, supporting DID’s fragmented state. Dive into the healing of this skill inside the cauldron clarity community for FREE here.
6. Check the Facts: Challenge anxious thoughts (e.g., “Am I really in danger?”). This reduces OCD’s crippling need for order. This skill is my savior every single day. Learn how to use this skill inside the cauldron clarity community here.
These tips are small spells of self-care—start with one, and watch your resilience grow.
My Mental Health Journey: From Trauma to Transformation
My life has been a tapestry woven with trauma, each thread a lesson in navigating the wild landscape of multiple mental illnesses. From childhood to now, I’ve moved from one storm to the next, learning to dance with the chaos rather than be consumed by it. DBT has been my guide, turning my struggles into allies, and I want to share that journey with you.
Bipolar II: The ups and downs are extreme—days of hypomanic energy where I create endlessly, crashing into deep, gray depressions where getting out of bed feels impossible. It’s a rollercoaster of mood swings that once defined my worth, but now I see it as a source of creative fire and reflective depth.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): The intensity of reality hits like a tidal wave—emotions so raw they blur the line between me and the world. Relationships were a minefield of fear of abandonment, but now I channel that passion into deep connections and empathy.
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): The crippling anxiety demands order—counting steps, checking locks, everything having to be in it’s proper place at all times, the constant need to clean my space making it tidy, organized and clean—leaving me exhausted. Never allowing me to truly sit down and be present in the moment. The ups are a sense of control; the downs are panic when chaos creeps in. It’s taught me the strength of structure, now a tool rather than a tyrant.
Binge Eating Disorder (BED): My relationship with food is complicated—bingeing as comfort, then guilt as punishment leading to restricting myself from eating anything for days at a time. The highs are fleeting satisfaction; the lows are shame. I’ve learned to see it as a signal of emotional needs, guiding me toward balance.
Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID): The fragmented reality—switching perspectives, losing time—once felt like a betrayal of self. The ups are a rich inner world; the downs are disorientation. It’s now a multifaceted lens, offering unique insights into life’s mysteries. Do you want more insight to what it’s like living as a prism of beings with multiple personalities? Read about my experience here.
For years, these conditions controlled me, defining my identity as broken. I let trauma—abuse, loss, near-death during pregnancy—dictate my narrative. But DBT changed that. Through skills like mindfulness and radical acceptance, I’ve reframed my illnesses as allies. They’re not curses but strengths, allowing me to experience reality through a unique, multifaceted lens. This shift has deepened my energetic connection to others, filling me with empathy and revealing a bigger truth—that our struggles are part of our magic.
Acknowledging the Ongoing Journey
I want to be honest: I’m still a work in progress. Healing comes in waves, not a straight line. These mental illnesses can’t be cured—they’re forever part of me, ebbing and flowing with life’s tides. Some days, the anxiety spikes, or the dissociation takes hold, and I falter. But I’ve learned to ride those waves, using DBT to anchor myself. This acceptance doesn’t erase the struggle; it transforms it into a dance with my shadow, a rhythm of growth. It’s a reminder that healing is a lifelong spell, cast with patience and grace.
Expanding on Mental Illness This Month
All month, I’ll expand on each of these mental illnesses—Bipolar II, BPD, OCD, BED, and DID—sharing my story and offering ways you can support yourself or loved ones. We’ll explore rituals, DBT skills, and magical practices to navigate these conditions, turning challenges into sources of power. Each week, I’ll dive into one illness, providing insights, coping strategies, and community discussions. Join me on this journey—your experiences are welcome, and together, we’ll weave a tapestry of healing.
Final Thoughts
As we embrace Mental Health Awareness Month, let’s honor our minds—their shadows and their light. This month is a cauldron of possibility, where awareness becomes action, and healing becomes magic. If you’re ready to dive deeper into this work, I invite you to join Cauldron Clarity, an exclusive weekly event inside my Patreon community, where we explore mental health, mysticism, and resilience with exclusive content. Sign up today to connect with our tribe. I’m also hosting the Healing Mother Wound Event on May 10, a virtual ritual to release generational pain, and the Embrace Your Shadow Self 6 month program starting June 7th, where we’ll transform our inner darkness into strength. Visit here for details and let’s walk this path together.
I am Kayreign, the Divine Oracle of the Gods and Keeper of Mysteries, a solitary grey magic practitioner with over 15 years of experience walking the sacred paths of the unseen. As a mystic and relentless seeker of all knowledge, I weave together the threads of every magical tradition—light and dark, ancient and modern—to uncover the universal truths that bind us to the cosmos. My mission is to restore and re-enchant magic in this realm, igniting its spark in every soul I encounter, and guiding you to embrace the full spectrum of your being.
My work is rooted in the power of duality, honoring the dance between shadow and light as equal partners in your spiritual journey. I hold space for you to explore all magic paths and practices, drawing from the vast tapestry of mystical wisdom to help you uncover your unique magic and sacred contracts. As the Divine Oracle of the Gods, I channel divine insights to illuminate your path; as the Keeper of Mysteries, I guide you into the depths of the unknown, where true transformation awaits.
When you work with me, you’ll learn to live in energetic balance, embracing your darkness as a source of power, not just a stepping stone to the light. I’ll hold up a mirror to reflect your authentic self—unmasked, raw, and whole—inviting you to face your past wounds, traumas, and hurts with courage. Together, we’ll alchemize every chapter of your story, dark and light, into a blazing internal flame that lights your way on even the coldest nights. Through this process, you’ll find alignment with your purpose, release what holds you back, and step fully into your power.
Come join us inside the sacred circle! The temple gates are open to unlock the mysteries of the unseen and ancient wisdom for our modern souls!
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At modgepodgemystic.com and inside the mystic mysteries, we weave magic into the everyday, embracing the sacred in all its forms. Today, I’m opening my heart to share a deeply personal reflection on living with multiple personalities, also known as Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). This is not just a condition—it’s a way of being that carries profound strengths, unique perspectives, and, yes, real challenges. My hope is to shed light on what it’s like, to dispel fear, and to honor the beauty and complexity of this experience.
The Chameleon’s Gift: A Strength Like No Other
Living with multiple personalities is like being a chameleon, adapting to life’s demands in ways others might not. Each personality, or alter, brings its own lens, skills, and energy to the table. One might be bold and outspoken, navigating conflict with ease, while another is gentle and nurturing, offering comfort in quiet moments. This adaptability is a survival superpower. Where others might falter under pressure, we shift, drawing on the strengths of different alters to meet the moment. It’s a resilience born from necessity, honed by years of navigating a world that can feel overwhelming.
This multiplicity allows us to experience life from many facets, like a prism refracting light into a spectrum of colors. One alter might revel in the intellectual thrill of a debate, while another finds joy in the tactile magic of planting seeds in the earth, as we explored in our Persephone’s Renewal Rite inside the patreon. Each perspective enriches our understanding of the world, giving us a kaleidoscope of experiences that deepen our empathy and creativity. We don’t just live life—we live it in layers, tasting its complexity through different eyes.
The Shadows: Struggles of Memory and Misunderstanding
But this gift comes with shadows. One of the hardest struggles is memory. When alters switch, time can slip away, leaving gaps that feel like missing pages or entire chapters in a book. I might recall a conversation vividly as one alter, only to find another has no memory of it. I might recall an event or entire year as one altar. While another may keep those events and years all to themselves for protection. Some altars may never come forward again leaving everything they experienced as a mystery, like me having no memories before the age of 10. These gaps can make daily life a puzzle, piecing together what happened when and who was present. It’s disorienting, and it takes patience—both with myself and with those around me—to navigate.
Then there’s the ache to be understood. The moment someone hears “multiple personalities,” fear or judgment often creeps in, fueled by media portrayals of violence or chaos. But we’re not dangerous or “crazy.” We’re people, just like you, with more than one voice sharing the same body. Each alter is a part of me, not a threat. What I long for is curiosity, not fear—a willingness to meet each part of me as a unique person with their own story. I want to share that I’m not one-dimensional; I’m a chorus, and each voice has something to offer.
The Quiet Shifts: Not Always Dramatic
Discovering I had multiple personalities was its own journey. It wasn’t marked by dramatic shifts or cinematic moments. It stayed hidden for quite some time. For many of us, alters don’t announce themselves with fanfare. The changes can be subtle—a shift in tone, a different way of holding my body, or a sudden preference for a food I usually dislike. If you don’t spend every day with me, you might not even notice another alter has stepped forward. Figuring out this was happening took time, introspection, and often, the gentle observations of those closest to me. It’s like learning to read a map of your own soul, tracing the contours of each alter’s presence.
Not all of us have stark, obvious switches. Some alters blend seamlessly, coexisting in a quiet dance. This subtlety can make it harder to explain or validate our experience, especially when the world expects something more theatrical. But it’s real, and it’s ours.
Embracing the Magic of Multiplicity
Living with multiple personalities is a sacred journey. Each alter is a thread in the tapestry of who I am, and learning to honor them is an act of self-love. I’m not broken; I’m multifaceted, a living ritual of adaptation and survival.
To those reading this, I invite you to see us not as a mystery to fear, but as a community of souls within one body. Ask questions. Listen. Meet each alter with the same openness you’d offer a new friend. And if you’re walking this path yourself, know that your multiplicity is a strength—a chameleon’s gift, a prism’s light.
Six DBT Skills to Support Yourself if You Suspect You Have DID
If you’re beginning to suspect you might have DID, the journey of understanding yourself can feel both sacred and overwhelming. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers practical tools to ground, regulate, and explore your inner world with compassion. These six DBT skills, infused with gentle magic can help you navigate this path. (Note: These are supportive practices, but a professional diagnosis and therapy are key for clarity and care.)
1.Mindfulness: Observe Without Judgment Practice noticing your thoughts, feelings, or behaviors without labeling them as “weird” or “wrong.” If you sense a shift in your mood or perspective, pause and breathe, like you’re sitting by the Sauk River from our recent meditation. Ask, “What am I feeling? Who might be present?” Write it down to track patterns over time. This builds awareness of potential alters without fear.
2. Distress Tolerance: TIPP Skill When dissociation or memory gaps feel intense, use the TIPP skill (Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, Progressive relaxation). Splash cold water on your face or hold an ice cube to ground yourself in the present, like connecting to Mother Earth’s energy. This can help you stay anchored during overwhelming moments.
3. Emotion Regulation: Check the Facts If you feel confused or upset by a possible switch, pause to “check the facts.” Ask, “What triggered this feeling? Is it tied to a memory or a specific alter?” This helps you separate emotions from assumptions, creating space to understand your inner system without panic.
4. Interpersonal Effectiveness: DEAR MAN Communicating with loved ones about your experiences can be hard. Use DEAR MAN (Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate) to share calmly. For example, “I’ve noticed I sometimes lose time or act differently. I’m exploring this and would love your support.” This fosters understanding without confrontation.
5. Wise Mind: Balance Emotion and Logic When exploring DID, tap into your “wise mind” by blending emotion (how you feel) with reason (what you know). Journal questions like, “What do I sense about my inner parts? What do I need to learn?” This helps you approach your multiplicity with curiosity, like Elen of the Ways guiding a new path.
6. Self-Soothing: Create a Comfort Kit Build a small kit with grounding items—a crystal, a scented oil like rosemary from our Ward of Reflection spell, or a soft fabric. When you feel disconnected, use these to soothe yourself, inviting all parts of you to feel safe.
These skills are like seeds planted in your soul’s soil—nurture them daily, and they’ll grow into tools for self-compassion and clarity. Always seek support from a therapist trained in dissociation to guide your journey.
Supporting Someone You Think May Have DID: Tips for Loved Ones
If you suspect someone close to you might be living with DID, your support can be a beacon on their path. Here are five tips, rooted in the open-hearted spirit of Cauldron Clarity, to help you connect with them compassionately and foster understanding.
