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Working with the magic of February; Love, creation, and transition

The air is still cold, snow is covering the branches of the trees, and nature is still and quiet. Yet if we look closely around we will see hints of green starting to break through the white snow covered landscape. Every now and then the silence is interrupted by the flapping of wings and the chirping of birds beginning their mating dances for the coming spring season. This is the contrasting energy of February, a month marking the mid point of winter and the awakening of spring. February is often seen as a time of transition and preparation. As the last month of winter it signifies the final phase of introspection and hibernation before the arrival of spring. February is the month when we hunker down and use this time for deep inner work, reflection, and planning for the coming seasons with the hope of warmer days beginning to peak through the cold winter snow. Come with me in this blog post on a walk through the midwinter woods.

History of February

February is the second month of the year according to the modern Julian Calendar and the Gregorian Calendar and it is the shortest month of the year, having only 28 days in most of them and 29 days in a leap year. Prior to the Gregorian calendar being invented this was the 12th and final month of the year. since the calendar was more pagan by following the natural cycles of the two seasons and began in March. The name February comes from the ancient Roman Februarius. The name Februarius comes from Februa, meaning “to cleanse”.

What is a leap year?

It’s a day that comes around once every four years so of course there is going to be some boosted magical energy for us to harness for ourselves and our lives. Leap Year is a rare moment to step out of the ordinary flow of time. It’s an opportunity to recalibrate, reflect, and realign with the Earth’s natural cycles. With its extra day, Leap Year is a way of syncing our calendar with Earth’s orbit around the sun. It’s like the universe’s version of a time-out, giving us a moment to align more closely with celestial rhythms. Leap Year happens because our calendar year (365 days) is shorter than a solar year (about 365.24 days). Julius Caesar, back in 46 BCE, introduced the leap year as part of the new Julian calendar. Leap Year is a potent day for deep magic and transformation since it’s a day out of time, offering a powerful energy boost for spells and rituals. If you want a change in your life this year, then there’s no better time for doing spell work than on February 29th. If you want to read more about the magic of a leap year and how to use it, so you are ready for the next one in 2028; read my guide HERE

Zodiac signs for the month of February

Those born in January are said to be born under either the sign of the ethereal water bearer Aquarius or the sign of the two fishes Pisces.

Those under the sign Aquarius are typically born between January 20th and February 18th. Aquarius an air sign is represented by the water bearer bringing Earth it’s vital nutrients. Aquarius is said to be innovative, progressive, and revolutionary while spreading wisdom to the world. Aquarius has a vision for themselves and the world, and they’ll work towards it no matter what others say. They can be seen as resilient, holding onto their hopes and dreams long after others have given up.

Those under the sign Pisces are typically born between February 18th and March 20th. Pisces is, fittingly, a water sign, represented by the sign of the two fishes. They’re all known for being emotionally fluid, vacillating between feelings, and being very in tune with their feelings and those of others. Pisces are typically loyal, intuitive, and creative, and they are very sociable.

Sacred Days And Celebrations In February

Every Single month has sacred and important days and celebrations to help you connect to the energies of the month. Plus they usually are a lot of fun to take part in! Below you will find a list of the sacred days and celebrations for the month of February! The common themes you will find are love, passion, creation, romance, commitment, friendship, and self love. Also take note how this month has a lot of holiday energy packed into the shortest month of the year. But, first we are going to talk about a few that take centerstage during this month like the purification of Lupercalia, the love of Valentine’s day, and the awakening of creation with Imbolc!

Imbolc

First up, literally since the holiday takes place on the 1st and 2nd of the month is Imbolc. Imbolc is a sabbat on the Wiccan Wheel of the Year but, is originally an ancient Gaelic/Celtic holiday celebrating the first signs of Spring. At Imbolc, the Earth is beginning to wake up and we celebrate the approaching return of spring. We are through the harshest, longest, and darkest part of the winter. We begin to prepare ourselves to awaken from a hibernation and time of reflection. We begin to reach for the light again as we open our eyes, stretch our limbs, and prepare to leave our places of safety to venture out into the wilderness again. Imbolc is a time for cleansing, renewal, and planting the seeds — both literal and metaphorical — for what you want to grow in the year ahead. Imbolc is holiday all about reflecting on the promise of new life and the first signs of spring stirring within the earth. To learn more about this holiday, how you can celebrate it, and get FREE spells read my guide all about this holiday HERE!

Lupercalia

Next up, we have one of my favorite ancient Roman holidays during the year Lupercalia. Lupercalia is a really fun festival all about purifying the city of Rome and bringing fertility to all it’s people. Which meant the celebrations tended to be a little more full of debauchery and sex. Which, is really my kind of holiday and it gives me big Saturnalia vibes, another one of my favorite ancient Roman holidays. Lupercalia is celebrated from February 14th to the 15th and predates Valentine’s Day by centuries which is why many think this is actually where Valentine’s day partly came from! During Lupercalia, every year, the ancient Romans would perform rituals and then throw parties all in the name of purification. To purify the city of Rome on this festival guaranteed a good crop, plenty of pregnant ladies, and overall good health and happy people for the whole city. If you want to learn about this festival and learn how they celebrated back than. Plus how you can celebrate it today; read my guide all about it HERE!

Valentine’s Day

Lastly, we have easily the most well known and popularly celebrated holiday for the month of February, especially in the United States; Valentine’s day. What is Valentine’s Day? St Valentine’s Day is an annual festival to celebrate romantic love, friendship and admiration. Every year on 14 February people celebrate this day by sending messages of love and affection to partners, family and friends. Historically Valentine’s day is tied to Saint Valentine. Saint Valentine was said to be a priest named Valentine who was imprisoned and beheaded by Roman Emperor Claudius II for assisting persecuted Christians and secretly marrying Christian couples in love. He even tired converting Claudius to Christianity while he was imprisoned. He was beheaded on February 14, which later became known as Valentine’s Day.  If you want to get 9 spells to make this Valentine’s day enchanting and magical check you my guide HERE!

Other sacred days and holidays:

  • Candlemas
  • Saint Brigid Day
  • Groundhog day (USA)
  • Valisblot
  • Presidents day (USA)
  • Black History month-This will always be black history month to me no matter what some executive order based in discrimination from our corrupt President signs.
  • Parentalia
  • Quirinalia
  • Equirria
  • Fornacalia

Magical and witchcraft themes of February

February is a month of reflection, purification, fertility, love, and transition from winter to spring in witchcraft, marked by celebrating the midwinter with Imbolc. February is associated with themes of love, fertility, and purification, with rituals and spells focused on attracting love, strengthening relationships, and cleansing negative energies. This month is a time to honor the growing light, embrace the energy of renewal, and plant the seeds of intention for the coming season. This month we can engage in rituals, spells, and meditations that reflect the themes of purification, creativity, fertility, love, transition, sex and aligning with the natural rhythms of the Earth.

Don’t forget to cast fire spells as well during this month to bring you heat and warmth during the cold winter months. As well as connecting you to the hope of brighter and warmer days soon to come. I love to perform fire magic via candles during this month to create a beacon of light and hope for my mental health during the darkest days ahead and to connect to candlemas that is celebrated this month.

This month we can perform rituals to bless seeds for the coming growing season, imbuing them with intentions for abundance, fertility, and growth. Lastly, if you live in a part of the world that freezes during the winter with frozen water ways and falling snow, binding and banishing magic can be extremely powerful and protective right now. Use the power of the alchemy in ice and snow to banish things from your life you need to let go, or to bind someone or something in place that no longer serves you in a wanted way. Check out more themes for this month and use them in your spells and rituals below.

