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Posted on February 4, 2025February 4, 2025 by Modepogdemystic

A week of spell jar spells

Spell jars! I love spell jars! They are some of my favorite types of spells to create and cast especially when I don’t have time to sit down and create a spell for the specific situation. Spell jars are versatile not only in the intention you can put behind them but, also in the ingredients you can put inside of them. Over the last year I have created soo many spell jars for all of you I have decided to take some of my favorite ones and put them together in a guide for you to use in one week to evolve your life in many different ways and areas.

First what is a spell jar?

Spell Jars are quite a piece of art if you ask me. It is an artistic magical bottle, made by a practicing witch and charged for a specific purpose. Spell jars are a form of ‘container magic,’ where the jar acts as a vessel to hold and amplify the energy of the ingredients. They are often kept in a sacred space or carried around for ongoing magical support. Spell jars can have numerous purposes: protective, attracting, banishing, and cursing. Depending on the ingredients, spell/intent and ritual, the jar can amplify your artistic and magical powers and skills. It can transform unwanted energy into wanted. Finally, they can be done to improve your financial or career situation and strengthen your health. To unseal more knowledge about spell jars; like the history, how to use them, and how to create them the most affective way grab my eBook all about it here!

Monday

Monday is connected to the moon. This connection makes it the perfect day to connect to our intuition, our emotions, and our psyche. With this day being connected to the moon it is also deeply connected to your divine feminine energy. To learn more about the magic that rules this day read my guide about it here.

Since, Monday is ruled by the moon which makes it a day all about connecting to our emotions and inner healing. Make this spell jar tonight to the healing emotional energy of the moon. This spell jar is ideal for those who need to heal emotional wounds and trauma by banishing the past, letting it go and providing you with fresh new beginnings to heal.

If you are like me and have ever had issues with going to sleep whether it be for mental health reasons, physical reasons or simply being wired that way. We all need sleep some time to recharge our batteries and let our brain and body get some rest. Check out this spell jar for sweet dreams to help you sleep peacefully the rest of the week. This is an extra potent day to make one of these as well since Monday is ruled by the moon the keeper of the dreamscape!

Tuesday

Tuesday is ruled by the planet mars which is oozing with passion, strength, and a will to fight. IT IS THE DAY TO IGNITE YOUR INNER FIRE. TO GATHER YOUR STRENGTH AND COURAGE TO HELP YOU FACE ANY CHALLENGE OR ADVISORY. USE THIS ENERGY TO HELP YOU PREPARE FOR ANY UNCOMFORTABLE SITUATION YOU MAY FIND YOURSELF IN. YOU CAN ALSO USE THIS ENERGY TO CONNECT TO YOUR PLEASURE, AND DESIRE OF ALL KINDS. To learn more about the magic that rules this day read my guide about it HERE!

Since, Tuesday is ruled by the planet Mars which is all about connecting to passion. That includes passion for ourselves. That passion leads to self confidence and personal power. We can use this passion for yourself the rest of the week to stand in our own power, to know our worth, and use our motivation to meet our goals. One spell we can do to harness this passion and personal power is creating a spell jar you can add to your altar or anywhere in your home.

Since Tuesday is a day about passion, tonight is a very potent night to amplify, enhance, and recharge your sex life with your partner! Check out this spell jar to enhance the passion between you and your partner tonight! Place it in your room near you bed, or wherever it is you like to have sex in your home! If you want to learn more about sex magic you can check out my class on YouTube with DiviNation Academy Here.

Wednesday

Wednesday is connected to the planet mercury. Which makes it a day centered around communication. All forms of communication from thought, speech, writing, networking, looking for information, divination, and communication thru art. This day also can be great to use for luck, good fortune, travel and wisdom. This day is the perfect day to network, to advertise for your business and to start working on some new ideas you want to get out into the world. If you love to study, write, and read today is the day to hunker down and get it all done! To learn more about the magic that rules this day read my guide about it HERE!

Check out this Focus study spell jar on Wednesday! Make this spell jar to help you study for a test or for a personal study and research session. Place this spell jar on your desk where you study or at your altar. This Jar is recommended to work for one topic or test and if possible try to create a week before the test!

With Wednesday being ruled by Mercury it is also a day all about health and wellness. Since, Mercury is associated with good health because, it governs communication, intellect, and the nervous system, which are considered crucial for overall well-being this is a great day to cast spells for health. Create this good health spell jar and place it on your altar, your bathroom or your kitchen to promote good health and well being in your life this week.

Thursday

Thursday is a day ruled by Jupiter, masculine energy and is all about the practical aspects of your life. This day is all about connecting to the energy of finances, legal matters, success, wealth and fame. This day is about big energy connecting you to the actions you need to take to meet your goal. This energy is all about thriving and is one of the best days and times to work the energy of abundance, prosperity, and wealth! To learn more about the magic that rules this day read my guide about it HERE.