1. Approach with Curiosity, Not Assumptions Instead of assuming what their experience is like, ask gentle, open-ended questions like, “I’ve noticed you seem different sometimes—can you share what that’s like for you?” Avoid referencing media stereotypes about DID. Treat their experience as unique, like a ritual unfolding in its own time.
2. Be Patient with Memory Gaps If they forget conversations or events, don’t take it personally. Memory gaps are common with DID. Offer gentle reminders without judgment, like, “We talked about this yesterday—want me to fill you in?” This builds trust and patience.
3. Learn Their System (If They Share) If they’re open about their alters, take time to learn about each one’s preferences, triggers, or roles. You might say, “I’d love to know more about who I’m meeting today.” This shows respect for their multiplicity, like honoring different facets of Mother Earth’s energy.
4. Create a Safe, Predictable Environment DID often stems from trauma, so consistency helps. Keep routines stable and communicate plans clearly to reduce stress. If they seem dissociated, offer grounding cues, like, “Let’s sit and feel the ground beneath us together,” echoing the grounding rituals we share.
5. Encourage Professional Support Without Pressure Gently suggest seeking a therapist experienced in DID, framing it as self-care, not a fix. Say, “I’ve read that a dissociation specialist can help explore this—would you like me to help find one?” This supports their journey without pushing, like guiding a seed to sprout in its own time.
Your presence as a non-judgmental ally can be a powerful gift. Educate yourself through reputable resources (like the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation) and keep showing up with love and openness.
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The March full moon graces the skies on March 14th as the maiden is just about to be stepping back onto Earth beckoning the flowers to blossom and bloom in the sign Virgo. Virgo is the sign of the psyche, healing, and analyzing our actions of the past, present, and future. The Full Moon in March is here to remind us of the resilience in the self sacrificing maiden. To remember that now is not the time to lose hope. To always have faith even if your systems are being destroyed and order is being lost . Change is hard but we need to realize that any sort of change, in whatever form, will lead us to different places. New ways of doing things, leading to new systems being put in place, and new ways to help those around you. When we let go of the need to control every outcome, and know every detail of the plan ahead of time; we can go to places even we fail to imagine or dream for ourselves to reach. This full moon will illuminate the importance of the connection we have to our physical vessels and bodies. Giving us a portal to connect to it under its shining silvery rays of light. This is because, Virgo has the ability to listen to their bodies, connect with higher selves, and follow their hearts. This also helps us stay grounded. And this is its greatest gift. Come join me in this blog post as we follow the worm trails under the Earthly blood red light of the Virgo full moon together.
First, What is the Full Moon
Over the centuries, the Moon has played a significant role in different cultures and traditions. The full moon simply put is when the moon is completely illuminated in the sky and it has reached it’s peak in this lunar cycle in the sky. When the moon is completely illuminated it’s time for all to reach full expression. The full moon is the most powerful and potent time of the entire lunar cycle.
A full moon occurs when the transit (moving) Sun and Moon are in the exact opposite positions in the Zodiac (called an opposition). The full moon greatly affects humans and it’s no wonder it does because, there’s a scientific reason for this – we are made up of 60% or more of water. Full Moons are the peak point of the lunar cycle: at this time of the month, the light of the Sun is fully illuminating the Moon, and the luminaries are exactly opposing one another from our perspective on Earth. This potent alignment offers us opportunities to gain more awareness about what is moving in our inner and emotional world, and information previously uncertain or hidden could be revealed at this time.
With the moon being fully illuminated it creates this portal to some of the most potent energy to connect to for us to manifest our desires and dream life. This portal creates a connection to our peak creative energy and the deep seated creative passions we all have within us. This creative energy and power is the energy we need to actually do and create the things and lifestyle we need to manifest what we desire. With the new moon phase being about planting the seeds of what you want to manifest, the full moon is about actually doing the work and moving the energy to make your manifesting happen. The full moon allows you to bridge the connection between these energies and themes and bring them into your life while reminding you how important it is to have them in your life not only when the moon is illuminated in the sky for you to see.
There are so many ways to work with the full moon, to learn more about the basics of working with the full moon energy check out my blog post here and you can watch my class all about lunar magic. But, remember each full moon will be slightly different and have different practices to add and different ways to do it based on which zodiac sign the full moon is currently in at the time.
The Worm Moon
As the last whispers of winter fade and the first hints of spring begin to unfold, the Full Moon of March rises, casting a soft glow over the new life beginning to bloom on earth. This is a time when nature starts to stir from its slumber, and we, too, feel the pull of new beginnings. This means the creatures and critters that are crucial for every ecosystem living deep down in the nutrient rich soil; the worms begin to come out. As the worms emerge from their winter slumbers and begin reclaiming their places among the dirt and foliage. Their trails are like beacons to the robins welcoming them back to feed and usher in Spring. This is why the full moon of March and final full moon of winter is most commonly known as the worm full moon. This full moon is all about hearing the last fading whispers of Winter as the ground and snow begins to unthaw and we begin to welcome the warmth, hope, and new life of Spring.
This worm full moon is overflowing with energy during it that is palpable in the air around us and electrifying to our bones. It’s a full moon that is one of the most transformative throughout the lunar year. Allowing us to break down everything we have been taking in during our introspective winter. To digest it and keep t he nutrients needed while releasing the things that only cause us harm, illness, or even death. Just like the earthworms do down deep beneath the soil in our gardens allowing our seeds to be nourished and grow. Worms remind us to dig through resistance to forge new paths. Because, Spring can be an intense, messy, and muddy season of change. If you’ve been stuck, hesitant, or doubting your next move, the worm full moon encourages you to keep moving. Keep digging, keep creating new tunnels, and the way forward will reveal itself as you go. Don’t let the mud thick with energy of both Winter and Spring keep you stuck in place any longer this month.
As with most pagan names there will be different ones for each culture so below I listed any of the other names for the cold moon I could find across the Earth. The common themes for these moons are; the end of Winter, the beginning of Spring, new beginnings, renewal, or March’s unpredictable weather.
Eagle Moon
Sugar Moon (Ojibwe)
Sap Moon
Full Crust Moon
Wind Strong Moon (Pueblo)
Goose Moon (Algonquin, Cree)
Sore Eyes Moon (Dakota, Lakota, Assiniboine)
Crow Moon (Mohican & Algonquian)
Melting Moon (Nipmuck, Algonquian)
Death Moon
Chaste Moon (Old English)
The lunar eclipse energy
So, what about the lunar eclipse energy happening right now? if you go online especially on social media you will see countless warnings telling you not to do any workings during a lunar eclipse including making moon water. They say its a time of bad omens, and a time that is too chaotic to harness and work with. I simply don’t agree with this. This may be because I am a grey witch. I just don’t see why we can’t work with a moon phase that is chaotic. The universe and all that exists within it sprouted from chaos or nothingness. This is a common theme in many different belief systems, cultures, and stories across the Earth and time like in Mesopotamia with the goddess Tiamat. So, wouldn’t working with chaos like the lunar eclipse be a very primal and potent things for us humans to do? I think so. But, it will be up to you and what you decide for your own practices and beliefs.
This eclipse is also a time to close a karmic chapter and cycle in our lives and begin writing the next new chapter. Eclipses tie to endings, so this can be a big eclipse for finishing something. To finish something that is meant to truly allow us to move and heal in our lives and evolve. Eclipses are times of release and truth-telling. Even though the eclipse is in intellectual, analytical, and practical Virgo, it’ll heighten our emotions and urge us to release the past. To reorganize our thoughts, emotions, and inner feelings allowing us to declutter our mental and spiritual space. This full moon and lunar eclipse energy combined together will be a huge time for releasing baggage, whether it’s spiritual, emotional, subconscious, or karmic.
What is a blood moon?
Right now we have another energy affecting this full moon that while it sounds eerie has quite the opposite affect and has been happening for thousands of years. First, what is a blood moon? Due to the moon’s eerie, color-shifted appearance during total lunar eclipses, these full moons are often nicknamed “blood moons.” So, in other words blood moons are simply just a nick name for or another way to describe a lunar eclipses. Remember a total lunar eclipse means that the Earth has moved fully between the sun and the full moon. The sun’s light is blocked from reflecting off the moon, giving us the striking yet eerie red color that has been known for hundreds of years as the blood moon. What’s really unique about the blood moon is that is doesn’t happen all night long but, instead for a pocket of time. Typically lasting about only 2 hours. Not only that, they only happen twice a year! Meaning this is a rare moment of time and portal of energy we have a chance to tap into.
So what is that energy you can tap into during a blood moon? Since the blood moon is connected to a lunar eclipse, it naturally speaks to new beginnings, definite endings, and intense culminations. A lunar eclipse is a great time to do something you are afraid of or come to an important decision, and a blood moon only heightens this effect. Pushing us harder to close a chapter that no longer serves us, to allow a new beginning to open. During this blood moon you may feel intense emotions like anxiety or stress while equally feeling extreme happiness or joy. Just follow those emotions and let them take you on the ride you need in order to close a chapter and open your next one.
So, who is Virgo?
This sign gets a lot of crap in the zodiac and many do not like to work with it and we often see people talking about how this is their most hated sign and energy to work with. For me this moon is one of my favorites every time it comes around. Maybe, it’s because I not only am a Virgo moon and rising, but I have Virgo in 9 of my houses so, when this moon comes around I personally am amplified. Or, maybe it’s because this energy is so dense and steeped in duality and movement. Which, I just simply can not wait to see what I can accomplish and get done while in it. But, let’s talk about who Virgo is to the Zodiac and the energy she represents.
Virgo is represented by the virgin or maiden archetype and is deeply connected to the element of earth and is a mutable sign. Virgo is an Earth sign so it’s practical, stable, and grounded but, it’s also related to Mercury. Which means it has an active mind and is related to communication as well. Virgo reminds us of the importance of maintaining a solid connection with the Earth and encourages us to connect with the divine order amidst the vast universal chaos. It reminds us the comfort the bounty of the earth has to offer all around us and the beauty order can create in nature.
The sign of Virgo, is rooted in the physical world which makes Virgo the sign of health and wellness, so right now we may focus on trying to work on health issues. This includes scheduling needed medical appointments, changing your eating habits, hydrating yourself, adding exercise, and adjusting your sleep schedule. Virgo’s ruling planet Mercury has dominion over the brain and the nervous system, which reminds us of the links between the mind and the functions of the body. This can be the perfect energy to use to help you eliminate a bad habit, or to quit something that is causing you harm.
Virgo can also be seen across many pantheons as a key representation to the seasons, duality, and a key part to the divine feminine energy we all are connected to. Virgo is represented by the maiden and virgin energy making her vital to the triple goddess representation of the divine feminine energy. She represents and connects us to the first pivotal transformation and shift we go thru in our lives moving from child to a maiden before the next phase into the mother energy of our lives. You see this energy and representation with goddess like Persephone and her story of transformation to power thru duality.
Virgo the Maiden/Virgin
Unlike the majority of other zodiac signs, the symbol for Virgo is very unique since it is not an animal. Instead, the symbol is the beautiful maiden or the virgin and is depicted as a young woman carrying a sheaf of wheat, an image that can be interpreted as a fertility goddess or a harvest maiden. The maiden stands for beauty, purity, and tranquility. Virgo translates to “virgin” in Latin and the maiden is symbolic of this translation but, not in a sexual sense like we know it as now. It is referring to the definition of the word long before that. With it meaning a woman who was “one-in-herself.” or who wasn’t attached to a man. So, this sign really is about the power the divine feminine has in her own right. The Maiden’s presence amongst the stars is considered a reflection of patience, integrity, and honor it takes to wield title. Virgo displays all of these traits within the zodiac. The Virgo symbol of the Maiden also expresses the service-oriented qualities of this zodiac sign. The parts of Virgo that exist to give up all of themselves in service of others. To care for others, and make sure everyone around them lacks for nothing. Even if it means they will deny themselves and go without those things their entire lives. We see this in the fact that the maiden is the sign associated with Sprig and the harvest. Both pivotal points of the year when the people get all they need to be nourished and survived. As a grounded earth sign and an analytical mutable sign, Virgo is easily the purist intentioned of the zodiac. Which comes with a high level of need for purity, cleanliness, and order in life.