The gods and goddesses of February

This month is a potent month to work with and honor deities associated with winter, spring, transitions, love, and fertility such as . This month is a good time to get to know the winter goddesses that rule this cold season as well as the goddesses that will help us welcome the blossoming spring soon. Some are associated with the dark goddess aspect as of the divine feminine as well. Allowing for a powerful portal to ancient wisdom and magical knowledge during this month as the snow still falls and spring begins to peak through its layers. Everyone works with and views deity energy a little differently. Whether you view them as archetypes of the human consciousness, representations of the source energy, or as being entities on their own, there are certain deities that now is the time to connect to and honor them in the most sacred and amplified way.( Don’t forget to grab my eBook in the shop to help you explore this)

This month for me is a very feminine month. When I want to go into the womb of mother Earth and allow her to wrap me up in the comfort that all of her love has to offer. To listen to the past, root myself in introspection, and hear the healing whispers from my womb in the stillness and silence of winter. But, it’s also a month to be reminded of the connections we have to those around us and bring us hope with the new light of spring just over the horizon. During this month a few deities take center stage because they have festivals or sacred days during this month to help you connect with them in a very intimate way. The deities that are going to be the best for you to connect to right now are deities connected to fertility, transitions, the winter, spring, love, and community. Below we will talk about some of the deities you can work with this month. I could never list them all here.

Brigid

The first deity I am going to talk about takes central stage during Imbolc. A Goddess in Irish tradition, Brigid is one of the most well-known because, she is the Goddess of fertility and spring. To many she is also known as the Great Mother Goddess of Ireland, and to Christians as a Saint Brigid. With this energy, Brigid brings the remembrance of our Oneness and of the Eternal Essence of the Divine Feminine. She is the daughter of the Celtic God Dagda, a Fae leader of the Tuatha dè Danann.She’s often depicted with fiery hair and a sunbeam cloak. She was born at sunrise with rays of sunlight radiating around her head. She is associated with many things; Poetry, Healing, Midwinter/Imbolc, Flames/fire, Fertility, and Motherhood.

Brigid is considered a Triple Goddess, yet many references distinguish Brigit differently than the traditional Triple Goddess aspects of Maiden, Mother and Crone. Rather Brigid is frequently referenced having three sister selves with three distinct roles, Lady of Healing Waters, Goddess of the Sacred Flame and Goddess of the Fertile Earth.

Callieach

On Imbolc which is the first of this month, Cailleach, the Goddess of Winter, heads out into the world to gather firewood to keep her warm for the rest of winter. If the weather is bright and sunny, Cailleach is out gathering the wood and will be able to gather enough to make winter last a good bit longer. However, if the weather is bad and cold, Cailleach is still asleep and will soon run out of firewood, and spring will come sooner.

Cailleach is often depicted as a powerful, crone-like figure who embodies the harshness and stillness of winter. When she appears to me she also has a blue aurora about her, and her mythical staff in hand. As the guardian of the cold, she is said to control the storms, the winds, and the snow that blanket the earth during the winter months. She is a symbol of death and decay but also of transformation and the wisdom that comes with age and experience. While Brigid heralds the coming of spring and new life, Cailleach represents the slowing down and rest that winter brings, urging us to pause and reflect. On Imbolc, Cailleach’s presence is especially poignant as it marks the shift from the deep, inward-focused energies of winter toward the budding life of spring. Cailleach holds the power to either prolong winter or usher in the first signs of spring, depending on whether she decides to create a fierce storm or allow the warmth to return.

Aphrodite

In Greek mythology, Aphrodite is the goddess of love, beauty, and desire. She is also associated with sexuality, fertility, and pleasure. While best known as the goddess of love, she was also the ancient Greek goddess of fertility, physical pleasure (particularly sexual), eternal youth, grace, and beauty. Additionally, she played roles in commerce, war, and politics. Plus let’s not forget her crucial role, as one of the causes of the Trojan War. Her origins though, are shrouded in mystery. According to Hesiod’s Theogony, she emerged from the sea foam in the waters of Paphos, on the island of Cyprus, born from the severed genitals of Uranus. She supposedly arose from the foam when the Titan Cronus slew his father Uranus and threw his genitals into the sea. However, according to Homer, in Iliad, Aphrodite may instead be the daughter of Zeus and Dione.

Call on her this month to work with the energy of love and deepening your connection to others. Don’t forget to reflect on your relationships as well and find love with those you can. Especially if you are forced into a situation just as she was. Remember, Aphrodite is about so much more than love, beauty and lust though. You can always call on her for those reasons but, Aphrodite is about the passion of creation. Which is why she can be called on for creative expression, and living your passion. She is a great goddess to use for self love, emotional balance and healing as well.

Kuan Yin

Kuan Yin (also known as Guanyin or Avalokitesvara) is a Buddhist goddess of compassion and mercy. Kuan Yin’s name translates to “One Who Sees and Hears the Cry from the Human World” She is often depicted with multiple arms, holding symbols of compassion, and standing on a lotus pedestal. Kuan Yin is a protector of the vulnerable and a guide for those seeking spiritual awakening. She is an all-seeing, all-hearing being who is called upon by worshipers in times of uncertainty, despair, and fear. Her story is one that truly teaches us to love one another this month and the depth our compassion and empathy has the ability to go. You can read her story below.

Long ago in a Chinese state there was a king who had three daughters. He hoped to marry each one off to a suitable family but his youngest, Miao Shan, wanted to become a Buddhist nun to learn more about spirituality and bring salvation to the world. Disgusted by this, the king disowned her and sent her to live in exile. Years later the king fell very ill. A wandering monk came to his aid and told him the only way to save himself was to make and ingest a potion made from the eyes and arms of someone who gave them willingly. Unbeknownst to the king this monk was his youngest, Miao Shan, in transformation. After years of studying she had become a bodhisattva. Having heard of her father’s illness she morphed herself into the monk in order to share her wisdom. In her transformation she told the king to reach out to the bodhisattva of compassion who lived atop the mountain. She told him to send a messenger to plead for help.

At the top of the mountain, in her true form, she received the messenger. Despite knowing that his illness was a result of past sins she willingly gave him her eyes and arms as it was her filial duty to help her father. Back in the kingdom, once again disguised as the old monk, she made the potion and saved her father. The king, now saved, cried out in gratitude. The monk told him he ought to visit the mountain top and thank the person who saved him, and so he did. When he reached the temple atop the mountain he was deeply saddened to see his own daughter, who he had banished, without eyes and arms presiding over her hundreds of followers. He finally came to understand the suffering she must have undergone but instead of anger Miao Shan met him with benevolent love and urged him to follow the ways of Buddhism and live a life of compassion. Then, with a bright flash of light, she was transformed into the divine image of a bodhisattva with her eyes and arms restored.

Juno

Let’s talk about Juno next, although so many associate her with June I also like to use her this month as well. Because, of the energy of love all over this month. Juno, the Roman goddess of marriage, the family, and childbirth was a paramount figure embodying the sanctity and power of matrimonial union and the family. The Roman goddess Juno is among the first gods and goddesses of ancient Rome who is in charge of the women’s lives in the state. Juno’s symbol, which is a peacock, represents her watchful vigilance and her role as the protector of the community. It is assumed that the term “Juno” meant “the young one” because of her association as the goddess of the new and waxing moon. This celestial connection perhaps implying the idea of growth and beginnings, aligns with her domains.

Today, it is accepted that the Roman goddess Juno has the title “Regina” meaning Queen which gives her the title of the “Queen of the Gods.” Juno, being a multifaceted deity, was also the wife and sister of Jupiter, the King of all the Roman gods. She was often represented as the female counterpart to Mars the god of war, highlighting her influence in both the domestic and political spheres. Although the Roman goddess Juno had dominion over family, marriage, and childbirth, she is often depicted to be in a warlike stance, an illustration that is often favored upon by Roman soldiers.