Since, Thursday is a day ruled by Jupiter, masculine energy and is all about the practical aspects of your life. This day is all about connecting to the energy of finances, legal matters, success, wealth and fame. This day is about big energy connecting you to the actions you need to take to meet your goal. This energy is all about thriving and is one of the best days and times to work the energy of abundance, prosperity, and wealth! Make this abundance spell jar today to bring a major money flow to your life!

With Thursday being associated with Jupiter and all about the practical aspects of life it is deeply tied to our finances and financial matters don’t forget to make a spell jar for your business and business endeavors. I like to place mine in my office space where I work or near my prosperity bowl for my business. Don’t forget with this one to go back and charge it before you start work for the day, before you launch a new product, or when you feel like you just need a little boost in your money flow immediately.

Friday

Friday is the day connected to the planet Venus and is all about wrapping you up in the embrace and energy of love. This day is perfect for focusing on your love life in a romantic sense and your friendships this day is very social. This day connects you to your most powerful love of all, self love. The energy of this days invites you to retreat into warmth, love, and compassion at the end of the work week. Making it the perfect time to relax and recharge. Whether that is with self love altars, spells, rituals baths, or beauty and glamor magic do what is calling to you. Use the energy of Friday to connect you to all that love can open for you. To learn more about the magic that rules this day read my guide about it HERE!

Relationships will have ups and downs, it’s the natural rhythm of love, growth, and living together. From time to time we need a little extra help to reconnect to one another in a loving, healthy, and communicative way. Create this spell jar today to help kickstart the rekindling, and rebuilding of a loving relationship. To help anchor the both of you back into the core of your relationship; and the love you have for one another. This spell jar has ingredients to promote love, compassion, sex, clear communication, and to sweeten you up towards one another. For extra potency create this spell jar on a Friday night to connect to the energy of Venus and love!

Since Friday is connected to Venus and the energy of love it is one of the most potent days to soak in some self love! Check out this self love spell jar you can create today! Once created place it in a central room of your house to promote self love, in your bedroom, or on your altar.

Saturday

This day of the week got it’s name from the god of karma and time, Saturn and therefore is associated with this planet. This planet connects us to Capricorn as well. This day connects us to some very potent, protective, intuitive and intelligent energy. This day is great for all kinds of protection, meditation, self discipline, and expanding your wisdom. To learn more about the magic that rules this day read my guide about it HERE!

Saturday is ruled by the planet Saturn which makes a great day to do any spells associated with boundaries and protection! One type of spell you can do is a freezer spell. The freezer spell for enemies serves as a means of protection. Furthermore, a self-defense against individuals who may wish harm or ill-will upon you. Whether dealing with a personal rival, a workplace adversary, or even a malevolent force, this spell jar can help create a barrier between you and the unwanted they represent and bring into your life. By literally “putting them on ice,” you regain a sense of control and agency over your circumstances.

How to perform:
Get into sacred space. On a piece of paper, write the name of your enemy or a brief description of the situation you wish to freeze. Place the paper inside the container wrapped around one of the lemon halves, along with the basil, garlic, and pepper flakes. Visualize your desired outcome as you do so, focusing on the sense of liberation and protection you seek. Fill the container with water, covering the contents completely. As you do, envision the unwanted person or issue being sealed away and rendered powerless. visualize them or it being literally frozen in its tracks. Seal the container tightly and place it in the freezer. Come back to the spell once a week to charge it.
Happy Casting!

Ps. If you need to learn more about how to cast a freezer spell jar in general I do go over it more in depth in this blogpost.

Since Saturday is ruled by the planet Saturn it is dripping in energy all about protection and karma. Which makes today one of the most potent days to do any form of protection magic from warding, binding, cleansing, and banishing! Try out this spell jar to help banish unwanted energy from your life and home. Once this jar is created I like to place this one outside my front door. I at times have even made four more and placed them at the cardinal points of direction ( North, South, East, and West ) around my home. Otherwise you can also place it under our bed or at your altar. Ps. If you want to learn more about baneful magic, or protection magic follow the links to watch my classes on YouTube with DiviNation Academy.

Sunday

Sunday is all about the energy from the sun. The sun is the vital life energy. It is the representation and connection to your ego, identity and the dominates traits of your personality both your strengths and your weaknesses. Due to this Sunday becomes the perfect day to focus on who you truly are and harnessing the vital energy of life to actively shape your life to be the brightest shining success it can be. To learn more about the magic that rules this day read my guide about it HERE!