The Virgo Constellation
Virgo is the largest constellation of the Zodiac and the second largest constellation in the sky with hydra being the only one larger. It is located between the constellations Leo and Libra. It contains the bright star Spica, aka the Autumn equinox star. It also contains many exoplanets and deep-space objects. The constellation is widely associated with the harvest which is why it is known as the Autumn equinox star. It marks the part of the sky where the Sun rises in autumn, when crops are harvested. In some Greek stories and myths, Virgo is Persephone, the daughter of the Greek goddess Demeter who ruled over the harvests.
While in others, maybe the most common myth; Virgo relates to Dike, the Greek goddess of justice. Dike was the daughter of Zeus and Greek Titaness Themis. In Greek mythology, Dike lived in the Golden Age of mankind. She was born a mortal and placed on Earth to rule over human justice. The Golden Age was marked by prosperity and peace, everlasting spring, and humans never knowing old age. When Zeus fulfilled the old prophecy and overthrew his father, this marked the beginning of the Silver Age, which was not as prosperous. Zeus introduced the four seasons and humans no longer honored the gods as they had used to. Dike gave a speech to the entire race, warning them about the dangers of leaving behind the ideals of their predecessors and saying worse was yet to come. Then she flew to the mountains, turning her back on humans. When the Bronze and Iron Ages came and humans started warring among themselves, Dike left the Earth altogether, and flew to the heavens.
A few other smaller known mentions I can find associated with this constellation are; the corn goddess Atargatis, the Syrian goddess of fertility, and Erigone, the daughter of Icarius, who hanged herself after her father’s death. Plus, historians Eratosthenes and Hyginus also associate the constellation Virgo with Tyche, the goddess of fortune, even though Tyche is usually depicted as holding the horn of plenty and not an ear of grain.
Magical Themes for the Virgo full moon
Every full Moon contains its own themes, which are related to the sign that it falls under. This time we experience the full moon under the Earthy, grounded, analytical, organized, meticulous, practical, productive, self-sacrificing, and nurturing ; sign of the maiden Virgo. You are most likely to see themes focused on these topics as you reorganize your life, habits, and thoughts to shine a bright light on the unique ways you are meant to serve others. This full moon in Virgo is an invitation to let go of outdated habits, attachments, and patterns that keep us stuck in self-criticism, overthinking, and perfectionism. Keep in mind that the full Moon relates to the continuation of your journey to manifest your desires and dreams. So, make sure your release work helps you make those happen. Let’s shine a light on some of the themes and energies of Virgo more brightly below.
Magical themes for Virgo full moon
Helping
productive
analytical
practical
nurturing
organizing
self-sacraficing
duality
intellect
duality
balance
health
structure
perfectionism
declutter
transformation
critical
patient
work
kind
motivate
meticulous
introspective
industrious
serving
Magical themes for the worm moon
Hope
Adaptation
Nourishment
Renewal
Manifestation
new beginnings
Good luck
Optimism
Purification
Virgo the Practical and analytical mind
Virgo is deeply connected to our practical and analytical side of our mind and it is heightened with it’s connection to mercury as well. With it being so analytical this energy can cause us to go deep into our minds and reflect. The Virgo full Moon highlights the invitation to notice in what areas of our lives we need more discernment, better boundaries, and a stronger connection with the Earth. Virgo likes to cut through the noise and get to the good stuff; constantly sorting out thoughts, feelings, and everything around them. A Virgo’s mind is never silent. Virgo energy allows you to figure out what’s useful or useless, what’s true or not true, what’s right or wrong.
The Virgo full Moon offers us chances to see where better standards may be needed, where we may be ungrounded or excessively idealistic, and what needs to be differently structured or organized for the sake of better functionality or health. This lunation also invites us to refine our capacity to discern between the whispers of our intuition and the voice of our fears and insecurities. Take the time to really focus on differentiating between those voices. Figure out what voices are the ones based in reality and which ones are based in anxiety and a constant need for control. Taking the time to do while the moon is full in this energy will allow you to see clearer paths full of detail and structure. Giving you the steps you need to take and the action plan to make all of your goals, dreams, and manifestations bloom this spring. But, don’t allow the analytical energy of Virgo to turn into ruminating thoughts which it can very easily do. Trust me I know! Nothing is worse then a Virgo shame spiral or what if question game. Let go of the need for control and needing to know how everything will go. This full Moon in Virgo is a time to let go of self-doubt, perfectionism, and self-criticism as you step into your potential.
Virgo the sign of heightened productivity
The Virgo Full Moon is often a time of heightened productivity. Virgo is the sign of work, and Full Moons rule endings, so we’re working hard to get things done. The urge to finish your to do lists is going to be overwhelming and you may become very hyper focused on them. We can tackle projects, tasks, and chores at home or at a job, and we want to feel we’re getting all of the little things out of the way. This is going to be overwhelming and you may become very hyper focused on them. You will take great joy in checking each task off the list as you finish it. ( I always do but, during a Virgo full moon its almost orgasmic) We can take on and tackle all the tiny little projects, tasks, and chores at home or at a job, we have been putting off but, now must take care of and get done. This full moon is your chance to get organized, finish your goals, and take action towards your dreams, without being overly critical of yourself. It is the full moon to finish all those things you have been putting off that are critical to your goals being met and your dreams coming true. No matter how tedious of a task it is or how mundane it may seem. Virgo thrives on these detail oriented type of things, use it to check them off those t do list now!
Virgo is very detailed orientated, and thrives in order and cleanliness. So, when we are in this energy we can be focused and pay close attention to detail. By detail, I mean every tiny little detail. Things you have never seen before you will notice. Things that didn’t use to bother you before will become highlighted. Things you didn’t think mattered will become vital and important to the purity of your home and order of your life. You may become aware of things in your life, your home, and relationships you never may have noticed before. When we find things that are out of place we want to p urge them, cleanse them, clean them, or throw them away. Under this sign we become hyper focused on doing whatever we must to maintain order to create balance in life. Because, of this we can get hyper focused on tidying things up in our physical space by doing a Spring cleaning, reorganizing our home, or purging and donating things. We may even purge our thoughts on systems, beliefs about the universe, and our relationship s with others. If they threaten the order of the life we have created or are attempting to create.
During this full moon with the extra attention to detail we can take a look at all areas of our life to see where it can use some more structure and order to lead to more efficient productivity. I know for me I end up redoing my bullet journal, my family binder, my schedule, my sons schedule, the list could go on. I end up endlessly planning and rearranging things but, in a very reflective way with purpose and drive for long term goals. Virgo reminds us that our time is finite and that we must treat it as a precious resource by releasing the things that threaten our order.
Virgo always being of service to others
Virgo is the sign of service to others and is overflowing with nurturing energy that simply wants to help anyone and everyone they see that needs it. Virgo is literally the healing energy of the cosmos and the energy that will help you with anything you need help with. Virgo takes deep happiness from helping others. You see this with many of your nurses, doctors, lawyers and social workers being from this sign. Virgo’s essence of being of service encourages you to align your actions with your heart’s desire, making this a powerful moment for intentional living for the greater good of the collective.
Since, Virgo loves to lend a helping hand, don’t be surprised if you are the first person to volunteer when a friend asks for a favor right now. But, don’t be mistaken; you won’t feel obligated in the least bit. Because Virgo loves to pitch in, you’ll not only want to come to someone’s aid, but you’ll also get extreme satisfaction from it.
This full moon makes it a great time to take a look around your community and see where you can serve those around you. What needs in community are not being met? How can you help those needs be met? How can you serve and nurture those around you? Where in your community can you volunteer your time to serve others? It’s a perfect lunation to start volunteering somewhere, plan a fundraiser, or host a community awareness event; especially focused on mental health with Virgo being the sign of the mind.
Use Virgo to release perfectionism
A full Moon in Virgo highlights the need to resolve imbalances, connect with a deeper sense of harmony, and gain a better understanding of how, where, and when we tend to get polarized or tempted to adopt a “one size fits all” approach. This energy helps us create a balance between the emotional and the practical. Virgo reminds us of the dangers of idealization, it reminds us that perfection is a trap, and also that remaining stuck in fantasy doesn’t allow us to appreciate and be present with what is already available to us. The Virgo Full Moon is a powerful time to release our attachment to ideas of how something should be, or how it will unfold, or what it will look like. Instead making sure we keep our feet on the ground, practicing self-compassion, and learning to love both ourselves and others in our humanness.
What to be cautious of during a Virgo full moon
So, let’s talk about the reasons why this sign tends to be so hated and what to look our for yourself with the Virgo energy. Since Virgo is so attached to your analytical side and so detail orientated it can come off as and be very critical at times of others. So, try and slow down and be clear with your communication with others during this time. Let them know you are coming from a place of caring, and simply wanting to help. But, when you do this make sure to let go of the need to be right. Simply make sure you listen to how you came off and state your intention. Don’t listen to that little voice telling you that you need to be right and know every detail of why and how you made that person feel the way you did. Simply accept what you are being told and let it sit with you as their experience which isn’t something you can control.
With it being critical one thing this energy may do is cause your reflection and analysis to get very critical and harsh with yourself and cause some perfectionism to take over. That little voice in your head can turn into quite an obsessive, controlling, and nagging bitch if you let her while the moon is in this energy. So, remember to harness and focus in on the part of the Virgo energy that is nurturing and helping to others and extend it to yourself too. Give yourself all the love and service you feel others deserve from you. And remember Virgo is the sign of health so physical self care can really build self compassion and help keep your critical thoughts at a productive level and not a harmful one.
Remember how Virgo brings heightened productivity and a push to get stuff done? That can sometimes go into overdrive with the Virgo energy. It can become so strong you simply want to go, go, and go. You may feel the need to get so much done you push yourself to burn out. Or you feel like you simply have no worth if you aren’t getting things done, especially in service to others. During this time remember that the only way you can continue to be productive is by taking those breaks now and than when you need them. So take them! Set yourself some reminders in your phone even if you have to. Nothing, feels worse than doing a massive amount of work to watch it all backslide because you burn yourself put and can’t follow through. Plus remember you have worth no matter what it is you are doing or not doing! Your worth isn’ t based on your productivity level.
Virgo full moon and duality
Since, I am a grey witch every single energy I work with I look for the duality in that energy and how I can connect to it. First let’s talk about the duality of the full moon. The full moon itself is all about duality as it is another time of transformation, transition, and rebirth. During this time we are pushed into a liminal space that forces us to look at the things, people, and places that have been obstacles or holding us back. This can be a thing of beauty and hope as well as a thing of pain and darkness which forces us into duality.
Second, let’s talk about the sign Virgo. I’ll say it again, I may be a bit biased on this sign But, Virgo in my opinion is an energy that we miss the duality of often. Virgo is known for being very analytical, methodical, and detail oriented which creates an energy focused on change, goals, growth, problem solving, tiny details, and at times perfection. But, this sign is also one of the most compassionate, caring, and nurturing signs of the zodiac as well. Which also creates an energy that is very deep, loving, emotional, sensitive, and at times self sacrificing. The mix between these two energies weaves an energy and magic that pushes you to look at every tiny detail for perfection and ways to change things and those around you and for yourself. With the deep nurturing desire to push them and/or yourself to grow, heal, and be the best versions we are all capable of being for the greater good of the collective.
Correspondences for the Virgo full moon
First, what is a correspondence? A correspondence is an item or symbol that is meant to connect you to a specific energy thru it’s representation. It is seen also as an item to respect, honor, and venerate that energy as well whether it be a deity, an archetype energy , or the zodiac energy the moon is currently in like for Virgo, I will list below for you to use. Remember to follow your intuition with the correspondences you choose to work with and that you can always use any that correspond to the moon itself as well.