Correspondences For The Month Of January

First, what is a correspondence? A correspondence is an item or symbol that is meant to connect you to a specific energy thru it’s representation. It is seen also as an item to respect, honor, and venerate that energy as well whether it be a deity, an archetype energy, the zodiac energy the moon is currently or for time of the year like a month, which I will list below for you to use. Remember this is just a start to the list for you. You can use any correspondences that connect the magical themes and energies of February. Just follow your intuition on what you choose to work with!

  • Planet-Venus
  • Animal- deer, goat, lambs, burrowing animals, groundhog, robin, wolf
  • Element- water and Air
  • colors-White, yellow, light blue, silver
  • Symbol-Candles, snowdrops, Brigid’s crosses, hearts, cupid,
  • Herbs- Lavender, rosemary, snowdrop, chamomile, primrose, honeysuckle, jasmine, nutmeg, cinnamon, oak moss, myrrh, Pine
  • Stones/ crystals-Amethyst, aquamarine, clear quartz, jasper, bloodstone, moss agate, onyx, aventurine
  • Deities-Sjofn, Mars, Juno, Brigid, Diana, Apollo, kuan yin, Demeter, Persephone, Cailleach
  • Zodiac- Aquarius and Pisces
  • Themes-Transition, renewal, fertility, purification, love, creativity, fire, introspection, awakening, growth, abundance, hope, Sex, planting seeds, midwinter, manifestation, protection, passion, Cleansing, community, friendship, self love, natural rhythms of the earth, opportunities, healing, family

How to connect to the magic of February

We’ve talked a lot about all the different types of energies the month of February has and gives us access to work with. So, how can you specifically connect to those energies? In your everyday life you can make sure your affirmations , intentions, and manifestations align with the energies of renewal, love, creativity, transition, community, and fertility in all areas of your life. Make sure to grab onto the energy of hope in the light of a flickering candles. As you let go of what no longer serves you and head into new beginnings with hope as springs begins to peak through. You can celebrate and honor any of the sacred days and holidays this month has like Imbolc, Lupercalia, and Valentine’s Day.

Some Rituals and spell workings during this time that will be really intensified will be based on releasing the old, clearing away unwanted energy from the past year, and welcoming in wanted energy and opportunities. Other spells that will have some significant meaning right now and help you connect to the energy of February should be centered around planting new seeds, fertility, and fostering loving relationships. This month is another month when you can really get some clear and transformative messages from your guides. As we are in a liminal time of transition siting in the middle of two seasons. You can do this through any means of divination you prefer but, fire gazing or Cryomancy ( snow and ice divination)are some to think about to align with the correspondences of this month.

February creates a very potent liminal pocket of time that is teeming with duality, balance, and the power of transition from one season to the next. It’s a month that really pulls us to go deep within ourselves in the darkness, stillness and silence for introspection, reflection, self awareness, and growth. Especially since it’s the last officially full month of the Winter Season. This makes it a great month to do any work on transformation, reflection and preparation for dark times through shadow work. Allowing the energy of the frozen winter in the last days of winter and in the glimmer of hope in spring just about to be blossoming. If you would like to learn more about shadow work you can purchase my eBook here; you can book me for a 1:1 session as your guide here; and you can watch my free class previously taught on it through Divination here. Plus don’t forget to head to the shop and register for my new course that is beginning at the end of this month!

  • Elemental magic with the element of Air or water
  • Shadow work based on transition, fertility, love, relationships, self love, community, renewal
  • Simmer pot for cleansing, renewal, removing unwanted energies
  • Transformation and transition spells and rituals
  • Herbal magic-brew teas especially, or add herbs to your hot drinks
  • Protection magic– most potent right now will be banishing and binding
  • Purification and cleansing rituals and spells using snow
  • Abundance and gratitude magic- one of my favorites this month is using drinks like hot chocolate and apple cider to call in abundance daily to my life
  • Candle magic- super potent this month!
  • Make some rose water and use in your spells and leave as offerings for deities
  • Bake treats and add sigils to them for love, family, and relationships
  • Set SMART goals and intentions for your manifestations for the coming spring
  • snow magic
  • glamor and beauty spells
  • Ritual bath for purification and self love
  • work with deities of fertility, love, and relationships
  • Divination like fire gazing, snow scrying, melt snow and use the water in scrying, Cryomancy
  • Create a spell jar for self love, to enhance your sex life, or for to attract a new relationship
  • love spells, or obsession spells
  • SEX MAGIC! Plus don’t forget to register for my event all about sex magic in the shop!
  • Get out in nature, feel the snow, the cold, and the frozen ground while listening to the silence all around. Then look around for the new signs of life springing up already around you
  • Make snow water
  • add a self love altar to your home
  • Write situations or people you want to cool off on a piece of paper and bury it in the snow
  • Create a freezer spell
  • Add ice to your ritual bath for added protection and purification
  • Make a snowman as protection ward for your property
  • Work with eggs in your fertility magic
  • Make snowballs and release things you need to let go when you throw them
  • draw sigils in snow and ice
  • create Brigid’s crosses
  • Relationship and communication spells will be extra potent this month and needed
  • meditate as the snow falls
  • make ice lanterns
  • Creativity spells
  • Mirror magic and mirror work
  • go on a shamnic journey with the deer or any of this month’s animals
  • work with the divine feminine during womb healing
  • Work with the snake in your workings and rituals since this whole year is the year of the snake
  • create an altar for the month
  • celebrate Lupercalia by adding some whipping to your love life
  • work with milk in your spells and rituals to honor the energy of Imbolc all month long
  • write love letters for those you care about in your life.
  • Clean off some graves that need some extra love this month and do some graveyard magic with them for comfort and community
  • plant literal seeds and start growing them indoors or in a greenhouse for the coming spring
  • self love spells, rituals, and self care activities
  • Volunteer in your community to those who need to feel loved like at a nursing home
  • perform a commitment ceremony
  • Knot Magic
  • Create and bless gifts like talismans and charms for your friends and family
  • Study and read myths about the gods and goddesses and their love stories and relationships

Don’t forget to check out 9 spells for Valentine’s day in my blog post HERE too!

Duality and the month of February

Since, I am a grey witch I look for the duality in every single energy I work with including sacred times like a month of the year like the one we are currently in, February. When we think about February I feel many often only see one side to this month. The one that is shoved in their faces by commercialism; the love, sex, and fertility aspects of this month with Valentine’s day. Plus we seem to really cling on to that hope of spring with the first signs of life Imbolc brings to our attention on the first of the month. While far too many forget about the coldness, harshness, and stillness that is surrounding us still with Winter. We may be at what we consider to be the mid point of Winter but, that doesn’t mean it will be pleasant and easy to finish out. Some of the biggest blizzards and harshest temperatures of the winter can happen in the month of February. Trust me I know this all to well living in Minnesota. Even now as I am writing this in February I am waiting for an ice storm, almost a foot of snow and below zero temps to hit me in the next few days. While February is a time that is focused on purification, fertility, and love, it’s also a time of darkness, harshness, and having to dig deep within ourselves to survive the last days of Winter.