With Sunday being ruled by the planet of the Sun it is a day all about connecting us to the energy of joy, happiness, confidence, and self worth. Why not take the time to create this spell jar to attract joy to you, your life, and your home today to help you connect to the energy of this day and the vibrant and lively sun.

Sunday is a day full of energy and vitality, that can be all about prepping and planning for the week. so why not take that vitality and light and direct it inwards and too boost your self confidence today?! Self confidence is a super power once you start to believe in yourself the magic starts happening! Make this self confidence spell jar today!

Bonus spell jar

We all need protection in our lives from the energies that we come in contact with each and every day. But, empaths need to make sure they are protecting their energies a little more. They have a natural ability to take in and absorb the energies and emotions of others around them which can lead to overwhelm, feeling drained, and having a hard time deciphering the difference between your emotions and others. Try creating this spell jar to help protect yourself from others’ energies and emotions if your an empath for the week ahead. Place this jar on your altar or the room in your home you spend the most time in or are around others the most in. Don’t forget to go back and feed your spell jar as well!

DON’T FORGET TO GRAB MY eBook ALL ABOUT SPELL JARS TODAY!

Spell jars might look simple, but the magic they hold is powerful. And they’ve never been more popular in the world of magic and witchcraft. Spell jars have been a part of various spiritual practices for centuries. They serve as a powerful tool for manifesting intentions and desires. Whether you’re new to the world of spell jars or a seasoned practitioner, this eBook aims to provide you with a comprehensive understanding of what spell jars are, their types, ingredients, and their growing popularity.

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About Me : I have been a solitary grey magic practitioner for 15 + years. First and foremost, I consider myself a mystic and seeker of all knowledge. I am dedicated to the restoration, and re-enchantment of Magic in society, across this realm, and in each and every soul I come across in life! I am here to create a container that promotes healing, duality, and raw authenticity. I do this by guiding you on your personal journey to understanding your unique magic and sacred contracts. I facilitate this for you through embracing your shadow, duality and learning to live in energetic balance while not wearing a mask. When you work and learn from me you do so from your “darkness” as much as your “light” and in a way to truly harness and accept it not to just go thru it on the way to your light. But, I teach you how to truly embrace it, work with it, and use it alongside your light as a partner. I hold up a mirror for you to be able to see your authentic reflection looking back. Then have the courage to take the next step and do the uncomfortable but vital inner work to completely remove your mask. By facing all of your past wounds, traumas, and hurts. Allowing you to see both the dark and light within your story and take each chapter and alchemize it into something that is so powerful. your unique internal flame will shine so bright you will always be able to go within and find it on a dark cold night. You will learn how to truly live in duality and energetic balance to allow growth, and alignment with your sacred contracts and purposes. to finally move on and truly let the things that hold you back in this life from healing and manifesting go. To see everything I offer; like personalized shadow work sessions, womb healing, eBooks for you to work through on your own, Tarot sessions for guidance and more! Go to my shop!

Posted on February 4, 2024February 4, 2024 by Modepogdemystic

Marriage and/or a partnership aren’t meant to be equal or 50/50

I Know right away some of you have clicked on this to come at me with guns blazing ready to argue with me. To let me know how wrong I am, how young I am so how could I possibly know, and to tell me how I am anti feminist or in an unhealthy marriage.

I am going to tell you that you are wrong.

I am going to stick to the statement I made in this blog post title.

And I am going to ask that you hear me out. Read this until the very end and than tell me you don’t think and feel the same way.

My marriage and why you should even read this

I am going to get very personal in the post. I am going to talk about some deep things that have happened and are happening now in my marriage and how not viewing my marriage as 50/50 and equal is how we are still together today.

After meeting right out of high school at 18, getting engaged after only 6 months and moving i with each other, getting married after 4 years and now being together for 13 years ( married for 8) not having this 50/50 mindset is a key factor to us still being together today.

Unlike so many around us that have already divorced or will be soon. And we have outlived the national average for a marriage of 7-8 years and beat the statistics so far of meeting as teens and being too young to stay together.

It has not been all sunshine and rainbows and we more than understand ups and downs in marriages. How hard they can be to navigate, how you can get disconnected and/or grow apart or start to venture down different paths. We have been thru many things life has thrown our way and things we have done to hurt each other. But, all of that will be for later posts.

My marriage never would have survived being 50/50

What we are going to focus on in this post is this idea I keep seeing blowing up on social media; that marriages and/or partnerships if they are healthy are equal and/or 50/50. I get the appeal of thinking like that and I get the idea of how this is thought to be healthy.

But, man am I so thankful my marriage doesn’t function this way.

My marriage never would have made it this long if we had this mindset.