Now, that we have talked about the themes of this worm Virgo full moon and how it is going to affect you let’s talk about how you can specifically connect to and work with this moon. In magical practices, under a Virgo full moon we can focus our spells on things like grounding, connecting with the Earth, taking care of our body, routine, structure, personal growth, and nurturing others.
First, make sure to do all of your staples that your learned in the previous blog post on the full moonand the moon in general like, charging your crystals, making moon water, and resetting your altar. Make sure to make moon water this lunar cycle. Moon water is great for release work and can be used to release the emotions we have holding us back from going with the flow of life. We can release the damn of control and unlock new ways to nourish ourselves and those around us.
With this moon there are certain spells and rituals that will help connect you this moon in the most effective way. It’s a wonderful time for spells focused on purification, healing, organization, and practical matters like getting or keeping a job. Spells and rituals focused on grounding yourself into the Earth and connecting back to your physical body will be very powerful right now. Remember these are just some of the many ideas. Follow your intuition and the energy of this moon. Below is a more extensive list of ideas on how to connect to and work with the worm full moon in Virgo.
Shadow work– Do shadow work to release unrealistic expectations and perfectionism. If you would like to learn more about shadow work you can purchase my eBook here; . If you would like to learn more about shadow work you can purchase my eBook here; you can book me for a 1:1 session as your guide here; and you can watch my free class previously taught on it through DiviNation here.
Reflection topics and questions for the worm full moon in Virgo
Virgo has a way of drawing hidden themes to the surface, while exposing true feelings and motivations while we analyze and reorganize every part of our being inside and out. A full moon can leave us feeling raw and extremely emotional often even leading to a full moon hangover. At the same time, the Full Moon can lead to new ideas and help energize you towards finding a clearer path. The Virgo full moon will make you feel the nurturing pull of Virgo to be introspective, and really go deep into yourself. While you do this, consider what provides a sense of stability and what brings stress or chaos. This can help you make better decisions about where to put your energy. If you want to follow that grounding, introspective pull to self awareness with Virgo right now listen to it. . Whether you do it thru meditation, shadow work, or divination like tarot; below is a list of prompts and topics to connect with the energy of the worm full moon in Virgo . If you would like to learn more about shadow work you can purchase my eBook here; you can book me for a 1:1 session as your guide here; and you can watch my free class previously taught on it through DiviNation here.
What physical and mental spaces can I clean up and declutter?
Where in my life needs to be more organized?
What areas in my life am I being too self critical and why?
How can I care for my physical health better?
What past experiences or patterns do I need to release to move forward with clarity?
Where can I let go of unrealistic expectations in my life?
What areas of my life do I need to be more productive in?
How can I balance my emotion mind and logic mind?
Who in my life have I been too critical of and why?
How can I show others in my life more compassion?
How in my life can I be of more service to others around me?
What does self care look like for me and how will I make it a priority in my routine?
How do I feel when I make a mistake and why?
What are the key values and principles that guide my decisions and actions?
How can I be of service to others while also honoring my own needs and boundaries?
What areas of my life need the most organization and structure?
Reflect on aspects of your life that feel chaotic or disorganized. How can you bring more order to these areas?
What did I accomplish this lunar cycle I can be proud of?
What areas of your life do you feel you need to be perfect at? Why do you feel this way? What from you past has instilled this in you? How can you let it go and leave it in the past?
What in my life must I have control of? Why do I feel I must control it? What would happen if I let go of the need to control it?
What would releasing perfectionism look like and feel like to me? What would it do for me? How could it improve my life?
What old patterns or beliefs do I need to release to move forward?
Explore any limiting beliefs or habits that are holding you back. How can you let go of these to make room for new growth?
Reflect on your current work-life balance. What changes can you make to ensure you’re giving enough time to both areas?
Ritual to Declutter and Reorganize your life with the Virgo full moon
I use this ritual all the time to help me declutter my to do list, refocus my priorities and to help me realize my expectations may be a little unrealistic and cause burn out and lower self esteem by setting myself up to fail. This ritual I created with a combination of therapy skills I learned to help manage my OCD which if you think about it, is very much the essence of Virgo energy as well.
All you will need is something to write with, a white candle and some post it notes.
How to perform
Get into sacred space. Light your candle and use the flame to focus your breath and your attention. As you are breathing in and out you want to focus on calming energy filling your space in a bright yellow color. Once you feel surrounded in that calming yellow energy you are going to let your mind focus on the things you have been avoiding or procrastinating getting done. Once you have things coming to your mind you will than take your pen and on one post it note at a time you will write a task out. Do this until no more tasks come to your mind. Once you feel all tasks have been emptied from your mind. Take a few minutes in sacred space to reflect on what you have written on your post its and decided if the amount may be too overwhelming to work with. If the answer is yes stay in sacred space and reflect until you know which tasks to eliminate now. Once you feel grounded in your number of tasks you can blow out the flame of your candle and release your calming yellow energy.
Now, take your post it’s and place them on your fridge or somewhere front and center in your home to remind you to complete them. And every time you complete one take the post it and burn it in gratitude and leave the ashes on your altar or release them to the Earth.
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About Me : I have been a solitary grey magic practitioner for 15 + years. First and foremost, I consider myself a mystic and seeker of all knowledge. I am dedicated to the restoration, and re-enchantment of Magic in society, across this realm, and in each and every soul I come across in life! I am here to create a container that promotes healing, duality, and raw authenticity. I do this by guiding you on your personal journey to understanding your unique magic and sacred contracts. I facilitate this for you through embracing your shadow, duality and learning to live in energetic balance while not wearing a mask. When you work and learn from me you do so from your “darkness” as much as your “light” and in a way to truly harness and accept it not to just go thru it on the way to your light. But, I teach you how to truly embrace it, work with it, and use it alongside your light as a partner. I hold up a mirror for you to be able to see your authentic reflection looking back. Then have the courage to take the next step and do the uncomfortable but vital inner work to completely remove your mask. By facing all of your past wounds, traumas, and hurts. Allowing you to see both the dark and light within your story and take each chapter and alchemize it into something that is so powerful. your unique internal flame will shine so bright you will always be able to go within and find it on a dark cold night. You will learn how to truly live in duality and energetic balance to allow growth, and alignment with your sacred contracts and purposes. to finally move on and truly let the things that hold you back in this life from healing and manifesting go. To see everything I offer; like personalized shadow work sessions, womb healing, eBooks for you to work through on your own, Tarot sessions for guidance and more! Go to my shop!
We all need some inspiration, insight, or someone’s else’s perspective to help us navigate and understand the universe and life from time to time. One of my favorite ways to do this is to go to books or the internet and read others words. When I do this it opens up a portal to try and understand their experience that is called life and how they have come to understand the universe we live in. That understanding of someone else’s experience creates a bridge to allow me to shift perspective and learn some new things about myself and the universe along the way as well. This post is a collection of some of my favorite quotations of my own and of others from the past year that really helped me on my path of major transition, growth, and learning this past year. I hope they can help you as much as they helped me!
So be a person they can’t beat. Keep getting back up. Keep fighting. As long as you keep fighting they can never actually win. The fight is coming and as long as we keep getting back up they can never really win.
You create true magic when you learn to let go of control. Let go of controlling the journey and how you will reach your destination. True magic happens when you keep going when that obstacle seems so big in your path there is no way around it. True magic happens in the moments you want to give up and quit. In those moments when you are exhausted and feel like you have tried every which way to keep going to reach your goal. In those moments when you feel stuck and like there is nothing left to do but, turn around and give up. True magic happens when we remember like water we have the ability to be fluid, bend, and be adaptable if we truly let go of controlling the way we must go and just flow.
Never ever quiet that song in your soul. You know the one I am talking about The one that plays in your head when you are alone. The song that no one else but you knows. The one you that makes your whole being vibrate in recognition when it hears it. The one you can’t help but belt out loud. Always let it play out loud for all to see in how you live your life authentically.
I say let it shine and let them cover their eyes. Maybe one day they will be ready to shine just as bright. Until then never let those who are unhealed dull your light.
Stop doing things that make you unhappy. Stop being around people who don’t match your energy. Stop putting yourself in situations that leave you feeling drained. Stop allowing others wants and needs to destroy your peace. You get to choose who you are around, what you around, and the situations you put yourself in. So stop making choices that cost you your peace no matter how it makes others around you feel. Start setting boundaries and watch the peace enter your life.
Be a voice not an echo-Albert Einstein
Now, this year with the energy going on in the collective, the snake slithering its way into our year soon, and the messy rebirth that is happening, it is the time to really grab onto this quotation and take it to live by. To be a voice and not an echo means to embrace your different-ness, to be daring, to take a chance and to take the road less travelled. When you are a voice , it’s when you realize that you are different and thinking differently is the right thing to do. It’s how we evolve and change and keep moving forward in life. Being a voice and not an echo means that you are choosing to use your own voice, your own authentic expression, and your own words when formulating your view of the world around you. Instead of simply being an echo of your environment and what you have been taught. When you are simply an echo of someone else’s voice, you don’t have personal ownership in what you say, and those beliefs you think are yours? Well they aren’t. They simply are an echo of someone’s else heart.
Being a voice and not just an echo is daring to be brave and question the things around you. It’s being willing to be wholly and authentically you no matter who is around and how hard the world makes it for you. When you choose to embrace that you are your own unique voice and not simply an echo of the generations who have raised you. It gives you the freedom, and the permission to speak up and share what you have to offer the world in your own unique way. Embracing being a voice instead of an echo may be a rougher path to travel but, I promise you when you choose to become the authentic voice that is you and let the world hear it, the liberation felt when those chains fall is like nothing else. I want you to choose now and here, to be willing to question everything you think and then decide….. Have you been your own voice or an echo this whole time?
This voice in my souls whispered this to me , Reminding me of the power that I wield. Reminding me of the reality I can shape. Reminding me of the rage and fire that burns deep inside that I can call on to protect myself and those who can’t protect themselves in this life. Reminding me to not forget I am a powerful witch, we do not kneel to anyone or any power. We wield it, we stand with it in our hands, and we fight until we have reshaped our entire life. Taking out corruption along the way. I won’t allow myself to become small and shrink into the shadow to not be heard like this administration would like. I will be loud. I will scream. I will get in their faces. I will stand up and fight. I will not let them take my rights and way of life without putting up one hell of a fucking fight.
Even if you think your thoughts on your life and on the people you know are ‘facts’, they really aren’t. They are a series of beliefs you have chosen to live from – your perspective. Your perspective is the way you see something. It’s the unique way that we interpret and understand our own experiences, thoughts, and emotions, essentially our perspective is acting as a lens through which we view the world around us. Our perspective affects so much of our lives, from our mental health, our interactions with others, our beliefs, and so much more. The way you choose to see things directly affects every choice you make. So your perspective ultimately determines how your life turns out. Your perspective might feel permanent, but it isn’t. Whether you realize it yet or not, your perspective is actually a choice you have made. And like any choice, it can therefore be changed. So, I challenge you to be willing to challenge your perspective today and see how and where it may need to be reshaped. Doing this could make a big difference on not only your day but, maybe even your entire life.
Some paths aren’t meant to be traveled with others by our side. Some paths are meant to be traveled alone. That doesn’t make them sad or lonely, but full of strength, wisdom, and empowerment. It teaches us resilience and shows us all we can truly accomplish. When we really stop and soak up the silence all around us as we travel our path alone beauty will be found all around.
When you make the choice to heal your wounds and confront the traumas that have been written into the pages of your story. What you are really doing is being reintroduced to pieces of yourself you may have kept hidden in the dark and the pieces of you that were there before you locked them away to keep them safe. This is when you get to relearn who you were before those traumas framed how you view yourself, and the world. Along with the skills they taught you to use to protect yourself and how you respond. Then you get to do the harder work and let go of those things you learned to protect you then and let them go. Reminding yourself that you no longer need those skills and responses today for they no longer serve you and the place you are at now.