Final thoughts

We talked about many things in this blogpost including the history, some celebrations, the different energies and magical themes we can work with during this month. Along with how to connect to those energies, deities we can honor and worship, and how to work with the magic of February. February is a uniquely magical time that invites everyone to plant the seeds for hopes with the first signs of spring. While also reminding us of the harshness of Winter sill surrounding us we have to be resilient and get through. Using this month as time to truly let go of what no longer serves us before spring fully emerges. February reminds us that even in the darkest nights, in the harshest conditions, and the coldest times we can still find hope and light. We can still look for new life fighting to break through the snow to survive. It’s the month that shows us the depth of our resilience and our willingness to thrive in harsh conditions. As the snow continues to fall and blankets nature February’s magic graces us with a dance of love, transition, and strength for the rest of winter’s harsh days.

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9 spells for an enchanting and magical Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and whether you’re celebrating with a partner, friends, or basking in your own radiant self-love, why not add a touch of magic to the mix? A witchy twist can transform this love-filled day into something truly enchanting, where your intentions amplify the energy of love, connection, and passion. Let’s step beyond the ordinary chocolates and roses and dive into the mystical realm. Whether you’re casting love spells, creating sacred spaces, or brewing magical potions, this guide will help you add magic to your Valentine’s day to make more enchanting, full of love, and passionate.

What is Valentines day?

What is Valentine’s Day? St Valentine’s Day is an annual festival to celebrate romantic love, friendship and admiration. Every year on 14 February people celebrate this day by sending messages of love and affection to partners, family and friends. Historically Valentine’s day is tied to Saint Valentine. Saint Valentine was said to be a priest named Valentine who was imprisoned and beheaded by Roman Emperor Claudius II for assisting persecuted Christians and secretly marrying Christian couples in love. He even tired converting Claudius to Christianity while he was imprisoned. He was beheaded on February 14, which later became known as Valentine’s Day. To learn more about this Romantic holiday about love, passion, sex, and commitment check out my guide about it and Lupercalia HERE.

First a bit about ethics

Because, we are talking about love spells and sex magic I feel before we dive into the spells I have created here we have to talk a bit about it. Some people will tell you to never do a love spell. They will tell you that it is a manipulation to create a relationship with this magic. They will say it is taking away someone else’s free will. That very well could be. But, the way I see it is these kind of spells are there to amplify and assist, and direct energy and feelings that already exist and are there. We cannot create something out of nothing. That is universal energetic law. So, is it really taking away someone else free will or simply speeding up something that would have already happened? I won’t tell what to do. It is up to sit with these thoughts an sit in reflection and decide for yourself what you think. It is up to you to follow your intuition and decide if these types of spells will be apart of your practice.

Attraction love spell

Valentine’s day is a holiday all about honoring love, romance, and commitment. This makes it one of the best times to cast a love spell. Particularly one to attract your ideal partner and love of your life. Try this love spell today to attract that special someone you have had your eye on into your life. Keep in mind this is not meant for someone in a relationship already, this is not a break up spell.

What you will need:
A rosebud or entire rose flower
Two pieces of paper
A pink candle

How to perform:
Light your candle and on either side of it place two pieces of paper, one with your name and the other with that of the person you are attracting Chant the spell below:
“You and I will be one, in love and unity. Venus, goddess of love, listens to my plee. Let this love come to me. My heart is waiting to be loved by you (name of the person you are attracting) and with my soul dear Venus, I thank you.”
Repeat the spell 3 more times while you visualize your future partner running towards you, imagine them hugging you and telling you “I will love you forever.”
Let the candle burn while you take the papers and either wrap your rosebud in them or close the papers inside your flower petals. Than take them and bury them in the earth. As you do Recite “ From now on you and I will be united in Love as deep as the Earth.”
Once done blow out your candle and place it on your altar. For the next 3 days light it to feed the spell.
Happy Casting!

Self love mirror work spell

Since, Valentine’s day is associated with Venus it is a day to wrap you up in the embracing comfort and cloud of love. The energy of this days invites you to retreat into warmth, love, and compassion this holiday and energy focuses on.
Today is one of my favorite days to put aside the shadow work, to put away the reflection, to put away working with the darkness and I focus on the love and light. This spell below, which is really more of a ritual is based on mirror work and using my favorite magical tool of all a mirror.
Use the energy of this day and the amplification and clarity of a mirror to allow you to see yourself for the magical, worthy, and sovereign being that you are. Allow yourself to fall deeply in love with yourself as you gaze into the reflection of your own eyes with the energy of Venus and love as your guide.PS. if you need to learn more about how to use a mirror as a magical tool you can read my guide HERE.

How to perform:

Grab a pink candle and a mirror, find a quiet space, light the candle, Take some deep breaths while you pick up the mirror and begin to meditate on the energy of love, and the color pink, Once you feel centered in that energy and full of love for yourself. Take a deep long look into your mirror and recite self love mantras and affirmations as you make eye contact with yourself. Do this until you feel like you are totally and completely in love with the worthy sovereign, and magical being that you are.

Spell to enhance sex

Since Valentine’s day is a day all about passion, and love today is a great day to spice up your sex life by enhancing your sexual pleasure, experience and connection with your partner. Check out this spell and perform tonight for a much more enhanced and pleasurable sexual experience! Trust me it works! PS. if you want to learn more about sex magic you can watch my free class on YouTube with DiviNation Academy HERE!

How to perform:
Carve your name and your partners name into your red candle
Anoint your candle with honey while thinking of all the passion, desire, and freedom you want to experience in your sex life.
Take your anointed candle and roll it in your cinnamon and sugar again visualizing all the passion, desire, freedom and climaxing you want to experience with your partner.
Be as specific as possible.
Light your candle during your next sex session together to ignite your passions and let it burn until it goes out on it’s own.
Happy Orgasms!

With Valentine’s day being a day all about love and relationships this makes it a great day to do some magic to help promote a healthy and loving relationship. Try making this spell bag today and place it under the bed you share or carry around on you to help fill your space and relationship with the loving energy to create a healthy relationship. Don’t forget to still communicate, grow, and experience life together as well!
Happy Casting!

Valentine’s day makes tonight a great time to cast some sex magic for an even more pleasurable and explosive experience. Trust me I personally know the effects this magic can have! The spell I created below is all about creating a very pleasurable and explosive sexual experience! Enjoy!

What you will need:
Two red candles
and red ribbon
A photo of you and a photo of your sexual partner
Herb blend:
Basil, catnip, lavender, cinnamon, rose petals, hibiscus

How to perform this spell:
Start by meditating and think intensely about making love with the person you want, if you want added magic you can masterbate as well. Next take the two candles and roll and/or anoint them with honey. Once they are covered in honey roll them in the herb blend.

Next recite” love and lust, I ask you to listen to my request to have (name of your loved one) by my side (your name).
ask you to be with my beloved and to light a fire between us. Ignite the spark. Let lust and passion drive our story and our relationship”.
For added magic you can add a deity of love, passion or lust to the spell as well.
Then take the ribbon and join the candles together with your photos, With the candles still burning repeat the magic spell again. At the end of the spell, let the candles burn out completely, then call your partner and let the explosive magic begin!
Happy casting!

Love and harmony spell

This simple spell works beautifully for couples or individuals seeking to enhance harmony and connection. This is because when we focus on harmony within our relationships we can experience a deeper Valentine’s Day by creating more peace and understanding.

What you will need:

Two pink candles (for love and harmony)
A piece of paper and pen
A few dried rose petals

How to perform:

As always get yourself into sacred container however works best for you. But, make sure you are creating a container focused on the energy of love, harmony, and peaceful connection between you and your partner. Write down your intention on the paper. For example, “I invite harmony, passion, and understanding into my relationship” or “I open myself to love that is true and fulfilling.”
Place the rose petals on the paper, fold it, and place it between the two candles. Light the candles and focus on your intention. Visualize the flame as a beacon of love, radiating positivity into your life. Let the candles burn for 10 minutes, then snuff them out (never blow them out). Keep the folded paper somewhere special.