We would have been doomed from the start and set up for failure and I would not be who I am today as an individual nor would my husband if we had this 50/50 mindset.

With this mindset my husband should have left me a long time ago.

And let me tell you why.

What does this 50/50 mindset actually mean?

Like I touched on before I get the appeal of this mindset. I 10000% understand that equal share of responsibility, support, and dealing with life with your partner sounds like and feels like the most balanced way to go through life with a partner.

It seems fair. Let me tell you why it is not.

That isn’t the definition of fair.

Fair doesn’t mean equal like so many think it does. I myself was included in this until a therapist of mine taught me otherwise.

Fair means that something is impartial, just, and not achieving an advantage over another.

For something to be just is going to be subjective based on the people, places, and events involved and it will change and fluctuate all the time.

This fluctuating and subjectiveness is exactly why our goal and my goal is for things to be fair and not 50/50. It gives room for grace in your marriage/ partnership whereas the 50/50 mindset does not.

50/50 leaves no room for grace and support

Grace is critical to a marriage/ partnership. Both giving/ showing your spouse/partner grace and them being able to reciprocate for you when you need it.

And being in a 50/50 mindset leaves no room for grace to be in it.

50/50 means 50/50 no matter what at all times.

It means each person has their own weight to carry, their equal share of the responsibilities and its up to them to carry it so their spouse/ partner can carry theirs. It’s some peoples definition of teamwork.

With this rigid look on duties, responsibilities, and teamwork how could there be grace and true support when its needed? And without that how would you ever expect a relationship to last?

I can tell you with 100000% certainty my husband should have left me, my marriage should no longer be intact and I myself in all honesty may not have lived this long to give birth to my son, go thru therapy and treatment, hold my husband in grace now, and be writing this blog post now for you to be reading.

So, what is grace in a marriage/partnership?

I keep saying my marriage or any marriage won’t make it without grace in it which is why a 50/50 relationship doesn’t always set you up for success.

So, what is grace in a relationship?

Grace in a relationship allows for support. It allows goodwill to enter the marriage/ partnership.

It allows for one spouse/partner to be able to have bad day. It allows for give and take.

It allows for one partner to say ” my load is too heavy right now, I can’t carry it all. Is it okay if I don’t take this on right now? ” It allows for your partner or you to ask for help from the other and know you can get it.

It allows for you to be able to say you need support, to ask for it, and to receive it.

It allows for a partner to say ” hey I need you to carry 80% today I can only handle 20%.” and for the other partner to be willing and able to do that knowing that when the scales tip the other way the same amount of grace will be given to them.

It allows to truly build a team, a life, and marriage built on support.

How can not being 50/50 in a marriage look like in use and its impact

What does this look like in an actual marriage/ partnership? Let me tell you about its biggest impact on mine. How its kept us together and even me alive.

This mindset in our marriage really got put to the test shortly after I turned 25 so about 6 years ago, shortly after we got married and had been together for about 6 years at that point.

I had a quarter life crisis at the point, I completely broke to the point where I almost was or maybe should have been hospitalized. I couldn’t even leave my home, literally. If I tried I’d curl into a ball on the floor in front of my door shaking and crying in a panic attack.

It was my lowest point in my life.

I’ll have a blog post coming soon to dive really deep into that topic.

If we had the mindset of 50/50 and equal at this time my husband should have left for what happened next and the weight he carried for me and for the length of time he did it.

I lied to him about going to work, used all my time off, fmla etc, and had gotten fired.

I than spent the next three years in such a bad depression and having other mental health illnesses causing more instability, My husband was the only one who could work and we eventually ended up homeless because not even that could bring me back to carrying my own weight.

And thru it all my husband carried almost all my weight we were easily 80/20 or 90/10 no matter what he had going on because I simply couldn’t do it. I couldn’t carry a larger amount than that.

And he did so for over 3 years! Without resentment, without blame, and without pressure to push me back to carrying a larger amount of the weight. And doing so allowed me to have time for so much reflection, growth and therapy and I’m in a place we both never could have dreamed to be in.

That grace and willingness was possible because we both knew than and know now that every single day we take a look at it and see how much of the total weight we each are able to carry and in what areas.

It made it possible for me to hold him in the same space now as he goes through what I did and now it’s his turn to heal and grow while I carry most of the weight and hold him in grace and support.

Some days we are 60/40, some days 50/50, some days 80/20, and others 95/5.

Some days my husband carries more weight and others I do.

In some areas he takes on more and in others I do.

We both know that we are there to carry whatever the other needs us to in order for us to be a team truly, to grow together, and support each other when we need it, how we need it, for how long we need it for.

We both know we have a true partnership, and team and know how to truly give and take in a relationship, to be fair, and supportive of one another.

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