Choosing to heal, to really truly go into your soul and mend the things that are broken and bring things to the surface that were hidden is not an easy thing to do. It’s one of the most painful things you will ever go through and it becomes amplified by the fact that it is self inflicted on top of that. The pain you experience when going through the healing process is even going to hurt more then when the wound was inflicted on you in the past. But, that’s okay it’s meant to hurt deeply at first for that is how we truly heal how we move through that pain and allow the medicine of healing to burn and chase away the poison that you had circulating in your energetic veins.
I am not here to live my life IN service to others. I am not here to be some cog in a machine that is brainwashed in what I think. I am not here to fall into a line and take orders from anyone. I am here to be me. I am here to stand in my own power. I am here to change how we think and how we do things. I am here to wake others up I am here to tear shit down, burn it to the ground, and eradicate that line. If doing this means I am not in your heaven that is fine. I would much rather reign in hell where true power and independence can be found in the flames raging all around.
Anger like a fire just is. It isn’t good, it isn’t bad. It just is. what matters is what we do with it and how we direct it. We can either let it burn out of control and consume us. Or we can carefully stoke the flames and choose what is burnt away. You can either build with it and light the way or destroy with it. It is your choice. Right now think carefully about your choice. You can let the heat and flames of the anger you feel now consume you and destroy not only you but, the change you could affect. Or, you can take it and carefully stoke it. Allowing it to still burn at just the right height and heat to be the motivation you need to continue to fight.
For true lasting transformation and change to happen we must be willing to do things we have never done. We must be willing to truly look deep into the depths of our soul and be honest and accountable with who we are and what we do to try and make our manifestations come true. We must be willing to step into the unknown without fear and trust that if we listen to the changes we need to make lasting growth will come at last. We must be willing to let go of who we have been in the past. Looking into the future with brand new eyes willing to do the things you thought you never could or would to become all you should. With it being Scorpio season right now is the perfect time to do just that. Grab onto this moment of transformation and step into the unknown with willingness to do things completely new to achieve lasting evolution to a brand new you!
Your soul already knows the answer you just have to be quiet enough to hear it and brave enough to listen to it. The next few days as the veil reaches it’s thinnest point I challenge you to truly sit and listen to not only the whispers of the dead but of your very own soul. Reflect on this past year, the triumphs and the hurts and the lessons your soul has learned. Listen to the answers it’s been dying for you grab onto and use to reshape your reality and awaken. Than be the brave being you were meant to be and step through the veil and into this next year with power, purpose, and alchemizing your fear.
While making wishes and sending them out into the multiverse is a step in your manifestation process and essential. It isn’t the farthest we should go. We can’t simply make a wish with our breath and let them go. We must follow those seeds, see where the land, and cultivate them with our energy, actions, and decisions to make them grow. So today, make the choice to not just simply wish for your dreams to come true but, invest your energy in ways that will make it happen for you soon.
How often do you let your mind and self talk turn into shaming and tearing yourself down? Especially when it comes to your goals, personal development, and growth. How often do you hear yourself try and motivate yourself through comparison to others, belittling yourself or shaming yourself for not doing things you feel you should? I am here to tell you to take a moment and stop, because shaming yourself into change and becoming who you want to be will never get you the long lasting changes you wish to see. Give yourself grace because I know it’s a loop that’s easy to get stuck in and difficult to get off. Then move forward with motivating yourself to true evolution through boosting your self worth, and love.
Some of us did not come to this realm in this lifetime to be supported and carried by others but, we came here to be the support system for the collective. If you’ve had a challenging life, if you are the black sheep and feel like you never had the proper support and love. That is because YOU are the love and the support system for everyone. So, make sure to take the time each and every day to do the inner healing work to help move the collective into a place where they truly feel the love and support you were contracted to bring to the Earth.
When was the last time you validated yourself? I am referring to positively recognizing your thoughts, emotions or actions. When was the last time you took a moment to stop the negative chatter in your mind? Stop waiting to hear the positive words, praise or encouragement you’re craving. Tell it to yourself because you’re the only person you have complete control over.
Self-worth is at the core of our very selves—our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are intimately tied into how we view ourselves as human beings. Which in turn affects our magic, our manifestation, and how we walk around in our communities and go through life. If you don’t feel your self worth is where it should be, take some time today to really sit and reflect on where you have been. Remember every time you fell and got back up again. Remember every scrape, every bruise, every rejection, every broken bone and every hurtful thing someone has ever said. Remember each one those things no matter how hurtful, traumatic or bad they were; you did not stop. You kept going and proved it was all wrong and you wouldn’t let it break you. Each one of those scars, breaks, and every tear wasn’t weakness but, strength and a deposit into your self worth bank. Take a deep breath, focus on that bank of strength you have and remember you are worthy no matter what happens or anyone else says. For every ounce of that strength and self worth in your bank you have earned.
Remember you are growing while also trying to heal. Remember you are grieving while also learning to forgive. Remember you are searching for the future while trying to let go of the past. Remember you are trying to love others while learning to also love yourself. Remember you are accepting yourself for who you are now while also working to become who you were always meant to be. So, give yourself a break and some grace each and every day.
When life, others, or even yourself start to make you feel small, insignificant or like you don’t matter at all. Please stop, take a moment, and be kind to yourself and stand up tall.
Personal growth is central to who I am and how I live my life. I’ve come to learn a lot from the snake when it comes to this process of transformation. They shed their skin every time it no longer fits or serves them. Making the process of transformation very familiar to them. They don’t question it they simply allow it to happen knowing that after that painful process is done, they will be able to slither and breathe like never before. They don’t care what that process looks like to others walking by and they ignore every mumble of disgust and side eye. And if they feel threatened or their boundaries have been crossed they don’t even question to unhinge their jaw and protect themselves while they are healing and raw. Be like the snake as you move through life.
Remember if you are going through shit right now you can use it to allow you to grow and thrive like never before. Nature does it all the time. Just go and ask the mushrooms.
As much as falling apart is difficult, parts of me does truly love it. You get to be so intimate with the raw energy of your soul. It gives you the time to examine each shattered bit of your soul. To filter out the pieces that no longer serve you and lay them to rest with love. To be face to face with the pieces you will carry forward with you in resilience and strength.
Some of the hardest things I have had to heal and work through revolve around the things I didn’t get and receive from others and types of relationships I never got to experience. It’s important that we recognize and work through all of it to be the complete, whole, and balanced creature we were meant to be.
When the fires are all around you and you aren’t sure your skin can take anymore burns; just remember that each step you take and the taller you stand the more power you put into your own hands.
Don’t wait to love yourself until the change is complete, love yourself through the process as well.
Remember,to not care what anyone else thinks of you and their perception of you. You need to do whatever it takes to heal, keep going, and create a healthy and thriving life.
But, remember boundaries aren’t you telling someone else what they can and cannot do. Boundaries are you saying how YOU will respond to the decisions they make and the actions YOU will take. They aren’t rules you enforce on others, they simply are advocating for yourself, your well being, your energy and your time.
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About Me : I have been a solitary grey magic practitioner for 15 + years. First and foremost, I consider myself a mystic and seeker of all knowledge. I am dedicated to the restoration, and re-enchantment of Magic in society, across this realm, and in each and every soul I come across in life! I am here to create a container that promotes healing, duality, and raw authenticity. I do this by guiding you on your personal journey to understanding your unique magic and sacred contracts. I facilitate this for you through embracing your shadow, duality and learning to live in energetic balance while not wearing a mask. When you work and learn from me you do so from your “darkness” as much as your “light” and in a way to truly harness and accept it not to just go thru it on the way to your light. But, I teach you how to truly embrace it, work with it, and use it alongside your light as a partner. I hold up a mirror for you to be able to see your authentic reflection looking back. Then have the courage to take the next step and do the uncomfortable but vital inner work to completely remove your mask. By facing all of your past wounds, traumas, and hurts. Allowing you to see both the dark and light within your story and take each chapter and alchemize it into something that is so powerful. your unique internal flame will shine so bright you will always be able to go within and find it on a dark cold night. You will learn how to truly live in duality and energetic balance to allow growth, and alignment with your sacred contracts and purposes. to finally move on and truly let the things that hold you back in this life from healing and manifesting go. To see everything I offer; like personalized shadow work sessions, womb healing, eBooks for you to work through on your own, Tarot sessions for guidance and more! Go to my shop!
Happy New Year everyone! I can not believe we are at this point again here! As we welcome the new calendar year saying hello to 2025 and also saying goodbye to 2024 I sit in the duality of the liminal space of transition as I reflect on the past year and look to the new year ahead. Sitting in this liminal space and allowing myself to reflect creates a portal that helps me acknowledge the things I went through, recognize the lessons learned, and gather my thoughts and/or feelings and focus for the year ahead.
My highest heights
. To give the year a proper send-off and reflect on the past 365 days without falling into a pattern of dwelling on the past to the point that you have trouble moving forward, I look at the best parts of the year through a lens of taking note of the highest heights I was able to climb. Actively realizing how far I’ve come and celebrating the wins along the way gives me the perspective and motivation I need when focusing on losses and unwanted things seems all my mind can do that day. Some of my highs from the past year are listed below.
The goals I was able to meet.
The new people who came in and blessed my life becoming a cherished part of my community I am rebuilding.
The kindness showed to be by family in some of my darkest days by taking me in when I didn’t know where I would end up.
The magic I was able to weave.
The projects I was able to begin, finish, and how my way to express and create changed.
The energy I was able to contribute to the collective and the change I was able to make in my clients lives and through my voice and actions demanding change.
The amount of love grown between the bond of a mother and a son another year of life can make.
The growth a huge mistake someone making can force to take place within a marriage if you choose to forgive and continue your journey together forever with a fresh new clean slate
My deepest depths
I don’t forget about the duality of this liminal time and day. I also look at the worst parts of the year through a lens of taking note of the deepest depths of despair and sorrow I had to face. Reflecting on the lows of the past year means taking time to intentionally think back on the most challenging, difficult, or disappointing moments of the previous year. To acknowledge and embrace the unwanted emotions associated with them. Allowing them identify areas for growth or self improvement moving forward. Some of my lows from the past year are listed below.
The confusion and doubt from learning how to enter a technological world I knew absolutely nothing about.
The fear and anxiety of being rejected by others never selling a product or booking a client with business I am using to help support my family every single day.
The overwhelming feeling of failure when losing my job, getting utilities shut off on me and losing the home I had built for my son and family the past few years.
The feeling of grief and loss in who I thought my husband and my marriage was when betrayal entered our life and home.
The loneliness and isolation felt when having to finally close the door and cut off contact with all the family I have connected to me through blood.
The resentment felt when you take care of everyone else’s world and you don’t see it reciprocated back into your world from those you love.
The lack of self worth when facing a relapse from an eating disorder, starting a new business on social media, and healing from betrayal
My Biggest Overall lesson of 2024
“Don’t let the fear of the unknown keep you from taking bold steps toward your goals. The greatest opportunities lie on the other side of fear.”
As you sit to reflect on the past year as it comes to the end and look forward to the next year ahead. I want you to think of this. Think of every single time you didn’t listen to the fear of failure. Think of every single time you didn’t listen to the anxiety and worry of not knowing if things were going to work out in the end. Think of every single time you kept going even though you had no idea where to go or how you would get there. Didn’t each one of those times get you to a brand new place, build a new thing, or help you meet your goals to achieve your dreams? I’m going to guess the answer is most likely yes.
I know for me the last year was a entire lesson in all of that. I launched this page, started a business, and stepped into a new sacred purpose I had no idea how to shape. The entire time there was fear in the unknown Fear that I wouldn’t have things people would want to hear. Fear that my gifts weren’t something people really wanted me share. Fear that I didn’t have the power, skill, and time to learn how to create this sacred container especially in a technical way. Fear that I would have to lose things very dear to me in order to make this dream come true and those I love would walk away Fear that the balance between creating content and being present in life couldn’t be had. But, even with that fear there, I kept going. And now just look at where I am at and all the opportunities I have had! This business has done more and has a farther reach than I ever thought I could have!