Make Rose Water

The rose is one of my favorite witchy plants, to work with mainly due to it being so versatile. The rose really is one of those magical plants that can be used in so many ways a lot like some of my other favorites bay leaves and cinnamon. Plus, I love that I don’t have to waste any part of this plant! You can use all of it from the petals, rosehips, rosebuds, the thorns, and the stems. Roses petals have soo many magical properties as well including: beauty, love, passion, lust, peace, purification, loving memories, harmony in the household, divination, ancestral work, funerary rites and healing ! (keep in mind, these will vary depending on the COLOR of the rose too!) Which is why they are the perfect plant to work with on Valentines day! One of my favorite ways to work with them is to create some rose water.

So, what is rose water? It really is what it sounds like water infused with the magical and medicinal properties of roses into it. Rose water is commonly used in witchcraft for various purposes due to its associations with love, healing, and purification like we talked about above. It will add a magical, potent, and loving boost to any spell that calls for water.

Before you make your rose water you need to decide what color rose petals you want to use. Each color of petals will have its own unique energy it infuses into your rose water. Check out below a list of what I find to be the most commonly accepted meaning for each color. Keep in mind it will differ from person to person and culture to culture. So, as I always say follow our intuition and use what works best for you. Don’t take this as an end all or be all.

  • red-True Love, Beauty, and Mourning
  • purple-New Love & Magic
  • pink-Grace and Self Love
  • white-Purity, Youth, and Secret Love
  • yellow-Friendship and Happiness
  • orange-Creativity and Enthusiasm
  • black-Death and Beauty
  • blue-Attaining the Impossible and Healing
  • peach-Closing Deals and Appreciation
  • lavender-enchantment, splendor, wonder, and mystery
  • green- strength and fertility

Valentine’s day Rose petal love spell

Next up, we have another really simple and easy spell using the rose again. I like this one a lot as well because of the emotional connection to water it creates and provides. All you will need for this are some rose petals and a source of running water either a river or a sink will work. Ps. if you want to learn more about the element of water you can read guide HERE.

Step 1- start by visualizing your ideal partner and relationship
Step 2- Take the rose petals and release them into your source of running water while doing this state “As these rose petals move thru the water so my ideal partner and relationship will come to me.”
step 3- Repeat at least 2 times while you visualize and watch the element bring your ideal partner and relationship to you

Create a self love altar

Valentine’s day is a day that is all about the energy of love. This includes one of the most important types of love; self love. Self love opens us up to healing, growth, self worth, mental stability, and so much more! A great way to do some self love magic is to create a self love altar .You can see how to make one below! Ps. if you need to learn more about how to create an altar in general you can watch my YouTube class with DiviNation Academy HERE.

Final Thoughts

Valentine’s Day is a reminder of the magic of love; not just the romantic kind, but the love that connects us to ourselves, our friends, and the universe. The magic of Valentine’s Day is the idea that it’s a time to share love and create special experiences with loved ones. It’s a day to spread joy and kindness. To also increase your passion through potent orgasms with one another leading to reinforced commitment. Valentine’s Day is a time to reflect on our spiritual connection with one another. On this day we can focus on the ways we can help and support each other, both emotionally and spiritually. But, don’t forget to also promote love for your self and build up some self worth as well.

Don’t forget to head over to my shop and register for my Valentines day sex magic event as well; Essence of the sacred dance. When you register for this event you will learn; Sex magic techniques to increase pleasure, create more presence in the moment, manifest your desires through organisms, and strengthen your connection through timeless intimacy! Let me show you how something as simple as the right energy, intention, and breathing technique with your blowjobs can heal years of trauma for your partner even! Plus you will leave with an eBook full of sex magic spells you can do on your own and journal prompts to help unlock more of your sexual prowess, desires, and release blockages holding you back in bed.

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Birthday Sex Ignite Passion spell

A few weeks ago was my husbands birthday. Which means one of the ways we celebrated in my home like in many others, was with birthday sex! With me being a witch that means some magic comes with it, sex magic!
I love sex magic! I believe every witch should be using sex magic. I talk about it all the time. I work with it all the time.
It is even a central part to my marriage and relationship that is 13 years into it’s journey this lifetime around.


When you think of sex magic what do you think of? Love spells, break up spells, or obsession spells? While those kind of spells are apart of the sex magic world, sex magic is much more then just that. Sex magic can be a cornerstone to your sex life as a couple. Allowing for the two of you to be fully present with each in an energetic way that leads to immense pleasure.


Sex magic can be used as an energetic dance and balancing of energy between the two of you as you connect as two pure energetic souls. You can use your sex magic to increase that pleasure in your birthday sex celebration tonight and have it reach no heights. Use it to really let your partner know how much you appreciate them making it through another year of life with you. Use it to remove all the unwanted feelings and pain from the past year. While also having some kick ass massive orgasms’ in the process!

Use my ignite passion birthday sex spell below to do all of that!
Happy casting and wishing you many orgasms!

How to cast:

Grab a red candle and carve the birthday person’s DOB on it, so todays date! On the other side carve your name and their name on it. If you want to, next you can dress the candle in any oil or herbs connected to sex and passion. Or you can go and find a place you can be alone and quiet. Set your candle in front of you and light the candle. Look into the flame as you focus on the sensual movements in the flame focus on the passion between you being ignited and mirrored in the flame. Once you feel centered in that energy recite this spell.


“Lover come to me tonight. Lover let me celebrate your life. Lover come to me tonight. lover, Let my passion be a present you unwrap in pleasure on your birthday night.
Lover come to me tonight. Lover let me make you scream in pure delight. Lover come to me tonight. Let our passion ignite as I say happy birthday to you on your special night “


You can leave the candle burning if you are going to go and enjoy the affects of the spell right away or you can put it out and relight it once your celebration session begins.


Remember as you are having sex to focus on your energy and breath. Focus on the inhales putting your passion for your partners life into each one and on the exhales pulling out any unwanted energy from your partner.
Watch as they become more relaxed. Watch as the stress leaves them. Watch as your celebration of their life is ignited in a whole new way. Watch as both of your orgasms are full of so much more magic and ecstasy tonight.

If you want to learn more about sex magic and learn how to add it to your life you can check out my two part class on YouTube here. Don’t forget to head over to my shop and register for my Valentines day sex magic event as well; Essence of the sacred dance. When you register for this event you will learn; Sex magic techniques to increase pleasure, create more presence in the moment, manifest your desires through organisms, and strengthen your connection through timeless intimacy! Let me show you how something as simple as the right energy, intention, and breathing technique with your blowjobs can heal years of trauma for your partner even! Plus you will leave with an eBook full of sex magic spells you can do on your own and journal prompts to help unlock more of your sexual prowess, desires, and release blockages holding you back in bed.

If you have ever wanted to learn how to make sex apart of your magic and spiritual life this event is for you! We begin at 6:30pm CST- 8:30pm CST on Wednesday February 11th in google meet. To register for this event purchase today!

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Come join me for community, knowledge, and to restore the enchantment of magic in yourself and life today!

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Being a mom caused me to forget being a wife and caused lost connection in my marriage

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner I know many of us are thinking about love, romance, and our relationships. Especially, those of us in marriages or committed relationships/partnerships.

I know for me during this time of year our sex life usually sees an increase or a change in style and I end up reflecting a lot on what has been going on recently and the last year of my marriage.

For me this time of year is a romance/ relationship reset. I usually am so focused the month of January on New year goal setting and planning that is more focused on myself, my family as whole, and finances etc. With all the holidays focused on connection, romance and renewal this time of year for me it makes so much sense this happens.

This year was different than all the rest.

This past year in particular had been one of the most difficult and challenging years my husband and I have had in the 13 years we have been together.

And when I say difficult; we both had many moments where we for the first didn’t know if we would actually make it and stay together. There were more fights and tears in this one year than we had experienced in the entire 12 before this. The “D” word divorce was even said many times this past year in our home.

For many reasons this year was challenging; life struggles, mental health, still adjusting to no longer being just the two of us, and financial struggles.

But, the biggest reason our connection was just off.

We were miscommunicating all the time.

We both thought the other one was attacking the other one with our words often when the other one had no intention of doing so.

Our sex life had some hiccups and slowed down for the first time, not even having our son had done this.

We both were isolating ourselves from the other one when we could and we were no longer doing things together for connection and fun. We would do things in the same room or home but, not together.

Our fights and disagreements had gotten to the point we were now saying personal attacks towards each other and keeping a tally of rights and wrongs and nothing was ever getting fully discussed or worked thru.

We both felt like we weren’t being heard and that the other was not putting in effort to mend the repairs and move our relationship forward in a more positive direction and frankly for it just to survive.

And we wanted it to survive.

Our marriage and our connection with each other has and will always be something deeply sacred to us. And even though we both had thrown out in frustration and hurt thru tears that we should separate and maybe we weren’t meant for each other anymore and had grown apart.

We both wanted desperately to get to the core of what was going on and find the effective way to navigate it. I don’t know how many times we had conversations about what the issue was, how we were going to work on it together, and what we both needed. We would end up with us just hitting another wall and both of us in tears wondering how we could have gotten here again.

Than one day recently something happened that caused me to reflect.

My little family was playing around on our bed, cuddling, laughing, tickling and by the end of it I had ended up laying across my husband in a cuddling way almost draped on him. And the comment he made next both rocked me and caused me to have to go and reflect on so much.

He said he had forgotten what it felt like to have me laying on top of him like that and it felt unfamiliar now.

Like, I said I was rocked and taken back. I was also sad and bewildered that we had gotten so far disconnected from each other. My husband didn’t recognize a feeling that used to be a very common part of our lives.

I took those emotions and thoughts and really sat with them and reflected on what this really truly means and how it had effected us. And if this could be apart of why we were struggling so much with what felt like no progress.

What came to me was obvious and surprising I had missed it.

The first thing I realized was it was true and how had I missed it? We had not cuddled like that in so long. I could try and blame it on many things; like we are a family who co-sleeps and even at almost 3 years old our son is still in our bed every night. Or that for a year I was working overnights and not even in bed 4 nights a week.

But, as I kept reflecting I knew those things couldn’t be blamed for it because, we could have added it to part of our day at others times and didn’t. So, why didn’t we?

As I was still working on figuring that out, I started to wonder were there other simple things we were not doing anymore in our marriage? And if so, how was that affecting us and how did we let those little things slip away ?

I realized quickly there were other little things we either had stopped completely, or they were not happening as often as typical for us. And even at times there were things that would only happen if we were not fighting.

We were not kissing each other as often or long. Or saying I love you. And pet names weren’t happening as often.

And that helped me realize how we got disconnected.

Our pet names had become mom and dad since we had become parents. We heard those two names from one another more than anything else.

So, they had become solely who we were. We had become just mom and dad now. We were no longer individuals let alone husband and wife. And I knew that I really had disappeared into that part of my identity personally.

Being a mom had become my priority.

For so many moms especially first time moms this is something common to happen. You all of sudden have this tiny little human that is depending on you for absolutely everything.

You are in a state of mind of overwhelm all the time as you try and learn how to both care for your new child and learn who you actually are as a mother.

And let’s not forget the constant physical overstimulation. Which by the way wasn’t even part of my every day vocabulary until I was A mother.

On top of that I have abuse, neglect, and childhood trauma that colors every parenting decision I make especially right in the beginning. I was desperate to the point of it being paralyzing at times to be break generational patterns in my family. The mindset that I am who I am in spite of my parents and upbringing could definitely be used to describe myself and my parenting.

With all this combined, I had become solely focused on being a mom

To the point where I wouldn’t even leave my son. He is almost 3 now as I write this and to this day no one has baby sat him for more than one hour ( 1 time). It took me over a year and half to even leave him alone with his dad.

I spent all day long filling every single moment with learning, developing and creating a healthy attachment with my son and my husband as a family unit.

And I had completely lost sight of not only myself and this new version of myself but, I had lost sight of my role as a wife separate from being a family. And how important daily intentions and small little things helped foster that connection.

I had forgotten how we had been just the two of us for a decade prior.

Which made my husband feel like I was forgetting him on a daily basis. And if you feel forgotten how are you suppose to stay connected to one another?

So how was I going to let my husband know that he was not forgotten and how was I going to make that connection an intentional priority each day.

By kissing randomly, saying I love you just because, making physical contact randomly when you can like cuddling during tv, talking the time each day to check in with each other as partners and not at parents, and more.

Once I realized this what did I do?

I took what I had realized and I made it my main goal to be very intentional with creating those small moments of intentional connection with my husband completely separate from my son and as a family unit.

When he was sleeping in the morning while I was up, I would go in and kiss him periodically and whisper I love him so he could start his day in love and connection every morning when he woke up. I would also make sure to stop and kiss him for 30-60 seconds throughout the day to continue to foster that connection.

I was intentional with noticing when we were alone together and made the choice to be mindful and fully present to simply just be in same space with each other and in each other’s energies instead of going to do on of the many things my brain had on it’s to do list or to go check on my son.

At the end of the day, I started checking in with him to see if there was anything I could have done differently that day to foster connection between us or if there was anything he needed from me to do that.

The difference this made and how quickly suprised me!

Seriously, in about 4-6 weeks our communication started to improve and we were fighting less often. Not personally attacking each other and taking the time to hear each other an apologize when we needed to.

I had some big issues I was working thru with my husband that suddenly were easier to radically accept. ( I will leave the details for another article. )

Our sex life improved in so many ways and now looks so different in the most liberating and cosmic ways.

The feelings of isolation were less.

The feeling unheard and misunderstood by each other was being expressed less and less as well.

We had begun to feel like a team again and like this wasn’t possibly the end of our time together in this life.

The small moments and intentions had rekindled our connection.

They had given us exactly what we needed to reset our relationship and commit to be able to keep working through this patch of growth TOGEHER IN THE SAME DIRECTION!

Are we out of the patch completely? NO. Which is why we are committed to remembering we learned and making those small moments of intentional connection happen each and every day where we are just husband and wife and not mom and dad.

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Lupercalia and Valentine’s Day; how to celebrate both as a Pagan and/or Witch

It’s February the month all about love, romance, sex, and fertility and we have two major holidays that focus on that for us to celebrate. Most people know about one of them; Valentine’s Day but, do you know where that holiday originates from? Well, that would be Lupercalia, an Ancient Roman festival for fertility and purification. Some even call it the Pagan Valentine’s Day. So, if you don’t want to get sucked into all the commercialism and Christianized holiday plus have a lot more fun and pleasure, Lupercalia is definitely the holiday for you! In this post I will walk you thru both holidays and you can pick which one is more fun to celebrate this month for yourself.

So, What is Lupercalia?

Lupercalia is an ancient Roman festival of fertility and purification. It’s celebrated from February 14th to the 15th and predates Valentine’s Day by centuries! Every year, the ancient Romans would perform rituals and then throw parties all in the name of purification. To purify the city of Rome on this festival guaranteed a good crop, plenty of pregnant ladies, and overall good health and happy people for the whole city. As with most pagan holidays, No one is really sure how far back this Roman festival really goes, but some have traced it back to the 6th century BC. And others date it back to long before Rome was a power. But many agree that It is a Shepard’s festival that was brought to Rome by Romulus and Remus.