My First Year as a small business owner
With the turning of a new calendar year I sit here and set my goals and intentions for my personal growth, my family, my personal life, my marriage, my health, and now for my business, this page and sacred container I have created in this past year of my life. This goal I set at the beginning of last year was only supposed to be a small little blogsite for me to write and get my thoughts out in life. Now look at what it’s become and all the skills it has forced me to learn it had never crossed my mind I would need in this lifetime.
It’s allowed my magic to grow and flow in a way I never saw in life and created a new perspective for how to navigate this reality. My eyes were open to how my voice, my energy, and my authenticity could make a real difference in the collective and others lives entering the universal creative force. I was able to get some much more clarity on my identity. I am a hand guiding you on your own unique healing journey. Teaching you to dance in liminal space & alchemize human suffering into healing, power, and magic for the collective. I show you ways to reenchant your life with magic, personal alchemy,& duality.
The goals I have for this magical, mystical, and alchemizing place this next year I know will allow me to meet this epic, resurrecting, and revolutionizing energy of 2025 coming. Below are some of the goals I WILL climb to in 2025 and give you peak behind the curtain of the creative forces that have flowing through me thickly the last month.
Hit 1000 facebook and pinterest followers
Have 5 people a month join the patreon community
Host 2 major workshops spirit has guided me to lead in 2025
Be consistent with how I am showing up in this sacred community and container
Focus my commitment on supporting all the new offerings in my patreon community
Fight injustice in my community by using this space to speak more about political issues and activism the collective should pay attention too and host more events to empower the collective to fight
Enter new portals of knowledge to bring back and share with all whose ears are open to hear
Listen to those within the community with an open heart to hear what they truly need from to alchemize their suffering
Allow my authenticity to shine through even brighter as a guiding light
My top 24 of 2024
Last year I launched this space and birthed my small business this sacred container on 01/07/2024 . After that one of the very firs articles I wrote and posted was my Top 23 of 2023. My reflection of the top lessons I had leaned during 2023. When I look back at that article now and compare it to the ones I have written even in the last week. the growth in my own voice, my writing style, and my confidence is seen all over my site. Which leads me to the first lesson of my top 24 of 2024 . ( Of course , I am going to keep this gong. do you not know me?) If you allow yourself to walk into the unknown you will be in awe at the difference one year can make. In every single area of my life, from the beginning of this year to where I am now has been completely reshaped. Simply because, I had the courage to take that very first step into not knowing the way. Let’s look at the rest of the lesson s I learned in 2024.
If you allow yourself to walk into the unknown you will be in awe at the difference one year can make.
Anger is one of the most powerful emotions to motivate us to change.
true power comes from alchemizing our past, wounds, and suffering into healing.
Progress over Perfection 2024 reminded me that imperfections build character and can be catalysts to change..
I’d rather have lasting change instead of quick change.
Letting go of expectation reduces suffering.
I would much rather Reign in hell then serve in heaven.
I can never stop going I hold someone’s childhood in my hands.
The Peace you get from cutting out toxicity and drama from other people is resounding.
Your choice to forgive and move on must be for you and no one else.
Shame is something others can make you feel while guilt is something you make yourself feel.
In life we are either learning and growing or decaying.
When you choose to play in the matrix you have to know the rules to play.
You must know who you are to attract the abundance and things you need from the multiverse.
Embody your authenticity with integrity.
Lessons will continue to present themselves until you respond in a different and new way.
You can’t create a new life without being willing to shift perspective and do things in a new way.
The wisdom whispered in stillness and silence is the most profound.
With betrayal comes a deep sense of grief for the person and life you thought you knew.
Look for your glimmer in every single day
You can only enlighten the minds of those whose ears are open to hear it
Change is a natural part of life, and even destructive forces can lead to new beginnings.
Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
Betrayal can be a wake-up call to establish clear guidelines for how you expect to be treated.
Final Thoughts
As I look at the heights and the pits of the past year I can’t help but, be reminded of the duality of life. The constant ebb and flow of energy. The endless turning of the wheel. The one thing we can guarantee in our lives forever; is change. The need for us embracing and balancing the darkness and the light. I see how not only the highs bring wanted things into my life but, pits and falls do as well.
In the form of healing generational wounds and trauma. Pushing me to grow, evolve, and becoming the next version of myself. Shedding and letting go of stories and wounds that no longer serve me and weigh me down. While welcoming in new ways of thinking, being, and perspectives of others and the world. As you sit in both the hope of the future looking at the highs, and setting new goals. Don’t forget to also look at those times you sank into the depths of despair, darkness, and sorrow and lessons they had shining bright inside.
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It’s hard to believe another year has gone by! As we welcome in a new calendar year it’s important to choose your word of the year! If you haven’t already chosen a word of the year now is the time to do it! Choosing a word of the year allows you to look back on your hopes and dreams for the year. You have the chance to set the stage for the year to come and focus on what you need most in your life right now. Your word of the year can help you set goals that share a common theme. Ideally, your word of the year should be something that inspires you to reach your goals, chase your dreams, and drives you to live a fuller life. I truly believe that choosing a word of the year can be one of the most powerful things you can do in terms of goal setting , manifestation, and personal growth when the new year comes around each time.
Why choose a word of the year?
In life, you can’t just wish for your dreams to come true. You need to commit to them, create a plan, and implement a system to make your goals a success. There are countless ways to do this. One that I find to be incredibly useful is to include a New Year’s word to constantly remind me of them and keep them at the forefront of my mind. Choosing a Word of the Year is like picking a theme or central idea you want to focus on for the whole year. It’s a simple way to remind yourself of what’s important and what you want to achieve or change in your life—like having a personal motto or slogan.
When you choose a word, it is usually what you need more of, what you want to focus on, or what you need to improve on. A lot of the time, my word has been blaringly obvious. It helps me gain clarity on my goals, my personal development plan, and stay committed to my goals all year long. This method I have been using for years has now become a cornerstone to the foundation of all my goal setting and manifestation work for each year to come. If all that’s not enough reasons to set a word of the year, I don’t know what is!
How do you choose your word of the year?
Choosing a word of the year doesn’t have to be hard. Your word of the year just needs to provide you with inspiration for the direction you desire this next year to go!
First step is to, reflect on the past year and on the next year ahead. Make sure you look at the highs and the lows of from the past year. Look at what worked and what didn’t. Be authentic and honest with yourself about how the past year truly made you feel. Don’t hide from yourself to try and make yourself feel more accomplished then maybe the last year went as well. But, also don’t let yourself get fixated on the things that didn’t come to fruition through manifestation. Instead be willing to see through your eyes with clarity, the lessons they have taught you as this chapter comes to a close. Below are some of the questions I have used from year to year to pick out my word of the year. Use any of them that speak out to your soul or come up with your very own!
What do you want to do or accomplish the most in the next year?
What was the overall feel of last year?
Is there something you want more of or don’t want in teh next year?
How do you want to feel by the end of next year?
Is there something important you want more of from the past year?
Is there something you cherish you want more of from the past year?
What skills did you learn in the past year you want to use in the next one? What new ones would you like to learn?
What was the biggest lesson you learned in 2024?
What is the biggest lesson you wish to learn in 2025?
What core value of yours do yo wish to focus on this next year?
What feeling fits the goals of every area of your life?
What is the biggest blockage you need to remove in 2025 to manifest your dream life?
How do you want to describe your life by the end of 2025?
How would you describe the year 2024 in one word by the end of it?
What was the best things you manifested in 2024?
What is the biggest thing you need in your life to meet all your goals in 2025?
What major life changes happened in 2024? What ones do you wish to happen in 2025?
What was the greatest challenge you had to overcome in 2024?
Once we have taken the time to sit and reflect with our feelings and thoughts for the past year and then how we want to create the year unfolding ahead. It’s time to sit down and start to get a rough picture of how you want your goals to take shape in the year ahead. This step is crucial. If you don’t know what you want to accomplish, it’s going to be extremely difficult to reflect on your accomplishments and assess if you were successful. While you are doing this make sure to take a close look at each of your goals and try to find any connections between them. If you start to see a link now you may start to see your word of the year start to take form and reveal itself to you. Take a look at some of the categories below to help you start to brainstorm your goals. If you need help to learn more about what goals are you can read my guide about them here.
Finance
Parenting
Relationship(s)
Travel
Home Improvement
Self-Care/ self-love
Health
Career
Self-Development
Mental health
Healing journey
business
hobbies
political activism
Spiritual well being
Learning/knowledge/education
family
fun
cleaning/organization
pets
Now that you reflected on your past year, what you want in the next one ahead, and started to shape your goals for the new year. It is time a create a list . Create a list of one words that fit the feeling of the things you have written down. I like to do this brain dump style. How I do this is I read my answers to the question from above. Then without judgement, fear, or trying to control what comes I pick up my pen and just let the words come. I write down every single one that comes. Now, it is time for you to do the same. Don’t judge any of them that come, you never know which one may sneak up and surprise you. Below you will find a list of ALOT but, certainly not all of the words I have had come to me throughout the years. If any of them are glittering to you on this new day as an unknown year unfolds take them and add them to your list as well.
balance
compassion
commitment
acceptance
release
heal
Focus
Clarity
growth
perspective
integrate
magic
learn
dream
cultivate
prosper
shine
conquer
embrace
peace
simplify
create
accept
explore
adventure
expand
evolve
hustle
Cherish
rest
reflect
bloom
confidence
self love
thrive
elevate
inspire
persevere
forgive
encourage
connect
consistency
renew
enough
alignment
boundaries
pause
seek
gratitude
speak
wander
ground
allow
be
believe
authenticity
honesty
success
softness
family
me
build
devoted
Fight
Flexibility
fulfill
fun
habit
health
home
imagine
divinity
illuminate
indulge
lift
no
now
observe
progress
sparkle
trust
surrender
rebuild
teach
together
fight
unfold
wild
accepting
aware
justice
brave
curious
Disciplined
Empowered
Happy
Intuitive
invested
Wealthy
nourishing
motivated
Now that you have this long list of words in front of you it time to narrow down your favorites. However you choose to do this is up to you. Whether you meditate, use a pendulum, simply sit and reflect on them or something else. Narrow it down to a few or handful of your favorites to choose from.
Drum roll…. Now is the time we have been waiting for. It is time to choose the word that you can commit to as the next year unfolds. As you choose your word you need to make sure you have a strong pull to it so, you feel you can truly commit to it. If you can’t commit to focusing on your word, then you won’t live up to your goals for the new year. You won’t make changes or put the effort forward Make sure .that your word just feels like it fits. Some years you’ll need a more active word because you’re in a season of growing. While others will be more quiet and slow as you are in a season of reflection and introspection. So, make sure the one it is you choose sings to your soul and is one you can really commit to in the long year ahead.
My 2025 word of the year
After I sat down and did this for 2025 myself , the word that was singing to my soul for 2025 is Consistency. What is Consistency? It is the quality of always behaving or performing in a similar way, or of always happening in a similar way. Consistency also means that we’re making sure we’re doing the things we tend to avoid. There are many benefits to implementing consistency in our life to help us achieve our biggest dreams and reach our highest goals. I’ll list a few of them below.
Builds trust- Being consistent in your actions and words helps others perceive you as reliable and dependable.
Helps achieve goals- Consistency is a critical driver for success, and it involves dedicating yourself to your goals and staying focused on what you need to do to achieve them.
Makes lasting change- Consistency is key to making lasting change serving as a catalyst. it can also increase your productivity and motivation.
Helps you overcome procrastination- Consistency can help you let go of fear and procrastination, and take action regardless of how you feel. Which in turn helps with emotional regulation.