The legend of Romulus and Remus; the myth behind Lupercalia

The legend has it that the Roman king, King Amulius, orders his twin nephews to be killed because of their mother’s broken vow of celibacy. The king ordered for them to be thrown in the Tiber River. Instead of just being tossed in- they were placed safely in a basket by a servant. The river-god is said to have carried the basket down river where it got caught in the branches of a wild fig tree. The twins were rescued by a she-wolf who lived in a den at the base of Palatine Hill.

Later, the twins were adopted by a Shepard and his wife and they learned the shepherds’ trade. After killing their uncle- King Amulius, they found the den of the she-wolf that had raised them and whose name was Lupercal.   Lupercalia is the celebration to honor both the God and the she-wolf that raised them. In addition to being linked to the wolf, Lupercalia was a “breastfeeding” festival. Specifically representing the fertility tied to the founders of Rome – Romulus and Remus needed to survive when they were thrown into the river.

Who is the god Lupercus?

Lupercus, was an ancient Roman Italian divinity, who was worshipped by shepherds as the protector of their flocks against wolves, and at the same time as the promoter of the fertility among sheep. His sanctuary was the Lupercal, where she-wolf took care of Romulus and Remus. Lupercus is sometimes identified alongside the god Pan in Greek mythology.

So, how did they celebrate Lupercalia?

Ritual sacrifice was completed by the Roman’s to start off this festival. There was a sacrifice of a goat and a dog. The goat for fertility and the dog was most likely to honor the she-wolf. The Roman priests, called Luperci, would sacrifice the goat and the dog, smear the blood on the foreheads of 2 youths and as they wiped it away with a piece of milk-soaked wool, the youths were required to laugh. After the Ritual Sacrifice, came the feast. When the feasting was over, the skin of the goat would be cut into strips or thongs (called februa). The men would then run around naked, or nearly naked, whipping women with the thongs. A lot of women welcomed the lashes as they believed it to be a fertility consecration. Getting whipped was supposed to make you fertile, so the more whippings, the more fertile you were. It was even said by visitors from other cities that the women would “bare” their skin and welcome the whippings. This part of the ritual was also a symbolic gesture of purification of the men and a symbolic purification of the land. Later, during the Lupercalia festival, men would chose women’s names from a jar and would be coupled with them for the festival. Some sources reference this as the lottery of Lupercalia. This festival was all about fertility and sex so all sorts of debauchery happened. Sometimes, they would even stay together until the next year’s festival, or even get married. Over time, the sexuality of the festival was lost until it was fully clothed men whipping women’s hands. BORING!

How did Lupercalia become Valentine’s day?

Saint Valentine was said to be a priest named Valentine who was imprisoned and beheaded by Roman Emperor Claudius II for assisting persecuted Christians and secretly marrying Christian couples in love. He even tired converting Claudius to Christianity while he was imprisoned. He was beheaded on February 14, which later became known as Valentine’s Day.  I know you are thinking, okay so how does this become Valentine’s day, well we all know the Catholic church and it doesn’t matter how long it takes they find a reason to Christianize a holiday. Well, after the Catholic church declared Valentine a saint, a pope in 494 CE, Pope Gelasius I eliminated the pagan festival of Lupercalia. He decided that February 14 would be the day to celebrate Saint Valentine, who had become known as the patron of lovers because of the couples he had married. Plus the date they picked just so happened to fall in the middle of Lupercalia that they really needed to get rid of.

Magical themes of Lupercalia

Every season and every pagan holiday has certain concepts and magical themes. Which means, depending on your tradition and needs, you can weave one or more of these themes into your personal celebrations. This festival perform spells to harness the energies of fertility, purification, pleasure, lust, and prosperity. This is also a time to reflect on your relationships and future goals in regards to children. This festival is reminder to harness the fertility of spring awakening soon to bring you what you deeply desire. On Lupercalia, we see the following magical rituals and spells below as well. Remember these are just some of the themes and energies you can connect to and work with on Lupercalia.

  • fertility
  • purification
  • lust
  • prosperity
  • pleasure
  • good health
  • renewal
  • community
  • family
  • protection

Correspondences for Lupercalia

First, what is a correspondence? A correspondence is an item or symbol that is meant to connect you to a specific energy thru it’s representation. It is seen also as an item to respect, honor, and venerate that energy as well whether it be a deity, an archetype energy, the zodiac energy the moon is currently or for A holiday or sacred time like Lupercalia. I will list below for you to use. Remember this is not an all encompassing list and there may be other correspondences to use. Just follow your intuition and use what calls to you.

  • Planet-Jupiter
  • Animal-goat, wolf
  • symbol-phallic symbols, wolf, Romulus, Remus, roman empire
  • colors-White:, red
  • Herbs/flowers-rosemary and lavender
  • Stones/ crystals-carnelian and amethyst
  • Deities-Lupercus
  • Food/drinks- milk, goat meat

Correspondences for Valentine’s Day

Remember, what is a correspondence? A correspondence is an item or symbol that is meant to connect you to a specific energy thru it’s representation. It is seen also as an item to respect, honor, and venerate that energy as well whether it be a deity, an archetype energy, the zodiac energy the moon is currently or for A holiday or sacred time like Valentine’s day. I will list below for you to use. Remember this is not an all encompassing list and there may be other correspondences to use. Just follow your intuition and use what calls to you.

  • Symbols- Hearts, doves, birds, cupid
  • deities- Venus, Aphrodite, Eros, Dionysus, bachas, any deity of love, fertility and sex
  • herb/flowers- roses, lavender, basil, cinnamon
  • colors- pink, red, white
  • crystals/stones- rose quartz, garnet, ruby, green aventurine, red jasper, rhodochrosite
  • tools- candles
  • foods- strawberries, avocado, cherry, chocolate

How to celebrate Lupercalia

However you choose to work with the Lupercalia magic and energies make sure to follow your intuition where it leads you. Make sure you tap into the energies of fertility, renewal, purification, pleasure, and prosperity. In your everyday life, you can work with any affirmations, mantras, and visualization work for abundance, fertility, the coming spring, and community. Let’s take a look at some of the many different ways you can magically work with the energy of Lupercalia.

Cleansing & Purging
Lupercalia is in the month of February, and it was also called dies Februatus by the ancient Romans. Februatus translates to “purge”. Therefore, if you don’t want to celebrate the pagan Valentine’s Day with love-making and feasting, make it a day of cleansing and purging. Get rid of what no longer serves you in the physical realm. Including clutter in your space (think junky closets, pantries, fridge, etc.) and then cleanse the negative vibrations via smoke-cleansing. In addition, purging yourself of unwanted thoughts and harmful habits and cleansing your aura via a ritual bath or shower.

Feast on the Pagan Valentine’s Day!
Whether you have a love interest or not, Lupercalia is about celebrating what we have on this earthly plane. It’s the perfect day to throw a feast! Choose foods that are traditional Roman or Italian, red sauces, wine, and other red foods. Aphrodisiacs are appropriate if you are getting romantic with the meal including strawberries, oysters, chocolate, and dairy.

Drink Wine
The Romans were all about their wine. If you want to do Lupercalia right, you got to drink the wine. Red is best to represent love and passion. Be sure to make a toast to the ancient Romans and a fertile life before drinking the wine. Clink your glasses together to scare off the bad spirits lurking in the wine. Setting up an altar for the god of wine Dionysus or Bacchus is also appropriate whenever you have a feast with Roman influences behind it.