Helps you build habits- The more consistently you do something, the easier it becomes, and eventually it becomes a habit.
Consistency enables us to develop the necessary skills and knowledge to excel in our chosen field and become a master as well.
Reducing stress-Consistency can provide stability and reduce uncertainty.
Building resilience- Consistent effort can help you persevere, overcome challenges, adapt to change, and stay motivated in the face of adversity.
Why I chose the word Consistency
Now, to be honest, I’m pretty determined and I achieve most of my goals (at least 80%) but when I reflect on those that I don’t achieve, it almost always comes down to consistency. I would probably describe myself as someone who likes to start stuff and likes the sense of achievement of finishing stuff but ,I don’t enjoy the middle. when you can struggle. When you may have days that you don’t hit all of your goals, check off the whole to do list, or be focused on your goals at all. Those days when I don’t do anything to work towards my goals, manifestation, and growth are the ones that can derail my progress and even my entire year. It starts a shame spiral I really struggle to get myself out of off and it holds on very tight. But, as I sit here now and reflect on those moments they also are some throughout the past year that I learned the most about myself.
I n those moments of being inconsistent I have learned so much about myself in the past few years but, especially the past one. From how to love myself more, trust in my gifts and magic, and learn how I can truly help the collective in this life around. My confidence grew and I learned how to use my voice in a more efficient way, and that my number one gift is my authenticity. I learned that my artistic and creative self has been hiding just waiting for the right way to express itself and be let out. 2024 taught me a lot about flexibility and slowing down. Reminding me that amongst a chaotic year and life I can eventually find peace amongst the anxiety of the unknown and be able to cherish the little moments when I go back to my roots , surround myself in silence and be still.
I also learned that I have a lot more healing to go to keep myself in wise mind which allows me to be consistent with the way I want to live my life every single day. I need to be more committed to working through dysfunction, tough times, and hiccups in life (especially with technology) to be more consistent in showing up in my life. I need to be more focused on not being perfect in my progression every single day. But, to instead be willing to just be consistent to see long lasting change. Where my life, my business, my growth, my learning, and my evolution have been blocked and stopped is with me, myself, and I not being consistent with the things I want in life .With not being consistent with the things I know I need to do in life, to reach the highest peaks and bring my dreams into reality. With allowing perfectionism and a need to control block my sight. So, for 2025 I commit to being consistent with myself in an honest and authentic way.
What does being consistent in this year look like to me?
It means showing up for myself and my goals each and every day. Taking action regardless of how I feel on any given day. It means that this year will be the year I build upon the work I have been doing over the last five years to evolve, grow, and alchemize my suffering. I build upon the last year of work I have put in to build my business(this sacred container) and acknowledging the vast amount of progress I have made so far. I will keep doing the things that work and I won’t worry about the rest. I believe that being consistent will help me both personally, spiritually, and NOW professionally. Being consistent will help me let go of the fear of the unknown, of the self-doubt as to whether I can achieve my goal as well as all that procrastination and excuses. Why? because when you choose to be consistent none of that matters, you just keep doing what you’re doing. It makes you accountable to yourself, to your plan. It will also help me be my authentic self, practice what I preach, and let go of the need to be perfect and in control at all times with myself and my world. So, for 2025 I commit to being consistent with myself in an honest and authentic way.
How to use your word of the year?
Now, that you have gone through the steps and reflection to get to your word of the year what do you do? How do you incorporate this word into your life, manifestation and goal setting for the new year waiting to unfold. How do you take this one little word and have it be the corner stone of your dreams coming true, goals being met, and lasting change taking root? That is really truly going to depend on you and what you need. Think about what works best for you. Below are some of the things I have done in the past years you can try. Just listen to that little voice in your head and heart telling you which way to go.
My personal favorite, . If you haven’t learned how to create one to transform you year completely check out my guide here.
A lot of people like to call them vision boards but, I prefer to use goal boards. Using this term creates a much more urgent sense to complete what is on them instead of making them a some day dream. So, make sure when you create yours for this year your new word of the year you just chose inspires everything on it and is in the center of the board.
Are you a bullet journal fanatic like I am? Do you live your life on the pages of that journal? Why not put your world all over it? I do. I add it to the front o f the page and across every single margin so I see it every year.
Don’t use a bullet journal then write it on your planner, your calendar, or put on the notepad on your phone or lock screen as a home screen saver.
Use your word of the year to be the center of your goal setting mind map. This is one I love to do year after year. I take the word I choose then in the center of a page I write how can I…fill in this years word.. this years number. So for this year it said How can I have consistency in 2025? Then around that question I make boxes for each categories of goals and answer the question for each one. This helps me guide with clarity the goals I should focus on in 2025.
Let your word of the year be the guide and center focus of the SMART goals you set for 2025. To learn more about SMART goals and how to set them check out my guide here.
, you use for the next year.
Another great idea is to create a list of books to read that support your word of the year. If you aren’t a book person then do a list of podcasts, YouTube videos, or documentaries instead.
That bullet journal we talked about earlier why not go and pick out 12 monthly quotes that align with your word of the year. use one each month and write it in your bullet journal , on your bathroom mirror, create a phone lock screen, or write it on your monthly calendar page. You can find daily motivation quotes on my Pinterest page to sift through.
Are you ready to do some extra introspection and reflection with the new year? Use your word of year to create journal prompts or as you focus with shadow work . If you would like to learn more about shadow work you can purchase my eBook here; you can book me for a 1:1 session as your guide here; and you can watch my free class previously taught on it through Divination here.
Write your word on multiple pieces of small paper and seal them in a jar you decorate to pull out on days when you need to remember your focus for the year.
Take your word of the year and write it on sticky notes and place them all over your home to remind you of what is when you need it and you can’t forget it. You could even write it in the inside of your wrist. I have done that from time to time. I suggest don’t use permanent marker or sharpie. I have had it end up on my face by the morning while I sleep through transference. Not fun to try and wash off!
Are you more of a person who lives their life using their phone? Then why not take your word and have it on reminders, alarms, or calendar events to go off and be a consistent reminder for you.
Write your word down over and over and over again somewhere. Putting your goals which this word is tied to, in writing enhances their tangibility and strengthens your commitment to achieving them.
Share your word of the year with friends and loved ones. You can do this in anyway you like. When you Share your goals with trusted friends, family, or a mentor you gain encouragement and accountability. If you need a community to share your word with comment below, comment on facebook, or in my patreon.
Lastly, make sure to spend some time in a quiet, calm, and sacred container so you can meditate and visualize what living your life focused on your word of the year will look like, and feel like in the year to come.
Final thoughts
When it comes to choosing your own word of the year, there is no right or wrong way to do it. It’s about choosing one word (you may or may not want to choose a mantra/affirmation/quote instead or to go alongside) that will encompass your intentions for the year ahead. You want it to be your focus, your reminder to be your best self for the year. Your reminder to walk your own unique destined path to help heal the collective and the souls you find on your travels. Perhaps your word will come to you in a flash of inspiration or maybe you keep seeing it pop up as you go about your day. It might come to you quickly or it might be more slowly – you will know when you know. Just follow that intuition, trust yourself, and choose YOUR word. Then set your goals and reach for the stars! Just remember that 2025 can only be better if you choose to make it better. You have to put in the effort to make this year the most magical, and best one yet! What is your new word of the year? Come join me on Facebook or patreon and let me know or comment below!
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During fall the energy and essence of gratitude is in the air all around us as we watch the fields being harvested with the bounty from the land and making it’s way to our tables for gathered meals as we give thanks with our families in November and December. This time of gratitude has me thinking of the importance and significance of cultivating a mindset of gratitude in my life. Cultivating a mindset of gratitude is a powerful tool to realign our thoughts and energies and allow us to live life from a state of wise mind and duality. When you practice gratitude you are building a deeper connection with yourself. You are committing to self-awareness, self-reflection, and self-compassion and these are essential tools for supporting your personal growth, mental health and overall well-being. As the saying goes, “What consumes your mind, controls your life.” So why not let gratitude consume our minds and dictate the course of our lives? By shifting your focus to positivity, gratitude not only improves your mental health and self-esteem but also enhances relationships and boosts overall well-being. Learn how practicing gratitude can transform your perspective, leading to a happier, more fulfilled life .Discover the life-changing benefits of gratitude with this 7 day gratitude challenge in this blogpost today!
What is gratitude?
Thankfulness, gratitude, and appreciation are all deeply connected, simply they all mean expressing the pleasant feeling of being thankful and appreciative for something one has received. The word gratitude comes from the Latin word gratus, which means “grateful, pleasant”. Not only is it something we feel and experience but, it is a tool we can use to reframe our perspective. Using gratitude as a tool allows you to shift your focus. From what you believe your reality is towards what you want your reality to be. They are both very real, but you choose to prioritize one over the other.
The Science behind gratitude
It turns out, the benefits of gratitude aren’t just motivational fluff you see on social media everywhere. Scientists have actually shown that gratitude can physically change your brain. This research made me realize that the mind’s ability to “rewire” itself—known as neuroplasticity (A term I Learned while in DBT) —plays a big role here. When we practice gratitude regularly, it strengthens certain neural pathways, just like exercising a muscle. In fact, gratitude activates regions in our brain linked to pleasure, reward, and emotional regulation, including the prefrontal cortex and the hypothalamus. Let’s dig into a bit of it now!
Practicing gratitude effects our brains by stimulating the production of dopamine (a chemical messenger (neurostransmitter) that works in the brain. It helps nerve cells send messages to each other. When dopamine is released in the brain, we feel a sense of temporary pleasure) and serotonin (another messenger which creates a long-lasting feeling of happiness or wellbeing), often referred to as the “feel-good neurotransmitters. These chemicals play a vital role in regulating mood and emotions. By regularly expressing gratitude through different ways in our lives, we essentially train our brains to produce more of these beneficial chemicals!
Researchers have discovered that expressing gratitude can also trigger the release of oxytocin, the hormone responsible for strengthening social bonds and creating feelings of trust and connection. So practicing gratitude not only improves our relationship with ourselves, but also enhances our ability to build and maintain meaningful connections with others and ourselves.
Historical Significance of Gratitude
Historically, the concept of gratitude isn’t new. Many ancient cultures emphasized the importance of thankfulness in their traditions and rituals. For example, the ancient Romans celebrated a festival called “Lectisternium” where they expressed gratitude to their gods for their blessings. The festival of Setsubun central in Japan and Shintoism is a time when they give thanks to the kami and the land for the spring and fertility to come. Plus pagans have many, many holidays centered around gratitude and giving thanks like Mabon,Samhain, Beltane, Hekate’s night, and so on! Honestly there are too many holidays centered on giving thanks to name. Similarly, every religion has holidays, and festivals that are centered around the act of giving thanks, We even have holidays centered around cultural and country specific reasons to give thanks like Thanksgiving in the USA, highlighting its timeless significance to our human existence.
Benefits to practicing gratitude
By dedicating just a few minutes each day to this practice, you can begin to experience a shift in your perspective. You’ll start to notice and appreciate the small joys that make life special, from a sunny day to a kind gesture from a stranger. Ultimately, this simple act of focusing on gratitude for a small pocket of time can lead to profound changes in your mindset and overall well-being like some of the benefits we will explore more below.
Gratitude aligns your with the flow of abundance
When we acknowledge and appreciate the blessings, big or small, that surround us, we invite abundance into our lives. Gratitude shifts our focus from what is lacking to what is plentiful, fostering a sense of contentment and fulfillment allowing us to enter into the flow of abundance. Once in the flow, we are able to connect to the generosity of the multiverse and have all of our needs met.
Gratitude creates a life attracting positivity
Practicing gratitude not only has a positive impact on our mental and emotional well-being but also attracts more positivity into our existence. By expressing thanks for the opportunities, relationships, and experiences we have encountered along our journey, we create space for greater joy and success to manifest. Embracing a mindset of gratitude transforms challenges into valuable lessons and setbacks into steppingstones toward growth and achievement.