Fertility Rituals
Trying to conceive? Or maybe you have no desire for a baby at all. Either way, fertility isn’t just about conceiving children. It also relates to prosperity and growth of nearly any other goal in life: career success, your passions like art, etc. Lupercalia is a powerful day to do fertility spells and rituals of any kind! Some of my favorite fertility spells involve using eggs. Check out my guide here to read all about it and use some of them listed there.

Wear Red and White as a rebellion to Valentine’s day

Instead of wearing red and white to connect to valentines day you can wear it to connect to Lupercalia. You were red to represent the blood of sacrifice and the white of milk of the she wolf and goddess Rumina.

Creative Endeavors on Lupercalia
Since Lupercalia is a fertile time, creativity is given a boost in different aspects. Have you been waiting for the right time to start a new project? To learn a new skill? Engage in some sort of arts and crafts to celebrate Lupercalia and the inspiration will not flow short.

Have sex!
When in Rome, do as the Romans do. OR when it’s Lupercalia, do as the Romans do. And have sex! You can even add some sex and lust magic to spice it up a bit! I have quite a few sex magic spells on my Pinterest. Plus don’t forget to sign up and register for my Valentine’s day sex magic event to learn more about it all!

Other ways to work with Lupercalia

  • Create an altar for Lupercus
  • perform prosperity and abundance spells
  • work with the she wolf in meditations or shamanic journeys
  • work with awakening your kundalini energy
  • leave an offering of milk on your altar
  • add some whipping to your sex life in honor of the old rituals
  • create fertility amulets and charms
  • set intentions and plan SMART goals for the coming spring and planting season
  • share some time one on one with your loved one
  • plan for having a children in the future
  • mindfully spend time outdoors to connect to nature
  • dance
  • serve your community in a way that works best for you
  • Craft Lupercalia Cards
  • plant and start sowing seeds for the coming spring
  • bless your seeds
  • Donate to an animal shelter or spend time volunteering at your local humane society with the dogs there
  • Participate in a Community Cleanup
  • get creative and express yourself artistically

Magical themes of Valentines day

Every holiday has certain concepts and magical themes. Which means, depending on your tradition and needs, you can weave one or more of these themes into your personal celebrations. This holiday perform spells to harness the energies of love, romance, fertility, sex, and abundance. This is also a time to reflect on your relationships and future goals in regards to commitment and romance. This festival is a reminder to harness the potent energy our love and romance with others in our life can create. On Valentine’s Day, we see the following magical rituals and spells below as well. Remember these are just some of the themes and energies you can connect to and work with on Valentine’s day.

  • Romance
  • Fertility
  • Commitment
  • love
  • pleasure
  • sex
  • abundance
  • relationships
  • friendship
  • admiration
  • affection

How to celebrate Valentines day

However you choose to work with the Valentines day magic and energies make sure to follow your intuition where it leads you. Make sure you tap into the energies of fertility, love, sex, pleasure, and abundance. In your everyday life, you can work with any affirmations, mantras, and visualization work for abundance, fertility, the coming spring, love, and commitment. Let’s take a look at some of the many different ways you can magically work with the energy of Valentines Day.

Share a meal with your loved ones.

Valentine’s day is about connection to others whether it be romantic love, or your family. So, take this time to connect with them through a delicious meal and you can make sure to have fruits like strawberries, passion fruit, cherries and more to connect to the energy of love.

Create a self love altar or do a self love ritual.

Valentine’s day is all about the energy of love and connection and that doesn’t have to be to anyone else that can be all about yourself and increasing your love of self. You can use this as a reminder that you are worthy of love, worth celebrating, and create a sacred space to connect to yourself. To learn more about self love and how to maintain it through self care you can check out my guide here.

Do a beauty or glamor ritual.

This type of magic can help you feel more desirable, have a higher level of self confidence, and turn up your sexual passion with heightened self esteem and valentines day is a perfect time to cast this with the heightened connection to Aphrodite who is great to use during these type of workings

Love spells to attract or enhance your love life.

Since, Valentine’s is all about love, romance, and connection why not use this time to cast a love spell or do any type of love spell work like a spell jar or honey jar? This time will enhance any of these type of spells whether you are looking to attract to new love to your life or rekindle it in your current relationship.

Work with Deities Aphrodite or Venus.

With Valentine’s day being all about love and romance what better deities to work with on all fronts whether its self love or with a partner than Aphrodite and Venus? These two are known for beauty, love, fertility and more. You can connect to them through any attracting love spells, beauty spells, work with your partner, and adding offerings to them to your altar during this time.

Use sex magic to enhance your life or manifestation work.

Valentines is a great time to do sex magic with yourself or your partner. What are sex magic spells and lust spells? Sex spells are magical rituals ready to help you boost your sex life, creating a unique luxurious burning desire between you and your partner. These spells and rituals are a great tool if you feel any lack of confidence, any distance between you and your loved one but, most of all, to have the best sex of your life! They are also a great tool for manifestation but, I feel for this holiday focus on the fun this magic can add to your life! To learn more about sex magic you can check out my class on YouTube with DiviNation Academy here.

Other ways to work with Valentine’s day

To get 9 spells to make this Valentine’s Day enchanting and magical click here!

  • Cast friendship spells
  • make offerings to deities of love to strengthen your relationship
  • volunteering your time to your community
  • add some sigils for love, romance, and passion to your meals with kitchen magic
  • make a spell jar to sweeten up your love life or attract your ideal partner
  • Use flowers in your spells or leave them at your altar
  • write love letters
  • watch romantic movies
  • Wake up your kundalini energy with some dance
  • Tanta
  • Take a ritual bath together to promote love
  • create a simmer pot spell to promote a deepened commitment in your relationship
  • cast spells to attract your ideal partner
  • perform a commitment ceremony
  • do some knot magic
  • cast fertility spells

Lupercalia/ Valentines day Spell

Celebrate the season of love with a simple and effective Lupercalia or Valentine’s Day love spell! This spell is designed to help you attract, give thanks for, and honor your current and potential loves. Whether you’re looking for a spark in an existing relationship, or wanting to draw new love into your life, this ancient ritual will infuse all forms of attraction with passion and romance. Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, this is the perfect opportunity to manifest more love into your life. A little bit of magic can take us far – so why not cast this pleasant celebratory spell? You might just see some amazing results!

What you will need:

  • Cinnamon
  • Ginger
  • Damiana
  • Rose petals
  • Honey
  • Empty jar
  • Rose quartz
  • Amethyst
  • Fire safe bowl
  • Red candle
  • Mirror
  • Piece of paper
  • Red ink pen

How to perform spell:

  • Light the red candle and place it near the fire safe bowl.
  • Take the cinnamon, ginger, damiana, and rose petals and mix them in the bowl.
  • Hold the ingredients in your hands and feel the energy flowing through you. Visualize yourself surrounded by love and positivity.
  • Light the ingredients with the candle flame, and while they’re burning, write down your love intentions on the piece of paper with the red ink pen.
  • Take the jar and add the burning ingredients and honey to it.
  • Place the rose quartz and amethyst into the jar and seal it with the lid.
  • Hold the jar in front of the mirror and say the following incantation with conviction: “By the power of love and the energies of Lupercalia, I call upon the universe to bring love and positivity into my life.”
  • Put the jar in a safe place and let the spell work its magic.

Final thoughts

Whether you choose to celebrate Valentine’s day or Lupercalia or even both just remember these holidays are all about fertility, purification, sex, and love. To celebrate Lupercalia and Valentine’s day is to immerse oneself in the embrace of nature’s beauty and the magic of community. So, take the time to connect to those however fits into your path and don’t forget to have fun with it and enjoy it!

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