Focusing on gratitude builds resilience
Gratitude and having a daily practice focused on it, can help individuals build resilience by encouraging them to find silver lining in challenging situations. When you’re able to see the good even in difficult times, you become more emotionally resilient and better equipped to cope with problems or life changing events as they arise. By acknowledging and appreciating the good, you develop a more balanced perspective, making it easier to cope with challenges by allowing you to access wise mind and use the DBT skills that will be the most effective.
Gratitude reframes our perspective
By focusing more on a habit of gratitude, you learn to reframe your thinking and concentrate on the positive aspects of your life. Our brains have a natural tendency to dwell on negativity, a phenomenon known as the negativity bias. It is an evolutionary survival mechanism that once served a purpose but can now hinder our well-being. In our day and age we don’t always have to be on alert for dangers in the wild to be able to survive and provide for our families. Of course we have a new set of issues nowadays, but our bodies do not have to constantly be in fight or flight mode. By consciously redirecting our attention towards gratitude, we counteract this bias and retrain our brains to notice and appreciate the good things around us. This shift in perspective can significantly improve mental well-being.
Gratitude helps us heal from childhood trauma, abuse, and pain
Learning how to practice gratitude after childhood trauma can help in your healing journey immensely by helping you reach radical acceptance. I know how hard it may seem to practice gratitude, especially when you’ve experienced childhood abuse and trauma. It’s hard to be grateful when we’re born into an unloving home with toxic or abusive parents that makes us doubt our self worth. It seems insensitive or perhaps even offensive to suggest. However, the benefits of gratitude, and practicing gratitude can help with healing from trauma. Also, gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring the fact that bad things did and do happen. It’s possible to feel grateful yet still find that life’s hard sometimes. It isn’t easy, but it can make a difference.
Other benefits of practicing gratitude
Feeling grounded, especially during challenging times
Boosting your mental health and well-being
Allowing your mind to focus on the positive things
Making you more optimistic
Developing a new-found appreciation for the simple things
Cultivating a healthy work-life balance
Relieving stress and overwhelm
Decreasing anxiety and depression
Fewer physical symptoms of illness
Forming a deeper connection with yourself, your surroundings and others
Ways to connect to Gratitude
Gratitude has more power to make our lives happier and healthier than we have ever imagined. Spending a little time each day to practice gratitude makes you consciously and intentionally focus on becoming more grateful for everything around you. It is also a great way to practice being more mindful and helping you shape a reality where you thrive. Feeling and expressing gratitude changed my life. I have more confidence in myself and I see people and situations in my life more compassionately. I have more peace of mind than ever before and I’m more certain that I can design the life I want for myself while maintaining wise mind and duality.
Discover some simple and powerful gratitude rituals below to transform your daily routine and boost your mental well-being. These easy gratitude practices help cultivate mindfulness, positivity, and emotional resilience. Whether you’re new to gratitude practices or looking to deepen your daily routine, these rituals are perfect for anyone seeking peace, happiness, and a life where you thrive in wise mind. Start and/or end your day with a grateful heart and watch how your mindset shifts. When you practice gratitude, it becomes part of all areas of your life. Join me on this 7 day gratitude challenge below and watch your reality become what you truly want and your perspective be reframed.
1.Keep a Daily Gratitude journal
Gratitude means, “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.” So to practice gratitude is to show your own appreciation of things. Either in your head, out loud or on paper. The most popular form of practicing gratitude comes with journaling and keeping a daily gratitude journal. A gratitude journal is more than just a diary; it’s a dedicated space where you regularly record things you’re thankful for. This simple yet profound practice encourages you to focus on the positive aspects of your life, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem. By doing so, you train your mind to see the good in everyday situations, fostering a more optimistic outlook on life.
So, for day 1 of this gratitude challenge we are going to start are very own daily gratitude journal practice. When you do this find a quiet place you can sit down and simply answer the questions below, Writing down the things, people, surroundings, etc, you are grateful for at that exact moment as you reflect on your day. Try to do your best to make this part of your daily routine from here on out. Here is a link to this gratitude journal for you to download and use as many times as you would like too!
2. Create a gratitude list through a brain dump
For day 2 of this challenge to help us reframe our life with gratitude, we will focus on getting a bigger picture of the things in our life we have to be grateful for. Doing this allows us to reframe our perspective even wider looking past just the day we had today to further beyond. Today’s challenge task is an easy one – make a list of everything you’re grateful for. You have wonderful things in your life already. It’s up to you to notice it. Think about everything you currently have going on in your life (or don’t have going on – in a good way). Take a moment to reflect on these blessings. There is nothing too small for you to be grateful for. You can be grateful for that cup of hot tea you get to enjoy every morning, that playtime with your child, your cat purring as they lay sleeping near by… List everything you can think of in a journal for you to see in one place. Allowing it all to sink in. Each and every single thing you have to be grateful for in your life as a whole.
3.Create a gratitude Jar
For day 3 of this challenge to help us reframe our life with gratitude, we will focus on that bigger picture again. While creating a way for us to come back to it in times of doubt or hardship when we need a little reminder of what we have to be grateful for. We will do this by creating a gratitude jar. So, what is a gratitude jar? A gratitude jar is a manifestation exercise where you add notes of gratitude to a container of your choice. Now, there are a few ways to use this tool of gratitude and a few ways to make it, First way you can choose is to take the list you made in day 2 of this challenge and either cut it into smaller pieces. Or write each thing written there onto sticky notes or smaller cut pieces of paper. Then you can take those pieces place them inside a jar, and leave it in your home somewhere you can see it. That way when you have moments of doubts when you are thinking life is too dark and you can’t go on because you have nothing to hold on for, you can pull as many of those little papers out. Then read them to help you reframe your unwanted and emotional thoughts.
The other option for how you can make this tool today and start using it to reframe your perspective brings more attention to your gratitude practice each day. Take one piece of paper and sit down and think of something that happened or someone who made your day worth being grateful for today. Once you have that in mind write in on your piece of paper then place it inside your jar, coming back every single day to do the same thing. Then whenever you would like come back and open your jar to read all the things you took the time each day to write down you were grateful for. You can go back in a week, at the end of the month, or what is common is to to wait until the end of the year on New Year’s Eve. Don’t forget either you can get creative and decorate your gratitude jar in any way you want as well bringing more joy to this daily practice of gratitude.
4. Express thanks to others in your life
For day 4 of this challenge to help us reframe our life with gratitude is to focus on expressing thanks to others in our life. Think about people that have done something for you at any point in your life. It can be today, yesterday, or even decades ago. Typically, people are grateful for their parents, guardians, caregivers, other family members, spouses, children, and friends. Let me remind you though that you don’t have to be grateful for people who have hurt you, even out of obligation or blood ties. (unless you want to be). So, think about those in your life that have held you up, supported you, and allowed you to grow into the beautiful human that you are. Then find a way to express your gratitude and thanks to them and do it. Whether that be by sending them a random text, getting them a card, or by giving them a gift. Do little and big things for them as they’d do for you. Spend quality time with loved ones. Connect and bond. Savor the moments you get to spend together. Don’t take any of it for granted because you never know how much time you have left with someone. So cherish it while you can. The goal is to make sure they feel your appreciation and how much your think they are truly worth. But, remember a simple “thank you” is usually enough for those who support you with their love. Plus it could also be a small act of kindness to brighten up someone’s otherwise dark day.
5. Prioritize and practice self care
When you practice gratitude you promote self care and end up prioritizing yourself. Because when you practice gratitude you are building a deeper connection with yourself. You are committing to self-awareness, self-reflection, and self-compassion and these are essential tools for supporting your personal growth, mental health and overall well-being. It allows you to truly connect with yourself on a raw, wholehearted level and changes your perspective on things. So, for day 5 of this gratitude challenge I want you to pick an activity that you consider self care and you are grateful you have the ability to do today. Then be as mindful and present as you can while you enjoy and soak up the time of self care you have today. Take in and notice how when you focus on self care it allows you to connect to parts of yourself and things you have to be grateful for in your life. For me when I slow down and focus on me it really allows me to open my eyes, and reframe what I see. Opening me up to more that I have to be grateful and thankful for. To learn more about self care and how vital that is in your life and how it promotes self love as well as gratitude click the link to read my guide here.
6. Spread gratitude through acts of kindness
For day 6 of this gratitude challenge we are going to use a little bit of DBT and bring our focus to gratitude by spreading it to someone else. Sometimes it’s hard to see what we can be grateful for because of life circumstances or our mental sate. If you are having a hard time in life or you are feeling anxious and/or depressed seeing things you can be grateful for may be clouded or something you simply don’t want to do. So, today we are going to use opposite action if we need to and instead of focusing on what we don’t have or what we have lost get out and spread kindness to bring us something to be grateful for. That feeling in our heart that glows and brings us joy plus the smile on the other person’s face is more then enough to be grateful for today.
For day 5 of the challenge today get out and give yourself something to be grateful for by being kind to others today. Spend 30 minutes doing something kind for someone else. This can be something extremely small like leaving a note on their doorstep, sending an email to thank them for all they do, making breakfast for someone, or volunteering your time. Do whatever it is that comes from the heart and makes you feel good inside.
7. Use affirmations of gratitude
For the last and final day of this challenge we are going to use simple yet very affective tool; gratitude affirmations. Gratitude affirmations are a simple tool you can use daily to help you see the beauty that life has to offer. So what are gratitude affirmations? Gratitude affirmations are positive statements that you repeat regularly to stay in wise mind and cultivate a mindset of gratitude. There are so many ways you can use gratitude affirmations in your life. For day 7 of this challenge pick one of the ways you feel called to use them below. Then pick some of the affirmations in the graphic to begin using today. I personally love to say mine out loud when I wake up in the morning and before I close my eyes at night.
Write them in your journal
Choose a new affirmation for each day of the week, then write it on a post-it note to keep by your desk
Choose 3 affirmations to focus on each day and say them out loud to yourself
Set up automated reminders on your phone so you get notified with an affirmation or multiple affirmations throughout the day
Get creative and draw or write an affirmation in your bullet journal
8. Bonus- Shadow work prompts for deepening your gratitude through journaling
Shadow work through journaling focused on gratitude and what we have to be grateful for can bring about a greater sense of contentment. It encourages you to see the glass as half full, which can have a profound impact on your attitudes and overall perspective of life. It brings you to a place where you are able to let of of fear and meet yourself and your life fully. When we journal and do shadow work based on gratitude it helps you become aware of all the goodness in your life. Even the things you may not see as things to be grateful for right now because they live deep within the shadows of your heart. If you would like to learn more about shadow work you can purchase my eBook here; you can book me for a 1:1 session as your guide here; and you can watch my free class previously taught on it through Divination here.
If you want to deepen your journey with gratitude beyond this challenge you can access these bonus shadow work prompts in my FREE shadow work journal here!
Final Thoughts
Showing appreciation for things doesn’t always look like journaling or making a gratitude list. Sometimes it can be as simple as making a language shift. So instead of saying “I have to do this” and feeling resentful or unexcited, change it to “I get to do this” for an instant positive mindset shift. Remember, you don’t “have” to do anything. No one is forcing you. You are the one in control of the choices you make. You “get” to do what you want to do, so feel excited and grateful for these opportunities and life you get to live each and every day.
Don’t forget to also be grateful for yourself! During this gratitude challenge make sure when you go through each day to include things that are only about you. Being grateful for yourself or anything about you is probably one of the hardest things to be grateful for. I know as a childhood abuse and trauma survivor it is for myself. So, if that is please make sure to make this part a priority. No matter how you feel about yourself or how someone else made you feel. There IS something about yourself that you can find to be grateful for. You just have to look for it. Use this challenge to find it and bring it to light in appreciation.
It’s true what they say: gratitude really does have the power to transform your world. Give it a try, and you might just find yourself, like me, realizing that gratitude was one of the missing pieces all along.
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